My brother was horrid to me last night

So what's the fallout that's going to affect you if your dad and brother have an argument? I'm wondering what the dynamics are that your dad having an argument with your brother will end up affecting you even though your brother doesn't live with you anymore. Because it may be that the issue isn't just your brother.

Cut him off- it is none of his business how you run your life, and his judgement is unwelcome- cut him off and if he complains tell him his judgement is unwelcome.

He dislikes you intensely, possibly hates you. That dislike has festered for years and turned him into a bullying asshole around you. That's why he's going after you and being verbally abusive. Stop setting yourself on fire to keep your parents warm. They should have corrected this bullying long ago.

You don't tolerate abuse. You think it's your role to keep the peace with an abusive asshole and there's no way to do that with someone who dislikes you so much.

Time to see what's going on and stand up for yourself. You will not be around him, he's been verbally abusive to you. He's nasty about every aspect of your life and time to tell your parents you are going no contact with him. If he comes over, you leave. No hi, no nothing. Your abusive bro doesn't exist. You're not his kick toy anymore.

Find a man? Loool! What, like the miserable flacid twat he is?

I cut my older sister off many years ago after many years of her shitty behaviour towards me.

Never regretted it.

Came on to say low contact and grey rock him. Also always have earphones in your pocket, so when he starts and you can put them in. Is he married?

He’s a bully. You don’t have to spend time with him if he can’t even be civil. There’s some lack or insecurity in his life that he is taking out on you to make himself feel better. You can limit your exposure to his negativity.

This.

My first thought was to suggest some clever comebacks, but brother doesn’t sound very clever so they would probably be lost and just create more fuel to argue over.

I think it is good that your parents know. Before Christmas make it clear to them that you don’t want to make it awkward, but if he starts his nonsense again (probably after drinking) then you will laugh and leave the room/go for a walk or something else. If he starts on you they might consider if to include him on their guest list.

He sounds like a prick. He is obviously an unhappy person. Time to take some distance from him.

Funny how no women disapprove of women travelling solo, isn't it. Some men just don't like it when we show we can do it without needing them.

Just do not bother with him any more. Minimal contact. When he comes to visit, you've got other plans. He sounds vile so do not give him another minute of your time.

Yes but you are implying that in order to not upset your parents, you do intend to continue having a relationship with him.

Is it likely that your brother felt 'abandoned' or pushed aside somehow by your dad when you were born?
Your brother sounds vile, and irrational, but I suspect he's stuck in a 'hurt child' mode. Not that that helps you in anyway, and I'd be tempted to either avoid him altogether or have some really good retorts to throw back at him as someone else has already suggested. Alternatively, just laugh in his face every time he says something outrageous.

Low contact is a perfectly good option too, and easier than no contact.
So you don't need to make a grand announcement that you won't be seeing him ever again. And you can still attend events like Christmas etc that he is also at without making it awkward, making your family feel as if they have to choose between who to invite. But just avoid seeing him in situations like you saw him today. Grey rock or just walk away if you are at a joint family.event and he starts on at you. Basically just mentally distanced yourself and stop expecting him to be nice because clearly he won't. Once you decide that then it's harder for their criticisms to get in your head.

I'd tell him to go fuck himself personally.

OP I’m sorry. It’s horrible to have a family member speak to you like this, especially when it’s someone who should have your back. Please know that his anger is from his own failings and insecurities, not yours, and his shitty behaviour is neither your fault nor your responsibility to deal with. Cut his negativity out of your life and keep thriving.

This is what I did about 2 years ago and I'm happy to keep it that way. Nothing will make him happy and he's just a nasty spiteful person.

He’s a cockwomble! Glad it sounds as though your dad has your back! I would avoid him as much as possible and only see him at family events

I mean, you could think up all sorts of witty comebacks. Or you could just tell him " Fuck off you bullying twat"

Would your Dad be OK with that do you think?

You clearly want to keep having a relationship with him OP.

He doesn't sound terribly intelligent.

What fallout? Surely after your Dad had thrown him out you'd just have a quiet house? Or does your Dad take out his stresses on you too, so the place would feel awful for days?