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AIBU to feel hurt after friend mocked my celebrity crush?

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HumbleHun · 06/08/2026 23:20

Hi MN, second time trying a thread so I hope it goes better this time. So a close friend has really annoyed me earlier this afternoon. I was with 5 of my friends from my village having lunch with a few glasses of wine. As usual the conversation started to get a bit silly towards the end. Someone started asking the girls who their celebrity crush was. Had the usual Hugh Grant, Benedict Cumber batch but when it came to me I felt awkward and blurted out Martin Clunes. I didn't want to be judged and say someone younger than me or someone out of my league so the first man that came to mind was him.
I think he's reasonably attractive and talented but the friend I feel closest too went into a fit of giggles and kept bringing it up for the rest of the afternoon.
A few hours later she put a picture of Martin in the church group chat and my DH noticed I was upset so I had to tell him.
He found it amusing and doesn't seem to care but I feel betrayed and hurt that my close friend is mocking me even after she knew I was embarrassed at lunch.
She's usually so nice and caring but iv seen a nasty side today but my adult daughter said it's just banter and to let it go.
I feel like messaging her and cancelling weekend plans.
IABU?

OP posts:
PeopleWatching17 · 09/08/2026 17:06

brisamarina · 06/08/2026 23:29

Mine is Wayne Rooney and I’m not bothered who knows. Do you feel any better now OP?

I do 🤣🤣 Mine is Roy Keane!

PeopleWatching17 · 09/08/2026 17:06

Beautifulhaiku · 09/08/2026 13:25

Mine is Greg Davies. Some people think I’m mad and others completely get it. Sexy and funny 👌 Practice not giving a fuck and one day you’ll realise you actually don’t.

Oh yes.

CoraPirbright · 09/08/2026 17:08

DahliaDelights · 06/08/2026 23:31

my close friend is mocking me even after she knew I was embarrassed

this is the reason, forget Martin Clunes, she is mocking you despite seeing your earlier embarrassment, have you told her to quit it, its done, enough?

Is this normal behaviour, repeated? the mockery?

I think this is the point for me. To have a laugh and tease you in the moment is fine and part of a usual friendship ribbing. However to keep going on about it hours later when you are clearly embarrassed is unpleasant.

(Btw, whilst he is not for me, I do think MC has a lovely warmth about him that is very appealing so you are totally not wrong!!)

Travsmam · 09/08/2026 17:18

What?????? WHAT?????? Grow up FFS!!!!

TheBossOfMe · 09/08/2026 17:26

HumbleHun · 07/08/2026 00:01

I have learned my lessons and I am listening and respecting the advice of the wonderful people on here. Last time was disastrous and embarrassing but tonight's has helped me immensely. I hope last time I did not offend you personally and if so I'm very sorry.

Don’t be embarrassed by your last thread, it gave me a much needed laugh on the night, and you were extremely brave to come back and apologise the next day. Most people don’t do that, you’re clearly a thoughtful person.

Your friends sound lovely and clearly love you very much. Sounds like your DH is a lovely guy as well. And there’s nothing wrong with having a strange celebrity crush - the world would be a very boring place if we all fancied the same people.

Silvercoconut · 09/08/2026 18:40

My daughter is not yet 30, and her crush is Mandy Patinkin! (CSI)
I'm 62 so quite agree

Dery · 09/08/2026 18:56

Since watching The English (Emily Blunt/Chaske Spencer), i would say Chaske Spencer. That said, i was so in love with and devastated by that show, that it was months before i was willing to accept that the character he played, Eli Whipp, wasn’t real and that i was in fact watching Chaske Spencer.

PloddingAlong21 · 09/08/2026 20:12

HumbleHun · 07/08/2026 00:01

I have learned my lessons and I am listening and respecting the advice of the wonderful people on here. Last time was disastrous and embarrassing but tonight's has helped me immensely. I hope last time I did not offend you personally and if so I'm very sorry.

Dying it know what your other thread is. I have zero clue how to look for it

Ruthdpl · 09/08/2026 20:33

Martin Clunes? When Barack Obama and Yungblud are in the world? I think you’ll need to aim higher OP.

Urgentbiscuitrequired · 09/08/2026 21:04

I wouldn't worry OP. I.posted on the other thread that I fancied Dan Cruikshank and Tony Robinson about 20 years ago in my 20s. I always had a bit of a soft spot for Baldrick.

ByUniqueViper · 09/08/2026 21:25

My friends and I would have a good laugh about something like this. You need to lighten up and not take life too seriously

GingerDoris · 10/08/2026 15:23

This sounds like normal friend behaviour. My friends all have some utterly bizarre crushes. It always has us giggling at taking the piss. It makes us laugh as you realise women like such different things and often they are miles away from what anyone wpukd expect. I would make him your profile picture on social media. The more you lean in and don't care the less the piss taking. 😆

Ladyfromthehill · 18/08/2026 18:09

GingerDoris · 10/08/2026 15:23

This sounds like normal friend behaviour. My friends all have some utterly bizarre crushes. It always has us giggling at taking the piss. It makes us laugh as you realise women like such different things and often they are miles away from what anyone wpukd expect. I would make him your profile picture on social media. The more you lean in and don't care the less the piss taking. 😆

It's normal behaviour if everyone does it and you are cool with that. It's not banter but bulling if someone is the butt of the joke and doesnt enjoy it, which OP clearly isnt and the 'friend' is going overboard.

ImpatientlyWaitingForSummer · 18/08/2026 20:26

Really similar situation that I had, it was in a WhatsApp group chat with three friends and I said that mine was Alan Sugar, what ensued was an onslaught of piss taking followed by multiple photos of him doing his trademark “point”! By the time the piss taking was finished I literally had laughing tears streaming down my face, it’s part of having a friendship group! That was over five years ago and I still sometimes get called Mrs S now…

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