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AIBU?

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To want my own space on holiday?

30 replies

FrederickTheFrog · 09/08/2026 19:02

I didn’t speak to my partner’s parents for 4 years, only in the past 6-12 months have we decided to put the past behind us and be civil etc, which I’m happy with.

My partner has booked a caravan for us to stay in (me, partner, his parents and our kids, and the dog) which I’m going along but the more I think about it the more I would like our own caravan as we would be either in the twin room or sofa bed - and I’d just like my own space for a night in case my IBS flares up/just to have my own ‘proper’ bed and breathing space on an evening. It’s £399 for another caravan which I’m happy to contribute.

DP says it’s just cos I don’t want to spend time with his parents etc, which isn’t the case! I’m just one of those people who needs their own space to decompress on an evening. I’d happily stay with them until midnight or whatever and just part to sleep then see them in the morning. AIBU?

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DaisyChain505 · 09/08/2026 19:34

I wouldn’t want to share a caravan with anyone that wasn’t my partner or child. I get social burn out pretty quickly and need my own space.

FrederickTheFrog · 09/08/2026 19:33

@Pinkissmart That’s exactly what I was wanting to do, get a caravan close by, on the same site. It’s not personal to them genuinely, I would want a break even if I was staying with my closest friends in that proximity for 3 nights!

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FrederickTheFrog · 09/08/2026 19:32

@UnNiddeRides My partner, it would come out of the family pot as I’m not working at the moment.

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UnNiddeRides · 09/08/2026 19:30

You would be happy to contribute to another caravan for £399? Who would pay the rest?

Pinkissmart · 09/08/2026 19:15

Can you get a caravan close by?
I think it’s an excellent idea if the relationship is still a but fragile. That way you can focus on having fun/ spending time doing normal things without having to be with them all the time.

I would extend some invitations or make some plans for group activities when you tell them