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not invited to SIL Hen Party

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Sosleepy66 · 09/08/2026 17:11

Aibu to feel upset about not being invited to Hen Party? My DH's brother (my BIL) got married recently. DH was invited to the Stag Party. I had no problem with him going to his brother's stag. It was the same day as the Hen Do and both parties merged in the evening. My DH was the only person not with their partner in the evening. I was not invited to any part of the Hen Party. I only found out by chance the next day. I do not get along with BIL, or his now wife, so I never expected to be invited to the Hen Party, but everyone in the evening was a couple except my DH. Would it have been respectful to invite me? I wouldn't have gone anyway, so why do I feel hurt?

We all went to the wedding, which was a very small event (as we're not a big family) but it was so awkward and very unpleasant, even DH and MIL agree.

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CrustyBread1977 · 09/08/2026 17:15

You don’t like her, you wouldn’t have gone anyway - don’t give this any more head space.

rubyslippers · 09/08/2026 17:14

Why would you want to go to the hen do when you don’t like her or BIL 🥴
does your DH get on with his brother ?

Sharedkeysonewhereelse · 09/08/2026 17:14

You don’t like her so why are you bothered?

nomas · 09/08/2026 17:14

YANBU. Usually I’d say the bride doesn’t have to invite in laws but if everyone else was coupled up on the hen and stag do then it was very thoughtless not to include you.

How many hens were there? Was her soon to be MIL there?