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Upset DP didn’t get off train with me

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Trainissue · 09/08/2026 20:27

Long time lurker and finally had cause to post here myself.

I went to a nearby city with my DP yesterday where we had some drinks and dinner. We travelled by train and had planned to have a drink and watch some live music when we arrived home at the pub opposite the station.

I suffer from some stomach issues which unfortunately flared up on the way home. There was an announcement on boarding that the toilets were out of use (no idea why, people were not happy and were just told of complaints procedure).

About 20 minutes from home, I told DP I’d need to get off at the next station to use the loo to avoid an accident. He just said he was sure I could hold on. No chance, I said the trains are quite regular so we could catch the next one about 15 minutes later.

He said he’d go on to the pub and meet me there. So I got off on my own and waited for the next train. It was quite late, dark and lots of drunk people around so it was somewhat uncomfortable.

I did board the next train after about 20 minutes waiting but there’s no guarantee this wouldn’t have been late or cancelled. I really think DP should have got off with me.

YABU - he was right to stay on the train
YANBU - he should have gone with you

OP posts:
leonardandpenny18 · 09/08/2026 20:38

I definitely don’t agree with what he did.

However, you made out like it was only 15 mins for next train to suggest he was unreasonable but when you were by yourself, you said there was no guarantees it wouldn’t be cancelled or late? Both can’t be true.

Ace56 · 09/08/2026 20:37

Yeah, that’s out of order. I couldn’t think of anyone I wouldn’t get off the train with in that situation, whether a partner, family member, friend or even colleague. What a knob!

KilkennyCats · 09/08/2026 20:37

Loulou4022 · 09/08/2026 20:30

🚩🚩he’s a cockwomble! I’d have got on the next train and taken it straight home!!

Edited

Yes. Why did you follow him, op?!

leggingsbotoxmatcha · 09/08/2026 20:37

Erm, my husband is by NO means perfect but I’m confident he would never do this to me, OP. That’s not okay! You were spending the evening together, he obviously should have gotten off with you. What happened when you met him at the pub after?

KarenNextDoor · 09/08/2026 20:34

He prioritised alcohol over you (and your safety) op

MsRubee · 09/08/2026 20:34

He’s not even meeting the bare minimum of being allowed to be in a relationship with me. Dump him, he’s not a good guy.

Linetree · 09/08/2026 20:32

I'd have been quite comfortable doing the journey alone, but I would have expected him to stay with me, just as I'd have stayed with him.

gabsbrby · 09/08/2026 20:31

He is showing that he does not really care about you I’m sorry to say

Lmnop22 · 09/08/2026 20:31

He didn’t get off a train with his sick partner so she could use the toilet and then travel together at night when it would have meant a delay of 15 minutes?! What a prick!

Boredonafridaynight · 09/08/2026 20:31

I'd be absolutely furious with him for leaving you

Loulou4022 · 09/08/2026 20:30

🚩🚩he’s a cockwomble! I’d have got on the next train and taken it straight home!!

ThesecondLEM · 09/08/2026 20:29

he's not a keeper

TooFuckingHot · 09/08/2026 20:29

No way would my husband leave me. I’d be hurt if he did.

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