Upset DP didn’t get off train with me

I am a grown woman I dont need feel I need a chaperone everywhere I go even at night

I'd never choose a DP who did not care for my well being out late at night.

It is simply commonplace, down to earth language, and its intention is to prevent the OP from elevating her stomach problems to some higher level of required caregiving, and bring her back down to earth.

She is literally simply shitting, there is nothing anybody can do to help her, and it will get very old, very fast if her boyfriend is supposed to stand around outside random toilets while she has explosive diarrhoea every time they go out.

Gotta play the victim angle when required 😂

You are making a fair point, but by using coarse language it comes across as though you are trying to belittle the op.

Hes an absolute prick minimising the issue so if you continue to be upset you’re the one with the problem, making it into a big deal. I’m sorry but the fact it was at night when the pissheads are lurking about and leaving you on your own in those specific circumstances regarding your health - he doesn’t care about you. I’d end it.

The fact he won’t acknowledge your discomfort or that he did anything wrong makes me think it’s not a question of if he’ll let you down again, but when. Don’t give him the opportunity.

He obviously prioritised drink and not being bored over being considerate towards you 🥺 what a guy .

When people show you who they are believe them … a lesson I’ve had to learn many a time and wish I’d learned it earlier… this is who he is OP

Even an acquaintance would get off and wait with you

Never mind a 'd' p

what a prick!!!! I would have gone home. He definitely doesn’t care much about you or your safety.

My last mistake would've done this. I am avoiding further mistakes by being totally, utterly and unmistakably single.

As always when a bizarre proposition is introduced, I assume projection. Genuinely.

So anyway, how many times a week does boyfriend's life revolve around OP shitting. That's the important question.

This.

Have you for a fetish for the word shit?

Yes, she seems keen not to mention how much her boyfriend's life is expected to revolve around her need to shit.

No decent partner would do this to the other and that goes for women too.

Mysteriously, his stomach seemed to have few of these flare ups when we were home and loads when we were out and about!

He probably had just as many at home but how would you know. He would just go to the toilet at home and wouldn't inconvenience the family at all. Possibly you just noticed it on a long journey because there isn't always a toilet available.

I do agree with everything else you've said though. It would try the patience of most people if you can't go anywhere without having to revolve it around the toilet.

OP how often does your stomach flare up this way? I ask because my DH has stomach issues that would flare up frequently and, while I was sympathetic for years, it did grind me down after a while. Constantly having to make stops for the loo (when the children were asleep in the car) or get off trains or what have you. Mysteriously, his stomach seemed to have few of these flare ups when we were home and loads when we were out and about! It was hard to always stop and wait, and one couldn't help wondering if he realised the imposition it was to the family when this happened - we just had to grin and bear it. So I do have a bit of sympathy for your partner.

How long have you been with this prince?

He doesn’t sound like a very caring or thoughtful partner. My husband can be a bit brain dead sometimes but there is no way on this earth he would let me get off a train by myself at night whilst unwell/in a vulnerable toileting situation. I have some tummy issues too so I totally get it, it is the most awful feeling thinking you might not make it. Hope you were ok.

how long have you been with him? Is he always selfish / thoughtless?

I'd be absolutely raging in your shoes, OP. What an absolute uncaring shit.

Well I could be wrong I guess, but, as you say, it would be massively infantilising - like Mummy bringing baby's nappies.

So, is it a constant thing, couple of times a week occurence, that he has to rearrange his life around you shitting?

It's not your fault if so, but it's completely unfair to him to expect him to just tolerate this all the time. Every human being on the earth would get sick of this, over time. Everyone.

Whether he's just a normal person who's tired of having to rearrange his life around you shitting or a dickhead entirely depends on how often he is expected to rearrange his life around you shitting. Once a month, he's a dickhead, once or twice a week, you need to get over him staying on the train.

Wow, he doesn’t even like you. I would end it over this.

Fair enough. It's late and i'm tired and probably missed that.