Upset DP didn’t get off train with me

That be cutting off her nose to spite her face.

Sat at home while he gets to go to the pub

I would have switched my phone off, gone straight home and let the selfish bastard sweat overnight!

I'd absolutely flame him. What a d.

What is he like otherwise? You say partner not husband so is he a new boyfriend or someone you have lived with for 10 years? This is very odd behavour. If recent boyfriend I would feel he wasn’t that interested in me and would probably end things

What I always find hilarious about mumsnetters is how they use this one (incomplete) story to decide that the husband does not care about the wife and defined their entire relationship 😂.

Yes, it happened. It is a bit annoying. But you probably know if this is his usual behaviour or not. We all slip up from time to time. This might have been his turn. I am sure you have slipped up in his eyes too at times. Life is too short for petty things like this. If he has been a good partner in other ways, tell him how you feel and move on. Mumsnetters will seek some crazy mental gymnastics to have you get a divorce 😂

What a nasty person you sound.

I have IBS and am severely gluten intolerant, I have severe athritis in my spine and knees, plus a heart condition I am not prepared to discuss with a nasty stranger, and a number of other less critical ailments - all of these are true things and anyone who believes I am lying is showing their own predilection to immediately lie which has nothing to do with me.

None of which I mentioned in my previous comments because, unlike you, I am capable of formulating an argument without getting making it all about me.

Not sure why the scare quotes, not a word I used and besides it is certainly inconvenient to have to stand around outside a shitter if someone demands it.

Unlike some, however, I accept that I just have to get on with life without being over entitled, demanding and precious and it is not in my nature to be an absolute pain in the arse (pun not intended) about the parts of my disabilities that nobody can help me with - such as wiping my own arse, or making them stand around outside a shitter waiting for me instead of them having a nice time.

If OP is inflicting her desire to have someone stand outside a shitter waiting for her every time they go out, she will soon wear out everyone's goodwill and this shows a severe lack of empathy, compassion and care on OPs part and a deep sense of entitlement and selfishness on OPs part.

Really, she shouldn't be expecting it at all, a normal, caring person would be happy tgat her boyfriend is healthy and want him to have a nice time, considering nothing he does can help her anyway and she is a grown adult who can catch a train on her own quite easily.

But, as I said, if it's once a month he could have been more considerate. If it's twice a week she will soon find herself avoided.

Learn to think before you flap your gums. And I do wish on just precisely what you deserve in life. Hint - it won't be good.

Enjoy.

Does this happen often to you? It would be annoying for your partner if you regularly had stomach issues that put a spanner in the works.and if it was something self inflicted eg eating something you know you may react badly to. This is the only reason that I can think of that a normal person would do this to a woman.

I’m so sorry that you’ve discovered his true colours OP, how horrible. I will say that, every so often, the universe opens a window, giving us a little more insight into our future. Last night, it cracked the window open just enough for you to see what this man is really like.

It’s up to you whether you do anything with this knowledge, but do be comforted by the thought that someone up there has your back and is giving you the chance to make a change.

Let us know when you've kicked him into touch.

He guts were upset by something she had recently eaten. Of course she felt unwell.

My H would have stayed with me - in fact even on our first date I’m sure he would have got off the train.
I would have got off the train with him too.
Selfish and uncaring sums up your partner - does he really really love you? That’s what I’d be wondering.

I don't have IBS but I would venture to say - from what I have heard - it can be similar to being unwell (as in diarrhoea)

She didnt feel unwell. She needed the toilet. Theres a difference

Id have not wanted someone getting off a train and waiting outside the loo if I had an upset stomach. Personally can't see the big deal

Thats really mean behaviour i wouldn't be happy with that.
Hope you're feeling better.

Les imagine you are on the train home with your friend perhaps your best friend. They feel unwell and need to get off. Would you get off too and make sure they are ok or stay on and go to the pub? I don’t know why we let men treat us in a way our friends wouldn’t.

Surely that's worse though? They are usually 15 minutes but could be delayed, but where was he going? Just to the pub, so he'd rather sit on his own in the pub than make sure his girlfriend was ok in case the train was delayed and she was on her own.

It does very much so if have IBS. You clearly don’t know what it’s like.

No need for the personal attack. My "name" is entirely meaningless and irrelevant. I offered my opinion. In my opinion, needing a poo doesn't make you "vulnerable". OP could have said "I'd really like if you stayed with me" but it doesn't seem like she did.

What a nasty person you sound. Let’s hope you never get an ‘inconvenient’ illness, shall we?

I voted YANBU because it is partner-like / companiable to adapt to someone’s needs if you are on a night out with them. And DH’s and DWs would normally stick together.

But as a woman who frequently travels on trains and buses on my own late at night I don’t buy into the ‘to protect you’ stuff, and I don’t think it is useful or empowering for women for male partners to think that women should not be on a train platform without male protection.

It was just not very friendly or empathetic to abandon you. And he shouldn’t have been telling you you could hold on, either.

Was there any imperative to be there at a planned time, to claim a booked table or something?

I think I'd have been fine but yeah, I'd have preferred if he'd have got off and waited for next train. But there's not much point catastrophising about the train being cancelled or a drunk person doing something horrible to you. Those things didn't happen and presumably you were fine?

I hope you explain to him that next time you'd like him to please get off the train with you.

He cares more about out his next pint than you.

Yes he should have got off the train with you .. however you’re also catastrophizing here - you told him the trains were quite regular and you could catch one about 15 mins later, you did indeed get one yourself after about 20 mins, yet you’re complaining that it could have been late or cancelled 🧐 So if you really were concerned that it could be late or cancelled, why not tell him that instead of telling him it would be fine as they’re regular? 😵‍💫

Shocking behaviour. So uncaring