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Aibu whose in the wrong double parking

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AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 15:59

Just got a new car, bigger than my old car. I struggled to reverse off my drive in my old car as my neighbours park directly opposite my driveway (no dropped curb but it's obvious they are in the way.)
Decided last night while getting used to said car to park on the road outside my drive, all good neighbours weren't home and I assumed they would have common sense to not double park and just park along slightly.
No... they double parked directly opposite mine. Cars were still getting through okay.

Just had a very angry woman screaming at me saying I am blocking the road. I told her I parked there first and that it was the neighbours who have double parked and to knock on their door to move which she just screamed at me.

Am I wrong for parking outside my house when their car wasn't there? They also have a drive but don't use it!

OP posts:
kingarthurt · 08/08/2026 18:25

AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 17:15

Yeah that's fine I don't mind others using the spot if they have a blue badge but none of my neighbours are disabled so won't be an issue for now. Completely forgot it was Sunday tomorrow- I blame the school holidays!

None of my neighbours know I’m disabled. None of my neighbours have ever seen my blue badge, unless of course they follow me about.

AnnaQuayRules · 08/08/2026 18:20

If you don't have a dropped kerb then it's not a driveway.

bearbeatcheesesticks · 08/08/2026 18:18

AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 16:30

Well it's only me who parks on my drive so that makes zero sense.

But you don't have a drive.

BerryTwister · 08/08/2026 18:09

I’m baffled at the lack of dropped kerb. How do you get on to your “drive” OP? Is it a very low kerb? I’d knacker my tyres if I regularly drove up a kerb.

Awkwardisfunny · 08/08/2026 18:05

AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 16:09

Yes, it's fine around here. I cannot reverse onto driveway as the neighbours park in such a way that I just can't get onto it backwards! They are literally making it impossible for me to use my drive right now but as it has no dropped curb I can't say anything.

It's never fine to park on pavements, just some people do it and don't get ticketed.

BirthdayTrash · 08/08/2026 18:01

That’s not what double parking means.

AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 17:59

Nope, they keep it clear unless I've said it's okay to park there if they have extra guests and ask or workmen believe it or not I am not a precious about it!
I am actually a very good driver no tickets or crashes in all the years I've driven. I think I'm just to paranoid about bumping opposites car but after today I no longer care going to park on drive tomorrow when I'm feeling better. Just need to practice that's all. Always the way with a new car sure I'm not the only one who gets a bit nervous with new things!

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Happyjoe · 08/08/2026 17:53

AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 16:01

Just to add I was mainly parked on the pavement, they were parked fully on the road.

Mainly parked on pavement? Nah, you're not good! Otherwise you were parked up first, the other car were the numpties.

Passaggressfedup · 08/08/2026 17:52

Oops, kerb 😁

Passaggressfedup · 08/08/2026 17:51

You are 100% in the wrong. If there are dropped curve, you are not allowed to go over the pavement to park your car in your driveway, end off.

As for saying you can't reverse where you're not allowed to because of your neighbours who park properly, that's laughable. If there enough space for a car to drive through on the road, there's enough space to reverse on your drive. It sounds that you are just not a good driver.

As whether they were on the wrong parking in their normal spot, it depends what side other cars were parked. If there isn't enough space for a fire lorry to pass, the cars should all be parked on the same one side only. If you were the only one on your side , you were wrong.

Marmaladeisorange · 08/08/2026 17:40

I don't think you're in the wrong. Out of curiosity does anyone ever block you in or park outside your house as you don't have a dropped kerb?

Restlessdreams1994 · 08/08/2026 17:40

It’s a KERB not a curb. Curb is a verb meaning to limit or restrain, not a noun.

Where I am, disabled spaces outside houses are discretionary so the council won’t ticket anyone else for parking in them, so it might not solve OP’s problem anyway.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 08/08/2026 17:31

igelkott2026 · 08/08/2026 17:04

That must be a very specific set-up. For most people the shape of the car and width is not so different that if you park in a certain direction you will find it difficult to get out.

In 99% of cases, people should reverse in and drive out (the same applies to car parks though it can be a bit difficult unloading a lot of shopping bags into the boot if it's against a wall so you need to leave room)

It's a shared drive, so neighbours have to reverse in and drive out so the house side is not on the driver's side for them if they do that, and the driver can get out. It's a quiet cul de sac though not a busy main road.

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · 08/08/2026 17:30

AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 17:21

They wouldn't be able to as it would be illegally obstructing the road if there was a disabled bay there. They would be the ones in the wrong not me. I do need one in all honesty I use a roller and a wheelchair at times and I won't lie that's why I drive onto my drive as reversing onto it makes it difficult for me to transfer to the drivers seat. I have far more room driving onto. Joys of being disabled I guess.

Well given that you do not have a drive because without a dropped kerb it isn't a drive, you would be perfectly reasonable to apply to the council for a space on the road outside your house to be designated a Blue Badge space.

