AIBU to hesitate about daughter, boyfriend and baby moving in?

Surely they’d qualify for social housing?

No she needs to move out and rent with her partner. She’s 26 not 16 after all. by her age I had been living by myself with a child for years.

If two grown adults cannot work and between them afford a place together, even a studio then they should not be having a baby.

I fell pregnant (planned) when I was 26, I was married and we owned our home. There’s no way I would have had a baby if we didn’t have our own place.

I’ve already told my children that if they want to have a baby or move in with a partner they will have to move out! I don’t want to live with anyone else particularly a lazy partner of my children. Would drive me mad. And not fair on my other child.

Either she moves out by the time she is 6 months pregnant or if she’s not in a position to do that it’s time for a tough decision to be made

This is tricky and you don’t mention if there is your own DH to consider in this mix too.
The trouble with allowing daughter and baby only to stay is that you are absolving the father of all responsibilities, sleepless nights and also just as importantly bonding. It would also potentially make it easier for him to fade into the background and/or potentially find another unencumbered girlfriend, as he’s already been a cheater at least once. On the other hand she’s your daughter and you would no doubt move heaven and earth for her and new gc.
Personally, I think I would offer to help towards the first 12 months rental on a small place for them after the child is born, provided the bf is working and saving as much as he can. This would allow them to stand on their own feet and see if they could pull together properly. You can offer lots of help but from the sidelines and with the rest of your household getting proper sleep etc.
From when you decide to become a parent you have to grow up and stand up for the sake of the child. That doesn’t preclude help, but the new parents must parent.

Maybe that poster was a bit harsh, but they're adults for god's sake, closer to 30 than 20! If they're ready to start a family, they're ready to do it on their own. Sounds like you've enabled both of your DDs to be helpless children even into adulthood.

All your points are incorrect.
Deposits are required
They only pay no council tax if they are students
Guarantors are required if they are on a low wage or can't provide references from previous landlords.

I think you are confusing private rentals with student halls of residence and being a lodger.

I’d let daughter move in but not her boyfriend. If he’s lazy and irritating, this will only be magnified when a baby comes along. I’d also put in some strict house rules with regards to boyfriend visiting. This is your home and your youngest daughters home and your eldest needs to respect that.

@DannyOD If the pregnant daughter isn't living at home why can't she stay where she is?

Presumably they each live their own parent now , why can’t they continue to live separately when the baby is born until they sort housing together ?

Then we could criticise him for buggering off home and leaving mum to cope with sleepless nights.

It would be good for everybody if they found themselves a place to live near you. I lived with my infant in a bedsitter with shared bathroom. And I didn’t have a loving mum like yoù are. But it was an ok situation until something larger was available.

It's not OPs job to sacrifice her home and family dynamics to try to make it easy for a feckless lazy dolt to act like a father.

If he wants to live with his girlfriend and baby, he needs to step up and find somewhere for them to live.

That isn't the start in life id want for my GC. Good for you that you coped but it isn't ideal. Id sleep on the floor and give them my bedroom before I'd let that happen.

I wouldn't let bf move in. You'll get to involved, they won't act like adults. Lazing around, no job, forget it. My daughter and baby could stay. He could visit. Is she capable? (You said neither sister were capable of getiing their own place )

So the pregnant daughter has no responsibility it's just down to him? I thought we'd moved on since the 50s.

Ohh wait lol, I misunderstood. You meant you'd sleep on the floor before you'd let them live in a bedsittingroom..
Yes, so would I.

Daughter is already living there.

I think it is inevitable that he will consider himself the 'man of the house.' You will find out exactly how he treats your daughter, how he speaks to her day to day. Pregnancy and a new baby put a sizable strain on a relationship and you and your other daughter will have front row seats. This is an absolute train wreck waiting to happen and if you value peace in your house, don't do it.

To expand, the daughter is already living there.

It's a very different thing to kick out a pregnant dd than it is to move in her boyfriend.

No but you can tell your daughter what you want in your home i.e. no boyfriend or baby.

Nothing from op since for two days.

Maybe they should reconsider having a baby then? Abortion is always an option.

But you said he needs to find somewhere for them to live. Why shouldn't she find somewhere for them to live if she wants to live with him? Ideally it's a shared responsibility.

Because I was responding to your comment about him potentially being criticised for not doing nights with the baby.

It's not OPs job to provide the means for him not to be criticised.