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DH-same PJs, no pants, 7 days… am I overrea

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Yousay55 · 06/08/2026 22:48

My dh goes to bed in the same pjs every night -washes them once or twice a week and doesn’t wear anything underneath. We’re on holiday and hasn’t washed them in a week now.
I think it’s pretty awful to wear the same ones without washing them and can’t imagine putting on the same pjs at the end of the day. We’ve had a debate and he thinks it’s what all men do. I think I’m going to buy him a pair to wear everyday day so this doesn’t keep happening!

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Shmee1988 · 07/08/2026 07:59

Redredrumdedrum · 06/08/2026 23:06

Personally I get up at 2am to shower and change my pjs before sleeping for the rest of the night. Can’t imagine how gross I would feel otherwise 🤢

Why?

hahabahbag · 07/08/2026 07:56

Never met a man who actually sleeps in pjs!

Raisinsandweetabix · 07/08/2026 07:47

It's the same as underwear. Clean pair every night after washing. Come on, that's seriously gross

hugasaurus · 07/08/2026 07:47

I wear fresh PJs every night as it’s one of my ‘things’ so I am definitely biased here, but it is a bit gross. DH has never worn pyjamas in his life though! Well I assume he did as a kid maybe. Not in our life together at least. But I’d he did, I wouldn’t be impressed with one pair a week!

Tamtim · 07/08/2026 07:46

Nope, not all men. DH wears his two nights in a row, myself and the kids have fresh pjs every evening. Stupid amounts of washing but can’t imagine getting out of the shower and into anything but fresh pjs.

MaryBeardsShoes · 07/08/2026 07:43

God times are hard if this is the kind of “witty banter” that’s getting nominated for classics these days.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/08/2026 07:42

Yes. It’s gross, for anyone to wear pj’s for a few days without underwear. Yuck. I wear a clean pair every night.

Rewis · 07/08/2026 07:39

I'll add this to the long list of things that make me gross that I've learned from MN😅

tamade · 07/08/2026 07:38

rockingaroundthe · 06/08/2026 23:04

No gross

His ball sweat just floating around the crotxh 🤢

This could be easily overcome with a Dickensian style night shirt,

ineedadehumidifier · 07/08/2026 07:32

Yuck. Who wears the same anything for a week without washing? Nope. I sleep in one of DHs t shirts, a clean one every night. DH sleeps in his boxers, again, clean ones every night. I fail to see how PJ bottoms are any different to boxers, would he also wear the same pair of those for a week? 🤮

QuintadosMalvados · 07/08/2026 07:23

Redredrumdedrum · 06/08/2026 23:06

Personally I get up at 2am to shower and change my pjs before sleeping for the rest of the night. Can’t imagine how gross I would feel otherwise 🤢

I set an alarm to go off top of the hour all night long to change mine.

It ruins my sleep and I think I'm going slightly mad because of it but it's better than being a skank.

ThreadGuardDog · 07/08/2026 07:21

rockingaroundthe · 06/08/2026 23:04

No gross

His ball sweat just floating around the crotxh 🤢

So if he slept naked would you change the bed sheets twice a week or more ?

hairbearbunches · 07/08/2026 07:21

Holidaymodeon · 07/08/2026 01:19

I just sleep in the bath. I haven’t even removed the packaging from my mattress , ergo great savings on bedding, the money saved is spent on topping up the bath with warm water throughout the night so I don’t freeze.
i set an hourly alarm, ‘spick and shattered!’ is my motto

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‘spick and shattered’ 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I spat my coffee.

as opposed to OP’s DH’s PJs which, after 7 days, are very likely to be ‘shick and spattered’ 🤢🤢🤢from all the overnight farting 🤢🤢🤢

DavyCrockettsWildFrontEar · 07/08/2026 07:15

I can't believe how many of you need to take such elaborate steps to keep clean. One decent transfusion of formaldehyde will save you all that effort and expense.

OneNewLeader · 07/08/2026 07:13

Melarus · 06/08/2026 23:10

You slob. I go out each evening and buy a set of bed linen from John Lewis, so that I can have genuinely fresh linen every night. Then I spray the bed frame with Dettol and swallow a pint of warm antiseptic before bed

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As indeed you should.

Girlintheframe · 07/08/2026 07:09

I change pjs every 3 days. Mainly because we sweat, shed skin cells etc. On holiday it’s more if we are somewhere hot. Horses for courses I suppose.

Agix · 07/08/2026 07:02

I wash and change my pjs once a week. I may do it twice if I get super sweaty or dirty in them somehow. Husband is the same. We're fine. But we both bathe and shower right before changing into pj's each day anyway so...

Also this thread is gold. May have to consider buying a new bedroom carpet each morning so I'm not standing on the same dirty one every day...

WerewolfOfLoudon · 07/08/2026 07:01

@Bikergran Maybe it's become cool again, none of them are over 35.

Whatonearthwoman · 07/08/2026 07:00

I like turtles!

Bikergran · 07/08/2026 06:58

WerewolfOfLoudon · 07/08/2026 00:05

@Yousay55 Honestly most men I have intimate bed knowledge about, wear pjs. Never more than 2 nights before washing. A week is grim, even if he showers before bed.

@WerewolfOfLoudon in a long and fairly louche life, I have never met a man who wears pjs to sleep in at home, they are only donned to preserve decency when venturing out to the bathroom, or to lounge in during the evening. The exception to this rule is hospital stays, where apparently fully trained medical staff would be horrified by a glimpse of cock.

ThatCosy · 07/08/2026 06:54

Oh for goodness sake.

What do people think will happen if there are 'germs'? People used to bathe once a week. Sheets were washed less than once a week (and imagine before washing machines existed!) People couldn't afford multiple pairs of pyjamas.

The world turned, People weren't particularly unwell and and homes didn't stink. There was less of a climate crisis and women were still found trivial shit to compete with each other over that kept them in their place. Now we have labour saving devices I'm glad we're over that 🙄.

AImportantMermaid · 07/08/2026 06:49

Absolute mingers, all of you. Every night I get dipped in Domestos and shot into space to go to sleep on the moon.

LemonSnail · 07/08/2026 06:39

Melarus · 06/08/2026 23:18

Oh hiya! 👋 Quite likely - I'm the one wrapped in head-to-toe clingfilm

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I love this!

MyDeftDuck · 07/08/2026 06:37

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:10

I know, I’m very chilled about hygiene.

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I can top that……..I sleep upright in the shower 🤪🤣🤪🤣

Alittlefrustrated · 07/08/2026 06:31

Even my 15yo, who would wear the same clothes forever, won't wear pj's for more than 2 nights.