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DH-same PJs, no pants, 7 days… am I overrea

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Yousay55 · 06/08/2026 22:48

My dh goes to bed in the same pjs every night -washes them once or twice a week and doesn’t wear anything underneath. We’re on holiday and hasn’t washed them in a week now.
I think it’s pretty awful to wear the same ones without washing them and can’t imagine putting on the same pjs at the end of the day. We’ve had a debate and he thinks it’s what all men do. I think I’m going to buy him a pair to wear everyday day so this doesn’t keep happening!

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LemonSnail · 07/08/2026 19:12

Eyesopenwideawake · 06/08/2026 23:24

I burn my house down every morning. It’s the only way to be sure there’s no germs.

Finally a sensible post.

SylvanMoon · 07/08/2026 18:37

estrogone · 07/08/2026 16:24

Too many questiond. How do you wear jeans or frocks with no undies.

What about when you have your period?

Dont your clothes get stained and marked eith normal vaginal discharge?

I stopped wearing knickers once I had a hysterectomy and tbh feel a lot cleaner and have had much fewer yeast infections than I previously used to have. I haven't worn jeans since I was in my 20s and wearing other trousers feels fine. I've also no issues with wearing a dress and no undies (I'm well past the age of wearing miniskirts). Although many years ago, I did have an embarrassing moment on Oxford Street one summer. I had an armful of books and tripped spilling all the books and scrapping my knee, but also my dress rode up. I think I gave the Japanese tourists who were behind me quite a fright. I was pretty mortified, but just picked myself up and carried on as normal. And it didn't make me change my underwear habits either.

Mrstawnyowl · 07/08/2026 17:52

I thought only llamas wore pyjamas.

Hollowvoice · 07/08/2026 17:41

I can't believe so many people are repulsed by a man in pyjamas

FastFood · 07/08/2026 16:34

Lifesyoungdream · 06/08/2026 23:08

I can’t believe you only changed your bedding twice a night. I change mine every hour.That is so gross.

I can't believe you sleep in your bed. Vile.

SummerDive · 07/08/2026 16:32

I have to say, the first time I heard about wearing underwear under pjs was on MN. For a Man or a woman.

And yes dh was sleeping naked anyway. That is until the dcs got older and were more likely to see him naked. I had to point out that maybe there was a time it wasn’t suitable anymore to see each other naked, even if in the middle of the nigut.

mrswhiplington · 07/08/2026 16:28

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:11

I think I’ve seen you in John Lewis a few times when I buy my new mattress each morning.

😂

estrogone · 07/08/2026 16:24

SylvanMoon · 07/08/2026 15:54

I don't even wear knickers during the day; I'm certainly not about to start wearing them while I sleep.

Too many questiond. How do you wear jeans or frocks with no undies.

What about when you have your period?

Dont your clothes get stained and marked eith normal vaginal discharge?

SylvanMoon · 07/08/2026 15:54

Sahara123 · 07/08/2026 10:47

Just thinking about it my mum had 4 kids and washed once a week. Knickers in bed alone would mean two pairs a day each times 6 people times 7 days 😳 ! 84 pairs a week good grief ! That definitely didn’t happen . Washing day was an all day event, twin tub that drained into the sink . Long wooden tongues lifting sodden washing into the dryer. Tuesday was ironing day. We are so lucky with our automatic machines. Not surprisingly we re wore things more than once !

I don't even wear knickers during the day; I'm certainly not about to start wearing them while I sleep.

Imtornanddontknowwhattodo · 07/08/2026 13:39

As long as that's all he's "spilling" lol.

QuinionsRainbow · 07/08/2026 13:20

Yousay55 · 07/08/2026 09:30

I’ve just shown DH the thread. He’s delighted that he’s found “his people.”
Unfortunately, I’ve also read all the comments about ball sweat, arse cracks and commando pyjamas, so I’m off to John Lewis to buy a fresh mattress, replace the flooring in the bedroom and stand in a Dettol shower until further notice.
Thanks for the laughs - this thread has been absolute peak Mumsnet. 😂

As a teenager at boarding school in the mid 1950s, DH's uncle found that clothing, bedding and laundry thereof were managed by the staff of the "Linen Room". Every Friday evening, each boy found on his bed a "laundry bundle", containing one each of flat bed-sheet, pillow case, shirt, vest, underpants and pair of socks; alternate Fridays saw a pair of pyjamas as well. The sheet was intended to last two weeks, the first on top, the second on the bottom, and the PJs for two weeks in succession. The remaining intimate garments were intended to last a week, with the option, rarely exercised, of drawing further items from the Linen-Room store if absolutely necessary.

According to DH, almost everyone in his uncle's dormitory of some thirty boys went commando under their PJs, with no forced ventilation or air conditioning!

Is this the sort of environment that inspired your DH's preferred night attire? And having "spilled the beans", as it were, on DH, what about your own good self?

