Aibu to send my son to school in non uniform

Could you post on face book for your area asking if anyone is selling second hand blazer and jumper for that school in size x? I bet they would give them to you. I’ve gifted lots of uniform to strangers on fb and to pe kits to the school.

Go in on Thursday 20th which is GCSE results day - that gives you more time to sort something out than if you leave it until the INSET day.

You ideally need one more pair of trousers, one more shirt, two jumpers, blazer and tie, PE kit, school shoes and bag. The coat can wait until October.

Have you been in any class WhatsApp groups? Posting there might help - some of the families might have got outgrown uniform from older siblings, , or might know where to find secondhand uniform.

In my area there is a charity that offers all the local school uniforms second hand or some new items. The school will also have items available. Not wearing a uniform will single your son out.

Do you feel better after posting this? Did it help quell your righteous indignation? Berating a woman who's managed to get herself and her kids out of an abusive situation but has been left with some psychological battle scars that are currently limiting her capacity to work.

Better hope karma doesn't come knocking, hon. It usually finds a way.

Retired teacher here. Our school would most definitely support you with uniform, shoes etc. Please get in touch with them next week so they can help kit him out before school starts. Staff will be in for A level and GCSE results day so I'm sure someone will be able to help. Sounds like you are doing a grand job x

You have not failed at all! The school will be able to help you, but it might just be closer to the start of term.

Contact whoever is in charge of year 7 pastoral support - in our school there is a head of year, but your school might be different. The info should be available on the website. They’ll hopefully be able to get in touch with you in the days before school starts, or even next week when results days starts. They’ll be able to provide the necessary things or support you to get them.

Also for those saying no one will be in, no one will be checking emails - this isn't true!

In this day and age a lot of us have our emails on our phones. The Head of Year will certainly be checking emails over the holiday - particularly Head of Year 7, as they will have a lot of anxious parents with questions and all sorts of pastoral things to sort out for the incoming year group.

The school office will also be staffed. Over the summer, schools get a huge amount of building and maintenance work done and there needs to be someone on site. Teachers will also be dropping in at various points to sort out classrooms or do bits and bobs of work - it's not as if everyone disappears and the doors are locked and you can't get access to anyone for the entire summer!

@FastMintSheep, please contact the school and be honest. The PTA used to run 2nd hand uniform sales and the organisers kept back blazers and other key essentials for families in need. They are likely to be able to help.

2nd hand coat, supermarket shoes.

Have you asked his old primary school for any help? I don't know if they already know you and your situation but they might be able to get hold of someone at the school or know other organisations that can help.

I have been around a long time but I live in hope. Gone are the days when humour was a thing to lighten dark situations. These days people are nasty for the sake of it because no one knows who they are.

He will get picked on. I got send to secondary in a boys blue blazer when I should have had a girls black one. My life was hell til I left the school in y8. Don't do it to your kiddo.

I would contact the school again shortly before the term starts. I think they will help. Asking on local FB groups is also a good idea.

Go in on results day. There will be office staff in.

Please don't send your son in incorrect uniform for his first day at his new school. Even if the school are understanding and he doesn't get into trouble for it, he will stick out like a sore thumb. That would be hard for any child, but extra hard for a child with severe social anxiety.

• Ask the school about uniform
• Look at second hand uniform banks in the area, we have a big one that does all the schools in the area
• Ask on FB (try to find a school parents group) about second hand uniform

I'd also ask the school, or local church, if they could help with stationery. He'll need a calculator and pens etc so it's worth asking as those small costs really add up!

Really NOT helpful . But then you were just trying to be mean weren’t you? Does putting other people down make you feel better about yourself?

You’re full of compassion. There’s plenty of time to get sorted out for schools in England.

Piffle. My husband was incapacitated by it. Lucky you haven't had to witness this in a loved one. It isn't being a bit nervous or a bit sad.

I’m guessing the shoes are plain black no logo? I think as long as you stick with this then get them as cheap as you can, then focus on the tie, blazer and PE kit. As others have said, there will be someone in the school from around mid-August, and look on local facebook groups. You may find somewhere in your local community that does uniform swaps (where people can hand in those outgrown and they will sell them on cheaply).

Coat can wait a few weeks. Also, can you just buy the school badge to sew onto a plain (cheaper) sweater/blazer? Some schools do this. If they have to wear a blazer, then you won’t need a sweater as well for the first week in September. At DS school blazers weren’t compulsory, but I think they tend to be now at most schools.

Not sure whether it has already been mentioned, but there will be staff in school this Thursday morning and next Thursday morning for A-Level and GCSE results days, so maybe you could pop in then to speak to someone.

Agree , he won't need a winter coat either at the start of September.
I wonder if the LEA can offer advise too if you get no reply from the school.
But whatever you do don't send him without a uniform.