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AIBU to judge passengers complaining about grounded flights on 9/11?

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doosesmarket · 08/08/2026 21:19

I’m watching an old Airline UK episode and it’s from 9/11. The way people were behaving at not being able to get on their flights blows my mind. I keep trying to think well they hadn’t processed 9/11 the way we have now, but realistically they’d all seen screens of the news and watched 2 planes smash into the towers and the towers collapse full of people.

Surely you’d have enough understanding of the need to ground flights and change security measures even then?

I know it was 25 years ago but AIBU to hope those people demanding/shouting at the staff/the entitlement that they need to get to Benidorm that day because ‘we’re not in America’ were ashamed when they seen themselves on the telly and how they acted during the most horrific terrorist attack any of us have ever lived during?

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HundredMilesAnHour · 09/08/2026 09:52

LizandDerekGoals · 08/08/2026 23:21

What is the difference? It was on tv. It was on the radio. It was constant news. People going about their business would have seen it and heard it.

But most working people didn’t have access to TV or radio during the day when they were working so the majority were in a bubble until they get home and/or picked up the evening newspaper on their way home. Things were very different back then.

I worked in an investment bank so in my area we had constant news showing on TV screens plus Bloomberg etc but that was a long way from the norm for many people.

I had worked in NYC for a while and a close friend of mine (who I met when I was working there) worked literally across the street from the WTC. We often used to go for drinks after work in the bar at top of one of the towers. When the someone at work in London said about the first plane, everyone at my work was WTF that can’t be true?! So I actually rang my friend at her work in NYC and she answered. She was relatively relaxed about it saying ‘oh they think says it’s a commuter plane’ and then in the background security started evacuating her office and everyone, including her, sounded as confused as hell and she had to go. That was minutes before the second plane hit. After that the reality of what had happened and was still happening started coming out but phone lines in NYC were down and it was more than 24 hours later that I found out she had survived.

KingscoteStaff · 09/08/2026 09:46

I had just gone on maternity leave with DS and was lying on the sofa balancing a plate of toast on my massive bump when DH phoned me (landline? Nokia?) to tell me to switch the telly on. Lay there thinking - what sort of a world am I bringing this little one into? So very self centred.

notimagain · 09/08/2026 09:41

Clydebuilt · 09/08/2026 09:38

No, I watched it happening in the afternoon here, morning in NY…I rang my sister to put the news on…

Yep, there was unfortunately plenty of live footage of the second hit on the WTC,.not just on rolling news either, some of the US East coast breakfast time TV programmes carried it.

TY78910 · 09/08/2026 09:40

You need to take those programmes with a pinch of salt. They would have asked specific questions to set them up to be answered in that way and edited the responses. It doesn’t mean that everyone had this attitude.

Re security measures - well of course events shape the way we change processes. Nobody can ever anticipate a unique event like this.

Clydebuilt · 09/08/2026 09:38

PinkTonic · 09/08/2026 08:20

there was little immediate footage. It was hours before there was a shot if the first plane hitting the tower. It was the next day before there was film of the second plane

That’s not true actually. My neighbour rang me to put Sky news on as it was happening. We saw the second plane hit in real time.

In terms of the grounding of flights, initially nobody knew whether there were other attacks planned. I certainly wouldn’t have wanted to get on a plane.

No, I watched it happening in the afternoon here, morning in NY…I rang my sister to put the news on…

notimagain · 09/08/2026 09:37

@hahabahbag

. I must admit it does seem disproportionate now to ground domestic flights from London to Scotland because something happened in the USA

True with hindsight but there were at least two reasons:

The UK security apparatus possibly went with "you can't be too careful,.let's take time to analyse this"..

The other reason for definite (and this is mentioned in the ATC Blog I posted upthread) - is that the UK air traffic controllers were suddenly faced with a wave of dozens, (plus plus) aircraft returning to the UK/Europe from the west having done an about turn over the Atlantic - a lot of that traffic, especially to/from the US West coast routes through the airspace over western Scotland.

Also aircraft in UK airspace coming out of Europe wanted to do a U turn before even getting anywhere near the Atlantic.

The UK controllers had to free up capacity/airspace and cancelling flights not already airborne was one solution.

GalaDinner · 09/08/2026 09:37

ColdAsAWitches · 08/08/2026 23:22

You've seen the footage so often that you've forgotten that that's not how it happened at the time - there was little immediate footage. It was hours before there was a shot if the first plane hitting the tower. It was the next day before there was film of the second plane. People weren't getting live updates in their phones. It was much more chaotic. People can be forgiven for not understanding the seriousness of what had occured.

There's a fascinating study in the US where they ask the same survivors of 9/11 of their memories of the day, every year. There are now huge differences between what they 'remember' now and what they initially saw. They have obviously seen the footage and now remember things they never saw, things are out of order, they saw things happen in places they had never been. It shows how fragile memories actually are as we get further from the events.

This is not accurate. I actually watched the second plane fly into the tower live as it happened. I happened quite by chance to have the television on in the afternoon at home as I wanted to check something. The first plane had already gone in, and the news cameras were there. Prior to the second plane flying in, there was massive confusion and shock, and the belief that it was some terrible accident. The second the second plane hit the tower, there was no doubt that it was a deliberate terrorist attack. That was the moment the world changed.

