What would you think of this message from someone you slept with?

I must say, my instinct for immediately sniffing out threads where, when I do an advance search on the OP, I just know I am going to find no other posts under that name is really, really strong. Honestly, I am Olympic gold level at it. Hardly ever wrong.

Sadly I don't think that says much about me and my detective skills. I think it says rather a lot about how predictable and formulaic so many of the possibly not entirely genuine threads on MN have become in the last year or two.

Not that I am calling it on this thread, I have no comment on that. I couldn't possibly say. That's not allowed.

Well it's obviously a reference to you being on top and riding him with enthusiasm. Did you?

It's a bit of a cheesy joke but it's hardly offensive given that you have had sex with him. Assuming you had a great time and want to do it again, I find it odd that your instinct is to prudish and uncomfortable about it, rather than just laughing and take in in the spirit in which it was meant.

Take it as a compliment. You're overthinking it.

Agree

I swear some people are just looking for something to be offended by 😂 he said you were great in bed. YABU.

It's not a red flag - it might be that your sense of humour isn't compatible with his in the longer term, but I'd see how things go.

Sharing a sense of humour is important in a long term relationship, but you're barely past the starting post; I'd get a bit further round the course before unseating him!

Jesus when did everyone get so easily offended and up tight, he’s said nothing derogatory and nothing particularly crude either, they’ve had sex already it’s not like this is overstepping is it!
I wouldn’t laugh my head off at it but I wouldn’t take any offence either, would probably make me smile he clearly enjoyed himself and wants more

It's a joke. He enjoyed sex with you. There's not much more to it than that. I'd have responded, 'Does that make you a stallion? 😉'

But since you're posting here for advice, I have to wonder if you're really that into him.

It’s very Jilly Cooper

Well at least he compared you to the jockey and not a mare. That's the only positive thing about this gross comment.

It's a bit cringe but definitely not a deal breaker.

It’s seedy and immature.

A lack of shared sense of humour can be a problem. Because it's not something that can be changed. People find things funny or cringeworthy or they dont. So if it becomes a pattern that his jokes make you wince, he may nor be right for you.

It’s up to you if you find it crass and cheap then you might get the icky and that’s ok.

tbh it would give me the ick after so soon a relationship but everyone is different

Maybe he’s hoping you would reply .. “ well you were hung like a stallion and I can hardly sit down this morning “
It wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me if everything else was great but it’s a shit joke

I'd be signing all my texts off with Dobbin 😂

Well it’s crass but if he’s otherwise nice I’d overlook it, just a silly joke.

not seedy at all

Completely agree with this.

Playing dumb was either mean or a stupid attempt to act coy and innocent, after having had sex. Much like shutting the stable door after the horse had bolted, to keep with the equine theme.

Yes nice guy sex is horizontal with the lights off. The way most of MN likes it apparently.

Who passed the winning post first? It would have made me grin.

Indeed.

It’s an attempt at humour. It’s sex related so I suppose it’s inherently vulgar and juvenile, and it’s not massively funny, but I wouldn’t be ending an otherwise perfectly good dating situation because of one ill-conceived joke that didn’t land. Just tell him you didn’t like it.

I think you need to have a similar sense of humour though, and that joke was just total cringe. Almost like it's from one of those chat up lines books. Someone I can laugh with and that makes me laugh is up there in top 5 attributes I'd want in a partner but that joke just isn't funny, and it makes me wonder if hes one of those socially awkward people that constantly make crap jokes which would be the end of the road for me.

It was a silly joke, a bit juvenile but certainly not a red flag.

and honestly you were mean playing dumb and deliberately trying to embarrass him - that’s the real red flag.

Most texts referencing enjoying sex the night before would be slightly cringe - you’ve got to find your level with a new partner and I’d much rather a jokey compliment rather than a formal missive regarding my heaving bosom or some such other cringe.