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Would you think this was misleading from a friend?

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Dontworrybehappyyy · Yesterday 09:58

A friend/colleague and another man in the workplace seemed to be attracted to her. Friend left the job and had leaving drinks, the man showed up.
I think he messaged her after saying 'good luck for the future' or something. Despite liking her he didn't seem to make an advance or anything..anyway she replied saying 'Thanks a lot for coming today I appreciated it, all the best!'

Another friend is now saying 'Why did you text him that when you know he likes you, that's really not cool leading him on!'.
We're both confused, she sent a polite response to his message. I think the other friend is being a bit harsh, she's hardly leading him on, was she meant to ignore it? She didn't send anything flirty or suggestive?

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Darragon · Yesterday 12:32

What is utterly bizarre to me is that the first friend is telling you and the second friend about these very uneventful messages to a random ex-colleague. Are you all very young?

BrokenBiscuitss · Yesterday 10:14

I think its a bit gushy for someone youre trying to dissuade tbh.
Thanks Sam all the best 🙂 would have done the job

Itsthewoluff · Yesterday 10:11

Perfectly ok response.

jeaux90 · Yesterday 10:09

Dontworrybehappyyy · Yesterday 10:07

I just don't know why the other friend acted like that. Envy?

Maybe the other friend fancies him? Otherwise yes it’s batshit

Dontworrybehappyyy · Yesterday 10:07

I just don't know why the other friend acted like that. Envy?

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Loulou4022 · Yesterday 10:02

Sounds like a perfectly polite and reasonable response to the text he sent.

lulubalu · Yesterday 10:02

Batshit. Feel free to ignore.

Dontworrybehappyyy · Yesterday 10:01

Ace56 · Yesterday 10:00

No, she did nothing to lead him on! Especially as he texted her first to say good luck etc. It would’ve been rude to just ignore the text completely.

That's what i was thinking too. I know some people might think any sort of communication signifies interest but the text is clearly just polite?

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JustFrustrated · Yesterday 10:01

Perfectly normal and polite response from friend.

Ace56 · Yesterday 10:00

No, she did nothing to lead him on! Especially as he texted her first to say good luck etc. It would’ve been rude to just ignore the text completely.