I will try and keep this brief.
Have suffered years of emotional abuse from H.
He has a huge family and whenever they have visited over the years we have always hosted. One because PIL house, although huge is a tip and two because BIL point blank refuses to host.
It has got to the point in our relationship that we both know it's over and need to sort out the divorce.
He informed me that a family member and their children are visiting briefly today, just for a few hours. I told him that I will go to my mums for the day as I'm sick of hosting and also sick of pretending we are a happy family. PIL will also be here and we don't get on.
My DD has had problems with her car that I have been asking H to sort out. The a/c doesn't work and H has been putting off getting it fixed. Said it is quite expensive although he has money to spend on the pub!
I spent the whole day yesterday cleaning, he rolls home late, obviously been to the pub for a fair few hours. He then says are you taking DD car when you go to your mums? Apparently he has agreed to drop family member and children to a local attraction after their visit. About 40 mins away. My mum lives an hour away. I said but DD doesn't have A/c had a few cross words.
Anyway my DS thinks I should take DD car and leave bigger family car with H. FIL very wealthy and could afford an uber to take family member.
I don't want to cause friction with DS though.
I would appreciate your thoughts, thank you.