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Do you think that schools are okay?

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applejane11 · 08/08/2026 20:36

When I was in school, I remember absolutely hating school. I like learning. What I hated was the constant feeling of being in a prison, having no freedom. Having to sit for 7 hours a day and not speak. Having no say at all in most things. Constantly being controlled. I remember every morning, feeling dread when I woke up to go in.

I now actually work in a school in an admin position. Ive worked in lots of different companies. Now im in a school. I hear the teenagers say the same things all the time. They hate it, they feel like they are in prison, that it is awful, that they feel depressed every day, that all their young life is wasted. I also have to say, I definitely see school teachers abuse their power over the students. Not in a way that you could say is definitely abuse, but just in a way where you can see that they are really loving having power and control over the teenagers.

Do you think that schools are okay the way that they are? Teenagers don't have a lot of say in things or a lot of human rights, so it's adults that need to have the conversation about it.

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applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:13

ZeroMotivationWithTeens · 09/08/2026 01:13

It is very region specific

If it's region specific, then how did she guess my region wrong.

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ZeroMotivationWithTeens · 09/08/2026 01:13

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:11

They probably do? It's not specific to one region. I'm not Northern.

It is very region specific

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:12

boblady · 09/08/2026 01:08

That’s not quite true. You did say somewhere along the way, that teenagers are not children.

Go back and read your posts, as you’ve suggested others should do before joining the ‘pointless’ discussion.

I never wrote that anyone under 18 in not legally a child. I wrote that the students in my school (all teenagers ) are never referred to as children.

Here is a snip from online.

Legal vs. Developmental Terms
While everyone under 18 is legally a child, society uses different words based on age and context: 1, 2, 3]

  • Infants and Toddlers: Young children from birth up to age 3.
  • Children: Broadly anyone under 18, but often used specifically for ages 3 to 12.

A Child's Legal Rights

https://www.ceopeducation.co.uk/professionals/guidance/childrens-rights/

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applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:11

boblady · 09/08/2026 01:09

Think Northerners say this?

They probably do? It's not specific to one region. I'm not Northern.

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bridgetreilly · 09/08/2026 01:11

No. Fundamentally, they are not okay. They are underfunded, overly bureaucratic, massively bad for mental health, too focussed on exams and not enough on actual education for its own sake. They are too big, too complex, too impersonal. Most kids survive, a few really thrive, and a handful don’t make it at all. But they aren’t okay.

ZeroMotivationWithTeens · 09/08/2026 01:10

boblady · 09/08/2026 01:09

Think Northerners say this?

Only those from the north east

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:10

InOverMyHead84 · 09/08/2026 01:09

"A wild animal, when cornered, may suddenly and desperately defend itself"

suddenly?

You've a short memory. I've been defending myself from your insults since the start.

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boblady · 09/08/2026 01:09

ZeroMotivationWithTeens · 09/08/2026 01:07

..pet

Think Northerners say this?

InOverMyHead84 · 09/08/2026 01:09

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"A wild animal, when cornered, may suddenly and desperately defend itself"

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:08

ZeroMotivationWithTeens · 09/08/2026 01:06

Your responses are immature, petulant and disingenuous

Aren't you the one what wrote 'there should be a dummy throwing competition on mumsnet'

That was really mature!

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boblady · 09/08/2026 01:08

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:02

Show me where I wrote that 'I don't know anyone under 18 is legally a child'.

What I DID actually write pet was the above post that you quoted. I wrote that I have never once heard the teenagers in my school being referred to as children. Which is true. They are always referred to as students or teenagers.

That’s not quite true. You did say somewhere along the way, that teenagers are not children.

Go back and read your posts, as you’ve suggested others should do before joining the ‘pointless’ discussion.

ZeroMotivationWithTeens · 09/08/2026 01:07

..pet

ZeroMotivationWithTeens · 09/08/2026 01:06

Your responses are immature, petulant and disingenuous

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:06

InOverMyHead84 · 09/08/2026 01:04

Bless you.

Keep attacking, it's your only defence.

Edited

Like how you do it, you mean?

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applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:06

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InOverMyHead84 · 09/08/2026 01:04

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:04

oh look here's the other bully back to get another dig in. You are a shame to your profession

Bless you.

Keep attacking, it's your only defence.

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:04

InOverMyHead84 · 09/08/2026 01:02

Careful, you are abusing them. ;)

oh look here's the other bully back to get another dig in. You are a shame to your profession

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applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:03

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Great. Yet another rude, abusive person on the thread. This thread is surely attracting them. It's saying a lot about teachers

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InOverMyHead84 · 09/08/2026 01:02

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Careful, you are abusing them. ;)

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 01:02

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Show me where I wrote that 'I don't know anyone under 18 is legally a child'.

What I DID actually write pet was the above post that you quoted. I wrote that I have never once heard the teenagers in my school being referred to as children. Which is true. They are always referred to as students or teenagers.

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JemimaTiggywinkles · 09/08/2026 01:00

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ZeroMotivationWithTeens · 09/08/2026 00:58

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 00:56

No, you have been.

Really? How?

applejane11 · 09/08/2026 00:58

All you do in insult over and over. Let me go back and find a post where someone is not insulting me

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applejane11 · 09/08/2026 00:57

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If you and the other one are the state of teachers in schools, it's not looking good...

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