I remember walking the village to school to collect my daughter that afternoon, and imagining the buildings collapsing around my head. Suddenly the world was a very scary place.

Clydebuilt · 09/08/2026 09:36

DeftGoldHedgehog · 09/08/2026 08:17

It was early afternoon in the UK as the first plane hit at 8.15am in New York. We had a late lunch on the training course I was doing for work and during that time we heard about the first plane hitting. We heard about the second plane and it sunk in that it was deliberate during the afternoon session. We carried on, I went home on the bus and watched it on the news at home. It was later in the afternoon by then, but it had only just happened in NYC.

That’s right, around 2ish…unbelievable scenes.

Malinia · 09/08/2026 09:23

I remember thinking it for some kind of hoax. I watched it on TV at work and I genuinely didn't think it was really happening. It took till the next day for it to sink in as all the coverage came in.

We didn't have mobile phones in the same way back then we didn't have internet access at our fingertips or the social media we only had the TV.

And honestly we'd never experienced anything like it so it just didn't seem like it was really happening.

kingarthurt · 09/08/2026 09:20

A lot of people tying themselves in knots to try and defend other persons behaviour. Sometimes people are just absolute arseholes. If you watch other episodes of this show you will see it’s far more common than not for people to act like this. These people were not lacking in information, not 12 hours later certainly, let’s just accept they were self centred pricks. A lot of people are.

hahabahbag · 09/08/2026 09:19

If anyone wants to see a positive story on this check out the musical Come from Away, such a feel good piece considering the tragic circumstances

parkintrouble · 09/08/2026 09:18

hahabahbag · 09/08/2026 09:16

Remember people didn’t have mobile internet then wouldn’t necessarily have known more than one or two headlines they had been passed on by airline staff. I must admit it does seem disproportionate now to ground domestic flights from London to Scotland because something happened in the USA - horrific situation there but our security was already so much stricter due to the Lockerbie bombing and Northern Ireland “troubles” etc. European flights within Europe or east looking back should not have been fully cancelled though the clear bags for hand luggage makes sense initially

But at the time everyone was very worried London would be next.

parkintrouble · 09/08/2026 09:18

JustToBeMe · 09/08/2026 07:47

They did have mobile phones back then.
I brought my first mobile phone in 1996/7 as I was working away from home and wanted to keep in touch with my parents and my parents with me, as my grandparents were elderly…
It was either a Motorola or a Nokia can’t remember which.

Sorry I didn't say what I mean to say, I meant didn't have mobile phones with the internet on!
Yes I had a little Nokkia and could get text messages and pay snakes but noone had a phone where they could go online and see news in real time

hahabahbag · 09/08/2026 09:16

Remember people didn’t have mobile internet then wouldn’t necessarily have known more than one or two headlines they had been passed on by airline staff. I must admit it does seem disproportionate now to ground domestic flights from London to Scotland because something happened in the USA - horrific situation there but our security was already so much stricter due to the Lockerbie bombing and Northern Ireland “troubles” etc. European flights within Europe or east looking back should not have been fully cancelled though the clear bags for hand luggage makes sense initially

notimagain · 09/08/2026 09:10

@NeedToKnow101

We were grounded for about 6-8hours and passengers weren’t told why or where we were. I don’t think the crew knew why either until shortly before we could get off the plane I don't think the crew knew why either

From what I've heard the crews had a general idea that US Airspace was closed for securiry reasons whilst in flight. More info got round via radio conversations between flights as shortwave news broaddcast got picked up or companies started to contact crews direct.
After landing the crew would have got the specifics (either by listening to generally news on their short wave receivers, talking to their airline operations or just by discussion with ground staff...)

The big unknown for a while was "what next" and there was a hope maybe some flights could just get a quick refuel and then hop off to somewhere more hospitable that could accept them or even head back for Europe...that's one reason why not much was said to passengers initially.

Of course as you experienced the authorities eventually said "nothing moves" and a lot of eople went nowhere for a few days.

itsgettingweird · 09/08/2026 09:05

NeedToKnow101 · 09/08/2026 08:54

I was on a flight to Mexico City with my mum when it happened. We were grounded for about 6-8hours and passengers weren’t told why or where we were. I don’t think the crew knew why either until shortly before we could get off the plane. Everyone was mainly quiet apart from complaining about being hungry.

We found out we had been rerouted to Newfoundland, as were many other transatlantic flights. We were taken to a school hall which was set up with 100s of camp beds and given a pack of toothbrush and toothpaste etc as we only had hand luggage. They fed us for the days we were there. The locals were as shocked as us and were very kind to us. The school let us email or phone home to let worried family and friends know we were ok. There were big screens up showing the news constantly. I think we were there for 3 days. There was a Wal-Mart to buy underwear from.

These passengers landed in Tenerife!

Got 24-48 hrs AI in a 5* hotel!

OK, no one actually knew what was happening next and I can understand the anxiety around that but compared to many they got a good deal!