WerewolfOfLoudon · 07/08/2026 12:34

Watee · 07/08/2026 05:40

Exactly this. Wash everything including PJs, jeans and hoodys after every wear. Towels for entire household washed after every use. Bedding for a family for 4 washed two to three times a week. Need to drive an SUV because they have a child. But don’t worry they wash out every yoghurt pot and are disgusted by their neighbours that don’t recycle because THEY are the ones killing the planet!

I do recycle but don't do any of the rest of those things. It is possible to not wear pjs for an entire week without washing them and also not wash everything after a single wear.

WerewolfOfLoudon · 07/08/2026 12:28

ScarlettSarah · 07/08/2026 09:49

I think pyjamas for men are coming back into fashion... my 15yo DS wears them (NOT the type with a collar, mind... his are more akin to loungewear).

That's exactly the sort of pjs I meant. Mostly Marvel or DC or most recent addition was the Cookie Monster (on a kid who has never seen Sesame St) My 17 and 20 yos and apparently their friends all wear them too. Straight into them after school/college/work if they aren'tgoing back out. "Santa" delivers new pjs too and everyone in my family for our large Christmas gathering has at least one pair of Christmas pjs.

A few years back, grown men came to work in onesies on casual days. Hard to believe so many don't know men who wear pjs.

Timeforachange26 · 07/08/2026 12:01

Eastie77Returns · 07/08/2026 08:38

To those of you who state “I do not know any guys who wear pyjamas in bed”…how do you know what all these men wear at night? Can’t say it’s ever come up in conversation with any of my male friends or acquaintances!

Husbands boyfriend's sons etc is who people are referring to. And even dads. My dad used to put on a dressing gown to come out of the bedroom in the night

wishingonastar101 · 07/08/2026 11:26

Never met a man who wears PJs.

AlwaysExtraHot · 07/08/2026 11:01

JudgeJ · 07/08/2026 10:34

My late OH had 'visiting pjs' for when he had to go to the bathroom during the night in someone else's house!

Similarly, DP and I sleep naked and have clothes for wearing 'around bed' when visiting people Grin

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 07/08/2026 10:52

WerewolfOfLoudon · 07/08/2026 00:01

But do you vacuum the mattress before getting back into bed?

Yes, this is essential! It’s been proved that dust mites in the average double bed produce 3 billion poos daily.

echt · 07/08/2026 10:47

Sahara123 · 07/08/2026 09:56

You don’t change your bodies ?! I have reserve ones growing in bell jars in my garden shed so that I can literally have a clean body each night

Excellent.

Sahara123 · 07/08/2026 10:47

Lentilcakes · 07/08/2026 09:59

I think it used to be common in the 70s/80s to do this. As a child I never wore knickers under pjs or a nightie unless I was on (as a teen). Now I think - how odd! My mum only did a wash once a week. No-one died but it seems odd now (she also boiled my dad’s snotty hankies on the job so really times have changed!!).

Just thinking about it my mum had 4 kids and washed once a week. Knickers in bed alone would mean two pairs a day each times 6 people times 7 days 😳 ! 84 pairs a week good grief ! That definitely didn’t happen . Washing day was an all day event, twin tub that drained into the sink . Long wooden tongues lifting sodden washing into the dryer. Tuesday was ironing day. We are so lucky with our automatic machines. Not surprisingly we re wore things more than once !

TheCurious0range · 07/08/2026 10:45

Floatlikeafeather2 · 06/08/2026 22:51

He's wrong. It's not what all men do. I can say this because I don't know a single man (not exaggerating) who wears pyjamas.

My husband does! Even if it's just a pair of PJ shorts

Gfe27 · 07/08/2026 10:44

Amazed I got to the bottom of page two without a mention of the quintessentially Mumsnet “poo particles” but I did skim read.

But no pants and in pyjamas for at least six hours a night x 7 is too much, yes. I will wear PJs for a couple of nights if I wear knickers under them. I also shower every night just before bed. I’ll get my coat…

AffableApple · 07/08/2026 10:41

This thread is hilarious.

But, yes, wearing the same PJs, without pants, for a week, is really disgusting.

I can smell them from here

Sahara123 · 07/08/2026 10:39

SylvanMoon · 07/08/2026 10:14

I'll have to try that. Which stem cells do you use and how long does it take for a complete set to grow (need to know how many bell jars I need to get)?

🤣
I’m now wondering if I could grow myself with longer legs and a smaller bust ?

Scorchio84 · 07/08/2026 10:37

Sereine · 07/08/2026 02:52

But where is the problem in using 😂😂?

Or even 😹?

Because it means replying to each & every poster I/anyone finds funny & no one has time for that or wants to see 30x a replies quoting just to laugh & clogging up the thread

@CypressMoon someone got their knickers in a twist ages ago & thought the laughter emoji meant people were spitefully laughing at them/others rather than taking it in the spirit in which it was intended.. I usually just use the heart emoji now

JudgeJ · 07/08/2026 10:34

ScarlettSarah · 07/08/2026 09:49

I think pyjamas for men are coming back into fashion... my 15yo DS wears them (NOT the type with a collar, mind... his are more akin to loungewear).

My late OH had 'visiting pjs' for when he had to go to the bathroom during the night in someone else's house!

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