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DH-same PJs, no pants, 7 days… am I overrea

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Yousay55 · 06/08/2026 22:48

My dh goes to bed in the same pjs every night -washes them once or twice a week and doesn’t wear anything underneath. We’re on holiday and hasn’t washed them in a week now.
I think it’s pretty awful to wear the same ones without washing them and can’t imagine putting on the same pjs at the end of the day. We’ve had a debate and he thinks it’s what all men do. I think I’m going to buy him a pair to wear everyday day so this doesn’t keep happening!

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Empress13 · 07/08/2026 04:23

Yousay55 · 06/08/2026 22:48

My dh goes to bed in the same pjs every night -washes them once or twice a week and doesn’t wear anything underneath. We’re on holiday and hasn’t washed them in a week now.
I think it’s pretty awful to wear the same ones without washing them and can’t imagine putting on the same pjs at the end of the day. We’ve had a debate and he thinks it’s what all men do. I think I’m going to buy him a pair to wear everyday day so this doesn’t keep happening!

Never heard of a man ever wear PJ’s to bed (unless maybe over 80)

Anon501178 · 07/08/2026 04:23

BlueMum16 · 06/08/2026 22:54

I've never met a man who wears pyjamas.. Naked or boxers.

I've got the ick 🤮

How can a man wearing pyjamas give you the 'ick' more than a man sleeping naked with dirty genitals and bum exposed?! Because even showering daily, this time of year especially that area gets sweaty and also genitals and bum are only clean after a shower until the next wee/poo/sexual act 🤮

Anon501178 · 07/08/2026 04:19

Yetone · 06/08/2026 23:24

OP, this is gross. Unless you wear underwear beneath them, you should change your pjs bottoms daily. You wouldn’t wear the same pair of knickers for a week.

This!!

BeanQuisine · 07/08/2026 04:17

Melarus · 06/08/2026 23:10

You slob. I go out each evening and buy a set of bed linen from John Lewis, so that I can have genuinely fresh linen every night. Then I spray the bed frame with Dettol and swallow a pint of warm antiseptic before bed

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I normally sleep for an hour or two and then drag the whole bed out into the paddock and burn it, while the servants install my new bed with fresh bedding.

Then I take a bath in disinfectant before a shower, dry off and into bed for another hour, with the sequence repeated several times until dawn.

I don't know how people can feel remotely clean, stewing in the same filthy bed for an entire night.

Dliplop · 07/08/2026 04:14

I can see letting it get to 7 days on vacation, otherwise you need to pack more or do laundry. At home 2-3 nights, 4 is a bit gross but 🤷🏻‍♀️. Pack him a second pair next holiday.

hangonwhilstioverthinkthis · 07/08/2026 04:05

@LemonSnail @Melarus @Redredrumdedrum I needed this chuckle tonight 🙏🏼😁 wonderful thread!

Meredusoleil · 07/08/2026 03:58

BEST thread I have read in ages 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Have to say, it's the no pants thing that makes it grim. Otherwise, with pants, twice a week/every 2 days should be often enough imho.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 07/08/2026 03:21

Redredrumdedrum · 06/08/2026 23:06

Personally I get up at 2am to shower and change my pjs before sleeping for the rest of the night. Can’t imagine how gross I would feel otherwise 🤢

I sleep standing up in the corner of the bedroom to avoid having any detrimental effect on the bed sheets.

(I do topple over occasionally - I think it's probably where expression 'falling asleep' originates from.)

Sereine · 07/08/2026 02:58

I don't sleep, because I never get out of this bath of disinfectant,

Sereine · 07/08/2026 02:55

ohsosomething · 07/08/2026 01:22

What?

You go to bed in pjs, sleep until 2am, get up to shower and fresh pjs on, then back to sleep?

Have I got this wrong or are you bonkers?

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Have you taken the entire thread this seriously?

Sereine · 07/08/2026 02:52

Scorchio84 · 07/08/2026 00:13

Definitely.. I really wasn't expecting it to go the way it did at all 😂& to echo a pp yes we really need the laughter emoji back.. please! For Christ's sake PLEASE!!!!

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But where is the problem in using 😂😂?

Or even 😹?

Emptyandsad · 07/08/2026 02:48

At home I sleep naked on a lilo floating in a paddling pool full of dettol

Obviously this isn't practical when travelling (duh 🙄) so when I'm away I have a pair of waterproof trousers; before I put them on I spray dettol all over my grim arse and ball-sack

Job's a good'un...

FiveShelties · 07/08/2026 02:43

Fantastic responses. Great thread😂

JMSA · 07/08/2026 02:39

Pussygaloregalapagos · 07/08/2026 01:26

I wear my PJs for about a week before putting through the wash. Never met a bloke that wears PJs - they all seem to sleep in the buff.

A week?? Have you gone completely nose-blind?

JMSA · 07/08/2026 02:37

I’m not wasteful when it comes to clothing and will wear most things more than once, including bras.
However I draw the line at trousers that, ahem Blush, have close contact with the crotch area, such as leggings or pj bottoms. Jeans are different, because they’re thicker, if that makes sense?! Hmm

JoeSikoraTommysStory · 07/08/2026 02:31

Stick him on a 90° wash or LTB there are no other options.

Gooseling · 07/08/2026 02:23

Redredrumdedrum · 06/08/2026 23:06

Personally I get up at 2am to shower and change my pjs before sleeping for the rest of the night. Can’t imagine how gross I would feel otherwise 🤢

This is insane

RoseField1 · 07/08/2026 02:12

ohsosomething · 07/08/2026 01:24

If they don’t smell, I can’t see the issue tbh.

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They will smell though!

Blueeyedmale · 07/08/2026 01:47

Op does he have an teddy bear too ......sorry for a moment Mr bean came into my head

bridgetreilly · 07/08/2026 01:37

So long as he showers in the morning, it’s really fine.

Calliopespa · 07/08/2026 01:37

babyproblems · 07/08/2026 00:20

Presumably he is showering though?? So it’s not like a weeks worth of stink is on the pjs. If he’s showering before bed every night I’d say they’re cleaner than your tea towel probs. if he’s not showering AND wearing them for a week there’s only one way forward; LTB. Xx

Slight derail but teatowels actually should be washed after use.

Calliopespa · 07/08/2026 01:33

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:07

Same, I change the bedding at 1am and 4am.

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...and immediately if someone farts in it.

I actually do think it is a bit gross op. Why doesn't he just wear boxers then they get washed daily? Or wear the under the pyjama pants if he must have pyjama pants?

ohsosomething · 07/08/2026 01:26

Eyesopenwideawake · 06/08/2026 23:24

I burn my house down every morning. It’s the only way to be sure there’s no germs.

This is just too funny!

Pussygaloregalapagos · 07/08/2026 01:26

I wear my PJs for about a week before putting through the wash. Never met a bloke that wears PJs - they all seem to sleep in the buff.

ohsosomething · 07/08/2026 01:24

RoseField1 · 07/08/2026 00:55

The responses aren't really hilarious because what the man is doing is grim! If OP was being prissy and overreacting the responses would be hilarious but a grown man's arse and bollocks are rubbing against these pyjama bottoms for hours every night and he's just putting them back on for 7 days in a row...that's minging and anyone who is mocking OP for thinking so is also minging.

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If they don’t smell, I can’t see the issue tbh.