Upset DP didn’t get off train with me

Jeezo. Op, I’m sad to read this. This is slang for, I don’t care about you. He doesn’t. He’s not a keeper.

@MyPlumHelperthat’s why she needed the support someone help her - she wasn’t going to stay on the train and have an accident - so he should have got off and helped her. Immodium has its own consequence for those with IBS.

I agree with everyone. If my DH needs to stop for any reason, then I stop too. If I need to stop for any reason then he stops too. I would do this with friends. Even with colleagues. I can't think how far down the social contact ladder a person would have to be for be not to do this with them.

Quite and there would be no way to know that.

Honestly if she is bad to the extent of soiling herself then she needs medication.

My local train station doesn't even have toilets 🤷

He wasn’t very nice. Why didn’t you actually say I want you to stay with me because sometimes people, even partners etc. Need you spell it out.
I only say this very I’m very independent and would normally go no don’t stay, but would then expect my DH to magically know when I do want him to stay.

Why for telling the truth? What could be have done? Wiped her arse for her she's capable of getting a train herself

i cant understand his unsupportive selfish behaviour.
Is he generally self centred and unsupportive?

So in other words, you were trying to be demeaning.

There are plenty of ways of making the point that the DP might get tired of the impact of her issues and that it isn't a medical emergency without being crude about her predicament.

I cant beleive she risked a random station. At my local station that is in London and has local, and mainline trains, trams and tubes, the toilets are often closed at night. There is no way to know if a stations toilets will be closed.

What on earth was she going to do if that was the case. Or better yet my friend takes immodium on a nigbt out to control her IBS.

He should have got off with you - I have IBS and I know how painful it is but also how bad it makes you feel when you just have to go, the pain, the sweating, I often feel faint too - I often say it’s like your body feels it has poison in it and it needs to immediately eject it. I feel for you OP as that was a stressful situation for you and he added to that stress. I’m sorry. My DH would never have left me on my own in that situation.

There's no way my husband wouldn't have also got off the train with me in this scenario. He's not much of a partner to you op, is this really good enough for you?

He is her partner and they were on a date. It's nothing to do with him being a chaperone- unless you think that's what he was doing the rest of the day?

He’s a fucking sarky bastard. Is he decent in other ways as otherwise he sounds like someone you’d be better off without?

I'm very much independant, I can do it, type of person, but DH would have insisted on getting off with me and ensuring I was ok.

What a prince...

You were potentially unwell and he chose to leave you on your own just so he could get to the pub early.

Get rid of him.

To me, that would feel like a punishment, as if he was punishing you for inconveniencing him by having a medical issue. Does he lack empathy in other ways?

That’s rubbish of him, my husband wouldn’t of let me get off in broad daylight alone and find my own way to him let alone in the night time

He was being selfish as he didn’t want to get off and wait for the next train.

in most relationships the adage you “never leave a man down” is what comes into play, im very confident my husband would have got off with me and I would with him too, we may have been a bit annoyed at the situation, inside our heads thinking ffs but not blaming the other, or saying anything, but we would have got off,

as said, he was simply being selfish.

So, he:

• Says you can hold on;
• Doesn’t get off the train;
• Leaves you to navigate the station with drunks around and feeling uncomfortable (whilst he’s in the pub);
• Makes a crass are you feeling lighter quip;
• When it’s brought up he comes out with a dismissive well he can trust you to navigate the toilet and station.

His behaviour is showing you what he really thinks of you OP.

He’s no catch and an oaf. Throw him back.

This.

I am sorry but you really cannot.see the difference between not getting off the train and being with the op in this particular circumstance compared to other circumstances?

Everyone talking about how, annoying it can be to deal with someone else's bowel problems, are missing the point. Of course it can be annoying if it happens a lot when you are trying to do things and get on with other stuff or taking children out etc.

BUT the op and her bf were on a date, just the two of them, the whole point of which is to spend spend time together to (re)connect to appreciate each other. If op does have bowel problems often and the bf is fed up and annoyed rather than enjoying the date, he may not be acting completely unreasonably but their relationship is in trouble nonetheless. If op doesn't often have stomach problems his behavior makes him an arsehole.

Either way, the op should seriously reconsider her relationship

What a fucking twat.

Whats your reaction to that OP? How are you feeling and have you expressed that to him?

Does he have a selfish disposition generally?

My partner would be probably be annoyed but he’d still get off the train with me. Have you confronted him about this? My partner often thinks nothing would ever happen to me that I don’t need protecting and stuff but given your circumstance and that it was late he should have really come with you.

Fck, I really miss the laugh emoji, so I can react in secret 🤭.