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Cancelled on friend due to illness, she wasn't happy

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ThatLovingNavyLion · 08/08/2026 09:46

I was meant to travel to see a friend for the day about 1.5 hours away. I rarely get ill touch wood, but typically I got a sickness bug the day before I was meant to meet her! I was being sick multiple times, no appetite and felt weak, like my limbs were stiff and I couldn't walk much.
I had to cancel sadly, there was no way I could travel in that state. I hate doing this but I had no choice, and I told her I could do the next couple of weekends so that she knew I still really wanted to see her.

She was cold in her reply and didn't agree to the other weekend, so unfortunately I think she thought I was lying/couldn't be bothered. I've never done that to her before so it's not like I've got form for it. I asked another friend for advice and she said "Yeah I can completely see why she's pissed off."

If i kept cancelling I could see that, but it was my only time. Sadly they think I was lying, there's not much I can do. Was I supposed to go and throw up on her? Do feel bad but unsure what else to do.

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ThatLovingNavyLion · 08/08/2026 09:51

She may not think I'm lying, but her message was cold and abrupt and she didn't confirm the following weekend.

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ThatLovingNavyLion · 08/08/2026 09:50

The last time was 1.5 years before that, when I slipped and hurt my back! It's certainly not something regular.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 08/08/2026 09:50

She’d have been more pissed off if you dragged yourself there, carried on throwing up and infected her.

It seems odd she thinks you’re lying.

Itsthewoluff · 08/08/2026 09:49

Not much of a friend to not understand shit happens.
I’d be annoyed too, but at the situation, not you personally.
Always happening would be a different matter though.

ThatLovingNavyLion · 08/08/2026 09:49

I told her the night before too, not the morning of. I feel bad she thinks I'm a liar, there wasn't much else I could do except send her a vomit photo?

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Indianajet · 08/08/2026 09:47

If you were sick you have to cancel - your friends are being ridiculous.

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