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Massive spider in lounge, shut the door and sealed with masking tape last night,now what?

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lightclock · 09/08/2026 13:20

What do I do now? Never enter the lounge again?

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millymollymoomoo · 09/08/2026 14:03

Why the hell do people kill spiders ! Just put them outside ffs

youdeserveit · 09/08/2026 14:03

ExOptimist · 09/08/2026 13:52

Grown adults being scared of spiders is just so embarrassingly pathetic. They are harmless, it's not like living somewhere where tarantulas are running round. Do you show your children this ridiculous behaviour? I really hope not.
Just pick it up with a tissue and put it out of the window for crying out loud. The most it could do is tickle you a bit.

Grown adults being so disparaging of a recognised phobia is just so embarrassingly pathetic.

Skippyasyermuni · 09/08/2026 14:05

millymollymoomoo · 09/08/2026 14:03

Why the hell do people kill spiders ! Just put them outside ffs

Putting an indoor spider outside will most likely end with it dying. Just leave them alone.

viques · 09/08/2026 14:06

There is a little jumping spider who keeps creeping back into my bathroom every time I put her out of the window. We are quite friendly now and she climbs on to the removing cardboard without me having to chase her around the shelf. But I have told her that if she doesn’t move lodgings of her own accord I will have to carry her downstairs and put her in the garden.

J19re · 09/08/2026 14:08

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hockityponktas · 09/08/2026 14:08

Oh all the people on here poo pooing a genuine phobia give your heads a wobble! Is there definitely something you’re not really genuinely afraid of that might seem a bit silly to others?

I would have to get someone else in to look for it I think OP.

Failing that the long hose on the Hoover, shoes on incase it comes near your feet. Honestly though it’s probably hiding now which is why I have a policy of not letting them out of my sight until ive dealt with it!

Devonlurker · 09/08/2026 14:08

I totally understand your fear, I am the same. I cannot deal with huge ones but have managed to make myself put the smaller ones out. Get yourself a 2m long ostrich feather duster from Amazon. That way you can stay well away from them while rotating the feathers to grab it and then flick the pole outside and it’ll fall off. It doesn’t hurt them at least. If you have to you can just throw the entire duster outside until someone can help you to flick it to make sure it’s gone.
Ignore the hurtful and rude comments on here. They should say nothing if they can’t be nice.

Friendlygingercat · 09/08/2026 14:09

Some people are just insanely scared of multi legged insects. Many years ago I was staying with friends in Morocco (1970s) when a big daddy-long-legs type insect got stuck in the back combing of my friends hair. She went hysterical. Her husband had to hold her in a bear hug while I fished out the insect and let it go. It must be very difficult living in tropical countries if you are scared of harmless flying insects.

InOverMyHead84 · 09/08/2026 14:09

The Spider owns the house now.

Hate when this happens.

Fillybuster · 09/08/2026 14:10

Napalm. Or nuke the whole street.

ForWiseRoseCat · 09/08/2026 14:10

I have arachnophobia so you have my sympathy.

Cats are great, I occasionally see my two huddled together and I know they've found a spider.

Failing that Henry the Hoover has a long enough tube that I can stand far enough away.

Living on my own means I have to get rid of them myself, at least my panic attacks have gone down slightly but I still end up all cold and clammy and hyperventilating, occasionally rocking backwards and forwards for 15 minutes afterwards if it's a real beast.

Ghostiescotchie · 09/08/2026 14:13

I sympathise , I’d just go in armed with the hoover attachment and suck it up. Keep the hoover on for a bit after to make sure it’s a gonner

ExpressCheckout · 09/08/2026 14:14

Vote Reform if you want your living room back. Vote Restore if you also want to kill the spider.

ZenNudist · 09/08/2026 14:15

If you put the place on rightmove just don't photo the spider room....

