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What would you think of this message from someone you slept with?

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Arsenal25 · 09/08/2026 21:27

5th date last night, ended up back at mine and had sex. Have really enjoyed his company and green flags galore up to that point so it felt natural. This morning, he text to say how much he enjoyed last night and wants to see me again (he suggested a date idea). I replied agreeing and discussing potential dates which work. He then referred to last night and said ‘shame its not Cheltenham racing this time of the year as you would be a great jockey’. I played dumb and asked what he meant, he said he was just joking. Is that an acceptable joke for you because it feels a bit seedy for my liking?! But I do think a lot of him from dates so far.

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GreenChameleon · 10/08/2026 14:09

mulberrymilk · 10/08/2026 13:49

I didn't say it was mortifying. I said that I would find it mortifying.

The OP said she found the message "seedy". Why don't you ask her about that.

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Seedy isn't such a strong word, and doesn't actually refer to the OP's feelings. Mortifying implies very strong feelings. It's sad if a woman feels mortified when a man makes a positive comment on her enjoyment of sex. What's wrong with enjoying sex, and what's wrong with making a positive comment, in private, on this enjoyment?

I agree with the PP that if this kind of comment is a deal breaker, then the OP is going to have a hard time finding a man who meets her standards.

BramStoner · 10/08/2026 14:05

Poor guy.

Original poster
Arsenal25 · 10/08/2026 13:58

Thanks all. I know it might be seen as me over reacting but I’m going to end it. I’ve got the ick from the comment.

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SuePer · 10/08/2026 13:53

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 10/08/2026 13:26

The poor man wanted to let you know he's interested in a stable relationship but it just came out all wrong!!

Maybe next time he can squeeze her breasts making little honking like Benny Hill? Or slap her arse and text her giddy up the next day?

It's no wonder there are so many failing relationships on mn when women choose losers rather than be alone.

DancingNotDrowning · 10/08/2026 13:51

SuePer · 10/08/2026 13:23

' A pg lovemaking session' are you the op's unfortunate dp?! Confused

Sex is great as is talking about it. Comparing it to horseriding is just odd and so very unsexy I'd be surprised if he ever got another go tbh.

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😂😂

it’s rather obvious and not at all odd that sex and horse riding are compared.

KatyKan · 10/08/2026 13:49

Not every woman gets it right the first time on top. Take your compliments from where you can. Especially as you have been playing hard to get for the first four dates.😉.

mulberrymilk · 10/08/2026 13:49

GreenChameleon · 10/08/2026 13:23

Why is it mortifying? Do you think it's shameful for a woman to enjoy sex, and therefore her enthusiasm must never ever be mentioned?

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I didn't say it was mortifying. I said that I would find it mortifying.

The OP said she found the message "seedy". Why don't you ask her about that.

GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 10/08/2026 13:45

I guess it just his way of saying you’re a top shagger. Bit cringe but not a capital offence imo.

outerspacepotato · 10/08/2026 13:44

If wit was the target, he fell short.

disturbia · 10/08/2026 13:33

Disturbia81 · 09/08/2026 21:31

He’s saying you were great in bed

When you were on top!!!

Viviennemary · 10/08/2026 13:32

Yuck he sounds awful. I wouldn't be seeing him again.

ElectricLegs · 10/08/2026 13:32

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 10/08/2026 13:26

The poor man wanted to let you know he's interested in a stable relationship but it just came out all wrong!!

Neigh. It's seen as the ;last straw on MN

Munchie1965 · 10/08/2026 13:30

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 10/08/2026 13:26

The poor man wanted to let you know he's interested in a stable relationship but it just came out all wrong!!

😂

Clarabell77 · 10/08/2026 13:30

NotAnotherScarf · 09/08/2026 23:23

What's he supposed to say "thanks for the fuck" yes its not great but " i had a wonderful time last night " seems a bit Barbara Cartland...

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Better saying nothing than that. Surely he’d have shown his appreciation at the time.

