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to be annoyed about this situation with neighbour and her dog?

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CantGetBackToSleep · 07/08/2026 06:37

I’m lying awake because I don’t know what to do about this situation.

On Sunday our neighbour came to see us visibly upset. Her mum had been taken into hospital and she had been told to get there asap. Her mum lives in Scotland and we are in the South of England so she was panicking about getting there on time and also about who would look after her dog. We helped her book a flight as she was in a state shaking and in no state to think properly. She asked if we could have her dog for a few days. Reluctantly we agreed but said we were leaving to go on holiday on Friday evening so she would need to make other arrangements by Friday morning for him. We went and collected the dog and he has been with us since. We have our own dogs and they are all getting on well.

Our neighbour text me on Monday to say her mum had died. We had a brief text conversation and obviously I said how sorry I was to hear about her mum.

I text her on Wednesday morning to say that I know she has a lot to deal with but we really need to know what she’s doing about her dog as we are due to go away. I didn’t hear anything so I text her again yesterday to ask what she wanted us to do with the dog and got a text from another of her relatives from her phone saying our neighbour is very upset and isn’t in the right place to sort this out. I replied to say I understood but that when we agreed to have the dog, it was on the condition that she made other arrangements for the dog by Friday morning as we are due to go on holiday. I didn’t get a reply. I tried to call last night but it went to voicemail. I had already called our nearest boarding kennels who do have space so I told her on the voicemail that I could drop him at kennels but she needs to give them her payment details. I still haven’t had a reply from my neighbour.

What do we do? I’ve asked other neighbours and they won’t have him. My parents are having our dogs while we are away but are not willing to take the neighbours dog as well.

A friend has suggested I drop him at our local vets which is the vet my neighbour uses but I don’t think they would be ok with that. Another friend said if it comes to it to call the rspca, explain the situation and say he’s basically been abandoned.

I’m so stressed. I know my neighbour has lost her mum but we are not missing our holiday.

OP posts:
Amybelle88 · Yesterday 23:49

Absolutely taking the piss! Losing her mum is obviously horrendous, nobody can take that away from her, but is she honestly expecting you to not go on holiday?! Rude twat.

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · Yesterday 23:49

NSA2103 · Yesterday 23:42

This.

Vets or RSPCA are bonkers suggestions.

Lol

SouthLondonMum22 · Yesterday 23:50

NSA2103 · Yesterday 23:42

This.

Vets or RSPCA are bonkers suggestions.

The bonkers suggestion is kennels for reasons already stated on this thread such as it is likely full as it is the summer holidays, OP likely doesn't have the dogs vaccination history/proof of vaccination and most importantly, OP shouldn't have to pay for someone else's dog.

If you actually read the thread, you'd see that OP did take dog to the vets and it was all fine.

Teenagerantruns · Today 00:02

I have said it before but honestly this was resolved about 20 pages ago, the dog is fine,OP is on holiday..does no one read updates

NoCommentingFromNowOn · Today 00:25

Larrythebloodycat · Yesterday 23:35

I'd be willing to bet that the owner will come back from 'Scotland' with a deep tan and a bottle of duty-free ouzo.

OP helped her to book her flight though, so I think the neighbour is being honest about that tbh.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · Today 00:28

Teenagerantruns · Today 00:02

I have said it before but honestly this was resolved about 20 pages ago, the dog is fine,OP is on holiday..does no one read updates

On every single thread like this I just give up when people start suggesting stuff that’s already been resolved. My blood pressure cant really handle any more.

On a slightly unrelated note, did you know you can put more posts onto one page, thus reducing the number of pages you have to navigate?

Booboobagins · Today 00:41

OMG I cannot believe how many people think taking the dog to a rescue is the answer! She's obviously in deep grief and is not coping, do not surrender her dog. Put it in kennels.