NeedToKnow101 · 09/08/2026 08:54

itsgettingweird · 08/08/2026 22:02

I’ve written about this before on MN.

I worked abroad during 9/11. Watched a plane hit on the news and then
Knew we’d be called for an emergency meeting.

We were and went to the airport to meet a whole load of planes headed for Mexico that were grounded in the country.

Most people were understanding and gracious (many honey Mooners) and took their 5* hotel and waited for information about what would happen next.

I woman was walking through the hotel complaining that she didn’t have any underwear for the following day and only had the thing she was wearing.

There were shops literally over the road!

More importantly there were people falling and leaping from 2 burning buildings halfway around the world.

Luckily a number of people gave her some home truths because professionally we werent allowed to!

Edited

I was on a flight to Mexico City with my mum when it happened. We were grounded for about 6-8hours and passengers weren’t told why or where we were. I don’t think the crew knew why either until shortly before we could get off the plane. Everyone was mainly quiet apart from complaining about being hungry.

We found out we had been rerouted to Newfoundland, as were many other transatlantic flights. We were taken to a school hall which was set up with 100s of camp beds and given a pack of toothbrush and toothpaste etc as we only had hand luggage. They fed us for the days we were there. The locals were as shocked as us and were very kind to us. The school let us email or phone home to let worried family and friends know we were ok. There were big screens up showing the news constantly. I think we were there for 3 days. There was a Wal-Mart to buy underwear from.

notimagain · 09/08/2026 08:32

PinkTonic · 09/08/2026 08:20

there was little immediate footage. It was hours before there was a shot if the first plane hitting the tower. It was the next day before there was film of the second plane

That’s not true actually. My neighbour rang me to put Sky news on as it was happening. We saw the second plane hit in real time.

In terms of the grounding of flights, initially nobody knew whether there were other attacks planned. I certainly wouldn’t have wanted to get on a plane.

In terms of the grounding of flights, initially nobody knew whether there were other attacks planned.

...and according to some involved there was certainly concern/thoughts for a short while amongst those in ATC management that UK airspace might be closed...

I wasn't in the UK on the day but I can certainly understand why some flights didn't depart and why there would have been a lack of definite information that could be passed on to passengers.

nats.aero/blog/2021/09/the-ocean-is-now-effectively-closed-remembering-of-9-11/

BeardofHagrid · 09/08/2026 08:23

British people are funny when it comes to holidays. God forbid anything should get in the way of them 😳

Sartre · 09/08/2026 08:22

People whinge when someone kills themselves on a train line so the train can’t go and it’s going to make them late for work. It’s just human nature to not want to be inconvenienced, however selfish that may be.

PinkTonic · 09/08/2026 08:20

ColdAsAWitches · 08/08/2026 23:22

You've seen the footage so often that you've forgotten that that's not how it happened at the time - there was little immediate footage. It was hours before there was a shot if the first plane hitting the tower. It was the next day before there was film of the second plane. People weren't getting live updates in their phones. It was much more chaotic. People can be forgiven for not understanding the seriousness of what had occured.

There's a fascinating study in the US where they ask the same survivors of 9/11 of their memories of the day, every year. There are now huge differences between what they 'remember' now and what they initially saw. They have obviously seen the footage and now remember things they never saw, things are out of order, they saw things happen in places they had never been. It shows how fragile memories actually are as we get further from the events.

there was little immediate footage. It was hours before there was a shot if the first plane hitting the tower. It was the next day before there was film of the second plane

That’s not true actually. My neighbour rang me to put Sky news on as it was happening. We saw the second plane hit in real time.

In terms of the grounding of flights, initially nobody knew whether there were other attacks planned. I certainly wouldn’t have wanted to get on a plane.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 09/08/2026 08:17

Clydebuilt · 09/08/2026 08:00

Same here..I had the day off work, sat down with coffee and turned on the tv, which happened to be on a news channel, which I hadn’t realised at the time and thought I was watching a film! It was just in time to see the second tower being hit!

It was early afternoon in the UK as the first plane hit at 8.15am in New York. We had a late lunch on the training course I was doing for work and during that time we heard about the first plane hitting. We heard about the second plane and it sunk in that it was deliberate during the afternoon session. We carried on, I went home on the bus and watched it on the news at home. It was later in the afternoon by then, but it had only just happened in NYC.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 09/08/2026 08:10

I had just started my first Proper Job in London and we didn't know if London was going to be attacked that day. It felt like a Sliding Doors moment between life before and after, as 2020 did more recently. But with hindsight, once the enormity begins to sink in. It was the true end of the 1990s hedonistic optimism and reality dawning.

Thismoment · 09/08/2026 08:07

My husband worked for an American company in the uk so had been alerted by colleagues to switch the tv on. We didn’t even know what the twin towers were and rarely had the tv on in the day.

LlynTegid · 09/08/2026 08:05

In 2001 there were very few if any so-called low cost airlines in Europe. The notion of a weekend away via easyJet or Ryanair for say a hen or stag do was not commonplace. Many people I expect only flew once a year for their annual holiday in Spain or Greece.

A lack of understanding of flight schedules etc is no surprise.