OutwiththeOutCrowd · 10/08/2026 13:26

The poor man wanted to let you know he's interested in a stable relationship but it just came out all wrong!!

ElectricLegs · 10/08/2026 13:24

Sherararara · 10/08/2026 07:31

Yes nice guy sex is horizontal with the lights off. The way most of MN likes it apparently.

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With the crimplene nightie hitched up just enough?

SuePer · 10/08/2026 13:23

WallyHilloughby · 10/08/2026 12:05

lol at the responses.
Honestly people see to think unless it’s a pg lovemaking session with a mills and boon style note saying ‘thank you fair maiden for last night’ the bloke is some kind of pervert

' A pg lovemaking session' are you the op's unfortunate dp?! Confused

Sex is great as is talking about it. Comparing it to horseriding is just odd and so very unsexy I'd be surprised if he ever got another go tbh.

GreenChameleon · 10/08/2026 13:23

mulberrymilk · 10/08/2026 11:14

This morning, he text to say how much he enjoyed last night and wants to see me again (he suggested a date idea).

I think that covers it. There is nothing affectionate or tender about commenting on OP's enthusiastic riding of his cock! I think it's mortifying.

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Why is it mortifying? Do you think it's shameful for a woman to enjoy sex, and therefore her enthusiasm must never ever be mentioned?

DancingNotDrowning · 10/08/2026 13:20

gannett · 10/08/2026 12:43

If I'm attracted to someone enough to ride his dick enthusiastically then it's not going to bother me if he then refers to that later.

Such a disproprotionate number of people on this site who think any reference to sex at all is "grim". I assume that what they find grim is sex itself, with all the bodily fluids and such. If not I wonder what complimentary wording about sex afterwards they'd actually enjoy.

Quite.

You rode him enthusiastically

He referred to the same

How can that be grim?

And I’ll stand by my previous comment that OP behaved far worse by feigning ignorance and asking him to explain. If a bloke did that we’d all be rightly stating he was trying to shame her and that it was a massive red flag.

username2185 · 10/08/2026 13:19

gannett · 10/08/2026 12:43

If I'm attracted to someone enough to ride his dick enthusiastically then it's not going to bother me if he then refers to that later.

Such a disproprotionate number of people on this site who think any reference to sex at all is "grim". I assume that what they find grim is sex itself, with all the bodily fluids and such. If not I wonder what complimentary wording about sex afterwards they'd actually enjoy.

They wouldn’t because they probably don’t have sex or it’s pencilled in the diary for once every quarter

username2185 · 10/08/2026 13:18

It’s a compliment, laugh it off

BramStoner · 10/08/2026 13:14

Honestly, it's not particularly my mode of expression but he's saying something nice- he had a great time, is keen to see you again and you're good in bed. There comes a point when you have to cut a chap a bit of slack and allow that they might sometimes express themselves in a different way to you and that's ok. If you go off a fellow for something as small as this then no one has a chance, because they're just human beings not mind readers.

I also think that, if a bloke came on here and complained about the equivalent the morning after sleeping with a woman for the first time, they would get the shortest of short shrift.

SnobblyBobbly · 10/08/2026 13:13

Yes, block him and everyone in future who makes an attempt at a joke that isn’t 100% to your humour. Sure fire way to find love and happiness 😆

Temporal · 10/08/2026 13:05

gannett · 10/08/2026 12:43

If I'm attracted to someone enough to ride his dick enthusiastically then it's not going to bother me if he then refers to that later.

Such a disproprotionate number of people on this site who think any reference to sex at all is "grim". I assume that what they find grim is sex itself, with all the bodily fluids and such. If not I wonder what complimentary wording about sex afterwards they'd actually enjoy.

I think this is the only site the Amish, Jehovah's Witnesses, and Mormons are allowed on by the looks of some of the replies to posts like this.

ConstitutionHill · 10/08/2026 13:02

Ha ha. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest and I actually like the analogy. It ties in with my username 🐎