WearyAuldWumman · Today 00:47

Booboobagins · Today 00:41

OMG I cannot believe how many people think taking the dog to a rescue is the answer! She's obviously in deep grief and is not coping, do not surrender her dog. Put it in kennels.

The OP is already on holiday, thank goodness.

SouthLondonMum22 · Today 00:55

Booboobagins · Today 00:41

OMG I cannot believe how many people think taking the dog to a rescue is the answer! She's obviously in deep grief and is not coping, do not surrender her dog. Put it in kennels.

I can't believe how many people don't read all of OP's comments.

Or that OP should pay for kennels or that kennels in the summer holidays with likely no vaccination paperwork is a simple or possible solution.

Dizzywizz · Today 00:59

NoCommentingFromNowOn · Today 00:28

On every single thread like this I just give up when people start suggesting stuff that’s already been resolved. My blood pressure cant really handle any more.

On a slightly unrelated note, did you know you can put more posts onto one page, thus reducing the number of pages you have to navigate?

How do you reduce the pages? I’m interested in that please. Loved it ages ago when you could put it all on one page!!!

NoCommentingFromNowOn · Today 01:38

@Dizzywizz

I can tell you for the iPad and mobile, I assume desktop is broadly similar too but I don’t have the app, sorry.

Top right is a little body shape. Click that.

click ‘settings’

now on a phone it will say ‘more settings’ near the top of the screen but it doesn’t with iPad. If on mobile phone, click ‘more settings’.

click ‘talk settings’

Now you should have a whole array of stuff to fiddle with including hiding topics, watching threads, similar threads, all sorts of stuff. My ‘number of posts on a page’ allows me to choose 25, 50, 100, 500 and 1000 (but I don’t think you can choose 1000 if you made your account after a certain date).

Happy fiddling!

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · Today 01:42

NoCommentingFromNowOn · Today 00:28

On every single thread like this I just give up when people start suggesting stuff that’s already been resolved. My blood pressure cant really handle any more.

On a slightly unrelated note, did you know you can put more posts onto one page, thus reducing the number of pages you have to navigate?

Even just reading the OP it was obvious this would have been resolved one way or another by Friday.

FreddysFingers · Today 01:43

earlyshirley · 07/08/2026 06:45

Take him to the kennels. It’s the only option. You can’t drop him at the vets!
You will have to pay for now until she gets back to you. If she has an ounce of morals then she’ll pay you once everything is over. The kernels may be willing to take payment on her collecting.
Otherwise put a message on local Facebook pages looking for dog sitters.Again you will have to pay for now but cheaper than kennels.

Edited to say sorry, can see this had now been resolved.

HoraceCope · Today 04:12

shhblackbag · Yesterday 16:40

Why should they? That dog is nothing to do with them. Baffling how all of this is suddenly on OP and her family because CF neighbour couldn't take two minutes to pick up a phone.

I am not saying they Should

I am saying i am surprised
i think most parents would be accommodating to the op's predicament

HarshbutTrue2 · Today 06:36

HoraceCope · Today 04:12

I am not saying they Should

I am saying i am surprised
i think most parents would be accommodating to the op's predicament

I agree. If I was the parents I would have taken all of the dogs.

I have done so for various family members during the past.

However, we don't know the age of the parents, the size of their house, or the size and temperament of the dogs

apigeongoescamping · Today 06:42

NSA2103 · Yesterday 23:42

This.

Vets or RSPCA are bonkers suggestions.

Not this.

SouthLondonMum22 · Today 07:24

HarshbutTrue2 · Today 06:36

I agree. If I was the parents I would have taken all of the dogs.

I have done so for various family members during the past.

However, we don't know the age of the parents, the size of their house, or the size and temperament of the dogs

Family members assumes you know the dogs though. It's very different watching a family members dog over a strangers dog, not to mention how the strange dog may behave in another strange place surrounded by strange people and strange dogs.

Brackenandbrave · Today 07:55

Poor dog.

op did the right thing.

so many posters posting before reading the updates!

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