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DH-same PJs, no pants, 7 days… am I overrea

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Yousay55 · 06/08/2026 22:48

My dh goes to bed in the same pjs every night -washes them once or twice a week and doesn’t wear anything underneath. We’re on holiday and hasn’t washed them in a week now.
I think it’s pretty awful to wear the same ones without washing them and can’t imagine putting on the same pjs at the end of the day. We’ve had a debate and he thinks it’s what all men do. I think I’m going to buy him a pair to wear everyday day so this doesn’t keep happening!

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NormasArse · 07/08/2026 06:29

rockingaroundthe · 07/08/2026 00:10

Yes this is true, but the sweat will leak through the trousers as they've been on for so long 🤣🤢

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No it won’t! Not unless he’s excessively sweaty! 😂

BeanQuisine · 07/08/2026 06:26

Cheese55 · 07/08/2026 06:17

What do you think is going to happen if you wear clothes more than once. How much washing do you do. I dont understand why people are so scared of this 'bacteria', what harm are you going to come to ?

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Are you serious? Thousands of people are hospitalised each day with life-threatening septicaemia caused by slightly stale PJs, yesterday's undies and moderately whiffy socks.

MrsBlobby64 · 07/08/2026 06:23

Men still wear pjs?! I’ve been married 29 years with a 28 year old son - they both sleep in their pants & that’s it 😂

Cheese55 · 07/08/2026 06:17

JMSA · 07/08/2026 02:37

I’m not wasteful when it comes to clothing and will wear most things more than once, including bras.
However I draw the line at trousers that, ahem Blush, have close contact with the crotch area, such as leggings or pj bottoms. Jeans are different, because they’re thicker, if that makes sense?! Hmm

What do you think is going to happen if you wear clothes more than once. How much washing do you do. I dont understand why people are so scared of this 'bacteria', what harm are you going to come to ?

GiffGaffClapTrap · 07/08/2026 06:12

Can't believe you all use mattresses. So gross, think of all that sweat just being sucked into them.

I lay out a mat of anti bac wipes every night and sleep on those. Takes two mins and I feel better about the germs.

dizzydizzydizzy · 07/08/2026 06:03

Yetone · 06/08/2026 23:24

OP, this is gross. Unless you wear underwear beneath them, you should change your pjs bottoms daily. You wouldn’t wear the same pair of knickers for a week.

Speaking personally, I sweat and go to the toilet during the day and don’t do either at night. I shower before bed. I find it perfectly ok to wear my PJs for a week (without knickers). I have clean knickers , socks and t-shirt every day.

DerekDematopolis · 07/08/2026 05:51

Melarus · 06/08/2026 23:10

You slob. I go out each evening and buy a set of bed linen from John Lewis, so that I can have genuinely fresh linen every night. Then I spray the bed frame with Dettol and swallow a pint of warm antiseptic before bed

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You don’t wash them first? 🤢

SodThisHeadache · 07/08/2026 05:50

Normal. Unless your DH can't wipe his arse properly, in which case you have bigger problems.

And it's disingenous to cite women's need to change knickers every day to say that men must change PJ bottoms/boxers they wear in bed every day. Must I go into the differences between women and men's genitalia?

Thank you for a funny thread

Stolengnome · 07/08/2026 05:49

PMSL at this thread 🤣 Comedy gold 👌

UpDownAllAround1 · 07/08/2026 05:45

Normal

Watee · 07/08/2026 05:40

goodmorningmrbean · 07/08/2026 05:25

People of mumsnet: 'the planet is burning, water is running out, and the cost of living is killing us! Why don't we do something?'

Also people of mumsnet (not all admittedly): 'How dare my DH wear something in the privacy of his own home more than once before washing. Must wash everything daily....'

Exactly this. Wash everything including PJs, jeans and hoodys after every wear. Towels for entire household washed after every use. Bedding for a family for 4 washed two to three times a week. Need to drive an SUV because they have a child. But don’t worry they wash out every yoghurt pot and are disgusted by their neighbours that don’t recycle because THEY are the ones killing the planet!

shhblackbag · 07/08/2026 05:30

BlueMum16 · 06/08/2026 22:54

I've never met a man who wears pyjamas.. Naked or boxers.

I've got the ick 🤮

Same.

goodmorningmrbean · 07/08/2026 05:25

People of mumsnet: 'the planet is burning, water is running out, and the cost of living is killing us! Why don't we do something?'

Also people of mumsnet (not all admittedly): 'How dare my DH wear something in the privacy of his own home more than once before washing. Must wash everything daily....'

getearnow · 07/08/2026 05:23

Right! You’re all disgusting! I sleep in a giant Petri dish in a sterile laboratory

estrogone · 07/08/2026 05:12

If he showers before bed fine. If not, then gross

RoseAndShone · 07/08/2026 05:09

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:11

I think I’ve seen you in John Lewis a few times when I buy my new mattress each morning.

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Standing ovation for this 😂😂😂

Imtornanddontknowwhattodo · 07/08/2026 05:03

Ooh you dirty beggers!

I sleep in a hamza suit with a gas mask in the shower using super strength disinfectant.

Dallasdays · 07/08/2026 05:03

Thanks for giving me such a great laugh! Best thread I have read!

Echointhedarkness · 07/08/2026 04:54

In all our married life, my DH never owned a pair of pyjamas.

dizzydizzydizzy · 07/08/2026 04:48

Comedy gold! Thank you @Redredrumdedrum@CatsLikeBoxes@LemonSnailI have read the whole thread and LOLed!

love from woman who wears her PJs for up to a week with no knickers but does shower immediately before bed.

Datgal · 07/08/2026 04:34

Bloody hell fire 🤣. No issues for me if he's clean otherwise. And I like a nice clean crotch smell tbh. Quite earthy....akin to the smell of a puppy dogs ear.

Empress13 · 07/08/2026 04:32

I think OP has gone to burn her house down 🤣

sillypossumsmum · 07/08/2026 04:28

viques · 07/08/2026 04:24

Really? You have cloth next to your skin, soaking up all those body fluids!

I am washed down by a pressure hose and then double wrapped in clingfilm by carers wearing CSI security suits.

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i think that’s for the sex board 😏🤣😜

sillypossumsmum · 07/08/2026 04:27

BeanQuisine · 07/08/2026 04:17

I normally sleep for an hour or two and then drag the whole bed out into the paddock and burn it, while the servants install my new bed with fresh bedding.

Then I take a bath in disinfectant before a shower, dry off and into bed for another hour, with the sequence repeated several times until dawn.

I don't know how people can feel remotely clean, stewing in the same filthy bed for an entire night.

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Dreadful standards, what is the world coming to ! I have a seamstress who makes me a fresh pair of organic cotton pyjamas every hour.

viques · 07/08/2026 04:24

Melarus · 06/08/2026 23:10

You slob. I go out each evening and buy a set of bed linen from John Lewis, so that I can have genuinely fresh linen every night. Then I spray the bed frame with Dettol and swallow a pint of warm antiseptic before bed

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Really? You have cloth next to your skin, soaking up all those body fluids!

I am washed down by a pressure hose and then double wrapped in clingfilm by carers wearing CSI security suits.