Upset DP didn’t get off train with me

I'm so sorry, OP. I have IBS and know a little about sudden digestive discomfort. My fiancé is incredibly supportive and wouldn't dream of not getting off the train with me. I don't know what to say other than he was incredibly insensitive and just not like the partner he should be.

I wouldn’t even let a friend of a friend get off a train alone and let’s be honest you had no choice what an arse

Appalling behaviour from him. You were travelling together, to the same place, and he left you behind without a second thought.

Definitely don't go hiking up a mountain with him! If you have an accident or walk slowly you'd be abandoned in the wilderness.

Sometimes men do something that makes you entirely reassess their trustworthiness and place in your life. This is one of those moments.

That’s just not kind. Most people even if with just a friend would get off with them. He’s your partner!
not good enough behaviour.

Surely it would be the norm in those circumstances to get off the train with whoever you were travelling with - a friend, family member, anyone. He doesn't like you much, does he? You deserve much better than this.

Is anyone else doing a Rachel from Friends ‘I got off the train’ thing in their head?

I’m very independent and very private and therefore can’t conceive of asking someone - anyone - to interrupt their journey so I could pooh.

I recognise that I am very much in the minority here though!

How long you been together.

He’s not caring at all.

Just like the confidence you have that he can live his life without you, then.

People get ill, he should have cared, not been a selfish dick.

I sat with my mum whilst she died. I'm confident she could have died without me. it's just bellendery. He's a twat.

I can't believe you actually went to meet him at the pub. He is showing you 'scraping the bottom of the barrel' levels of respect.

Myself and my ex / childs dad who is a very difficult man generally got off a train with me when I was feeling sick a few months ago coming back from a day trip - loos on that train were also not working. Our child was obviously there and wanted to go watch trains from a bridge and he insisted on standing outside the ladies loos because he thought it could be unsafe - this was around 9pm so not even that late. I am so sorry your DP left you - both feeling unwell and at a random train station!

He couldn't give less of a shit about you, huh? Condescension to top it off. Charmer.

It doesn't matter what we make of it. You want the sort of partner who gets off the train with you and he isn't it. So it's for you to decide if the compromise is one you want to make.

Bowel issues aren't super attractive and I think I would prefer to shit alone and in peace and catch up with him later.

YANBU

I'd have got off and waited in these circumstances with even a colleague after a work trip or something. Would never imagine leaving a close friend, relative and definitely not a spouse.

How long have you been together?
When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

Same! My husband said “what a DICK!”

Just read this to DH. Even he is gobsmacked.

Wow. Posts like this make me realise how bloody lucky I am! Not to rub salt in the wounds either. We were on a lovely lovely day out yesterday with lots of friends and my husband was drunk and having the best day with our friends and children etc. despite this, when I unexpectedly got a horrible onset of diarrhoea (not infectious cause) I told him and he immediately said right shall I pack up and let’s get you home! Even though he would have been gutted he never showed it and his first thought was me. We didn’t end up needing to go, but I felt reassured knowing it would never have been an issue if I’d needed to. You poor thing op, I hope he has lots of other lovely qualities and this is just a terrible blip. Xx

Yes, this! Of course you were capable but the whole point of going out together is to actually spend time with each other.

Not normal behaviour, what a dick.

It’s just a really odd thing to do. If I was travelling with someone I’d get off the train with them and we’d do the journey together. Friend, relative or partner. Why would he even want to go to the pub by himself, it’s really strange.

No this is not normal.
This is the behaviour of a man who couldn't care less about you.

I really hope this isn't all you think you deserve.
Definitely not someone to marry or have children with.

He certainly isn't in love with you, or even cares that much.

For your own sake, believe him.
He has shown you where you stand.

He should have gotten off with you. In my circle, you always stay together on an outing. Maybe not everyone if it's a large group, but we don't ever leave someone behind by themselves. Especially if they are not feeling well and it's late at night.

I’d get off the train of this relationship op. He’s a dick who has no care for you.

A one off i would get off of but I get tired when people make their illness all about them and yes are very dramatic about it, i would not have wanted dh waiting around would have preferred him at the pub then I wouldn't feel rushed and am a big girl can look after myself

And no he wouldn't have rushed me i would have felt it regardless

How uncaring. He’s a knob.