Dublassie · 09/08/2026 14:15

Why are some of you being so mean ? I thought everyone was scared of something . I am TERRIFIED of rats . And I mean terrified. Even typing the word makes my skin crawl.
So just because YOU are not afraid of spiders does not mean that others feel the same . So immature and egocentric not to be able to understand that others feel and see things differently to you . It's playground behaviour .

TravelMore · 09/08/2026 14:17

Move

Morepositivemum · 09/08/2026 14:18

What is huge? Spider from Home Alone, ring the bravest person you know. Large normal spider class and cardboard and take a deep breath and scream as much as you need to!!

TheFormidableMrsC · 09/08/2026 14:18

I’m spider phobic but had to get used to it as I find myself living alone and I can do it now with a few hot sweats and a lot of swearing. Kindly, it could be anywhere now, they are not trained to use doors. I’d either spray the skirtings with Raid that will kill it on contact or just wait for it to reappear and then hoover it up. Longer term you need a spider catcher device.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 09/08/2026 14:18

Friendlygingercat · 09/08/2026 14:09

Some people are just insanely scared of multi legged insects. Many years ago I was staying with friends in Morocco (1970s) when a big daddy-long-legs type insect got stuck in the back combing of my friends hair. She went hysterical. Her husband had to hold her in a bear hug while I fished out the insect and let it go. It must be very difficult living in tropical countries if you are scared of harmless flying insects.

Generally, they aren't. Arachnophobia (and similar reactions to insects, etc) are a feature of comfortable, Western lives.

Loopylalalou · 09/08/2026 14:19

Trumptontown · 09/08/2026 13:35

Rude. People can’t help having a phobia.

True, I’m not at all bothered by spiders but moths and to a lesser extent butterflies send me freaky, albeit maybe less so since being a parent. I know where the phobia comes from and it is about the dust on their wings getting onto me. Even writing that makes me feel sick.
Why you have a phobia and to what degree is an entirely person thing and shouldn’t be mocked or belittled. Feel lucky you’re not suffering.

keepincool · 09/08/2026 14:19

Aww, @lightclock , I get it. I used to be scared of catching spiders but, when she was little, my niece was even more scared of them than I was. Being the adult, I tried to show her they were harmless by catching them with a glass and bit of card and releasing them outside (mainly to stop the hysterics and screaming). I've worked my way up from catching small spiders to catching big ones. Someone once told me it was unlucky to kill a spider, not that I'd want to kill one anyway.

I see fewer spiders since getting a cat - and thanks to him I'm fairly adept at catching and releasing the 'gifts' he used to bring me (he no longer hunts).

DN is now 36 and still screams when she sees a spider. I bought her one of these types of plug one Christmas and she said it seemed to work -

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0H9QTYTFV/ref=sspa_mw_detail_0

jellyfish798 · 09/08/2026 14:19

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Bullying, rage baiting troll! Leave her alone she has a phobia.

PigglyWigglyOhYeah · 09/08/2026 14:20

Ghostiescotchie · 09/08/2026 14:13

I sympathise , I’d just go in armed with the hoover attachment and suck it up. Keep the hoover on for a bit after to make sure it’s a gonner

This is what I do. I use the long attachment and, if possible, get a child to press the button on the hoover when I’m within range, so I just concentrate on the spider, not on technical doings.

TheFormidableMrsC · 09/08/2026 14:21

Dublassie · 09/08/2026 14:15

Why are some of you being so mean ? I thought everyone was scared of something . I am TERRIFIED of rats . And I mean terrified. Even typing the word makes my skin crawl.
So just because YOU are not afraid of spiders does not mean that others feel the same . So immature and egocentric not to be able to understand that others feel and see things differently to you . It's playground behaviour .

I agree, it’s such a bloody horrible phobia. I’m leaving the skinny spiders around at the moment because they eat the big ones. Somehow I’m not very scared of those. If you’re not phobic and love spiders, then you really can’t be helpful to somebody who is paralysed with fear!

TheFormidableMrsC · 09/08/2026 14:22

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