FairKoala · 08/08/2026 17:26

endofthelinefinally · 08/08/2026 16:06

Are you allowed to park on the pavement? We would get ticketed for that here. It sounds as if your road is pretty narrow. Generally you shouldn't reverse into a road from a driveway. Is it not possible to reverse onto your drive?

Around where I live the parking spots marked by white lined box are part on the pavement and part on the road.

Hohumbrumbrum · 08/08/2026 17:26

Mischance · 08/08/2026 17:21

Parking on the pavement, even partially, is illegal. It is also a problem for people with visual impairment (who often learn a route and need pavements to be clear), those in wheelchairs and people pushing prams.

Maybe a bit of reversing into drive practice is called for! - good luck.

For most of the UK it's not illegal.

DistantEarlyWarning · 08/08/2026 17:22

timtamsarebetterthanpenguins · 08/08/2026 16:26

You shouldn't be blocking your drive or parking on the pavement. YABU.

She hasn’t got a drive really, because she hasn’t got a dropped kerb. Parking partly on the pavement is legal in most places, and she wasn’t blocking the pavement from use.

Therefore, she parked perfectly legally. The neighbours are in the wrong.

Mischance · 08/08/2026 17:21

Parking on the pavement, even partially, is illegal. It is also a problem for people with visual impairment (who often learn a route and need pavements to be clear), those in wheelchairs and people pushing prams.

Maybe a bit of reversing into drive practice is called for! - good luck.

AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 17:21

Likeiloveyou · 08/08/2026 17:11

I’m not sure a disabled bays would help here would it? Do you think your neighbours would still park opposite you OP if you had a disabled bay outside your house?

They wouldn't be able to as it would be illegally obstructing the road if there was a disabled bay there. They would be the ones in the wrong not me. I do need one in all honesty I use a roller and a wheelchair at times and I won't lie that's why I drive onto my drive as reversing onto it makes it difficult for me to transfer to the drivers seat. I have far more room driving onto. Joys of being disabled I guess.

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AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 17:15

kingarthurt · 08/08/2026 17:12

Probably closed in the morning. Have a look at the website though as it’s all handled online here, I’m guessing most councils will be the same. Also, be aware that if your neighbours have a Blue Badge they will be able to park in the nice disabled bay.

Yeah that's fine I don't mind others using the spot if they have a blue badge but none of my neighbours are disabled so won't be an issue for now. Completely forgot it was Sunday tomorrow- I blame the school holidays!

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 08/08/2026 17:13

Voice0fReason · 08/08/2026 17:04

It's a driveway that can't be blocked by a parked car.
If there's no dropped kerb, someone can park on the road and block you from getting your car out.
If there is a dropped kerb it's illegal to block it.

Also one that has been re-inforced which is why it costs so much . Otherise the damage is done to pipes underground being driven over ,
Cars ar getting bigger and heavier too .

Hohumbrumbrum · 08/08/2026 17:13

Poppinpoppinpopcorn · 08/08/2026 16:58

Exactly. This leads to falls which can be fatal for the elderly. Car drivers think of no one but themselves.

Of the 12 cars parked in my (wide pavements) road, 11 are parked partially on the pavement. The one that doesn't, sticks out, and whilst the road is wide enough that it's not blocking traffic, it does just out comparatively and is much more likely to get bashed, or a distracted cyclist drive into it.

It's the only place I've ever parked up on the curb btw, and if prefer not to. But local parking etiquette is a thing, and one reason why blanket rules don't always work.

kingarthurt · 08/08/2026 17:12

AutisticMumOf2 · 08/08/2026 17:09

Yes that's my plan. Will ring the council in the morning and see if they'll do it I fit all the criteria for one and would happily pay the £200 for a quiet life. Neighbours clearly aren't going to be helpful. I miss my old neighbours lol. Sad

Probably closed in the morning. Have a look at the website though as it’s all handled online here, I’m guessing most councils will be the same. Also, be aware that if your neighbours have a Blue Badge they will be able to park in the nice disabled bay.

MoHarris · 08/08/2026 17:11

Pearlstillsinging · 08/08/2026 16:23

Loads of other people doing it doesn't make it right! It just means that loads of other people are doing it wrong.

The rule is actually reverse on your driveway if you can. It’s guidance only.

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · 08/08/2026 17:11

The woman screaming at you was out of order, but you do not have a drive. A tarmacked front garden is not a drive unless there is a dropped kerb and it is illegal and unsafe to drive across the pavement where there isn't a dropped kerb.

Double-parked does not mean parking on both sides of a road. Double parking means parking immediately next to someone already parked such that they can't leave their parking space and blocking the flow of traffic. Parking on both sides of a road is fine so long as the gap is big enough for a fire-engine. If there's enough room for a car to slip through but not enough space for a fire engine you are endangering lives.

You were reasonable to park where you did, unless there is a local byelaw against pavement parking. Your neighbour was unreasonable to subsequently cause a nuisance by parking without sufficient gap, but you are unreasonable to own a car at all when you seem to know so little about safe parking.

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