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DH-same PJs, no pants, 7 days… am I overrea

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Yousay55 · 06/08/2026 22:48

My dh goes to bed in the same pjs every night -washes them once or twice a week and doesn’t wear anything underneath. We’re on holiday and hasn’t washed them in a week now.
I think it’s pretty awful to wear the same ones without washing them and can’t imagine putting on the same pjs at the end of the day. We’ve had a debate and he thinks it’s what all men do. I think I’m going to buy him a pair to wear everyday day so this doesn’t keep happening!

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herbaceous · 06/08/2026 23:13

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:08

I mostly sleep standing up by the side of the bed and then get the carpet cleaned each morning.

This made me do an actual LOL

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:11

Melarus · 06/08/2026 23:10

You slob. I go out each evening and buy a set of bed linen from John Lewis, so that I can have genuinely fresh linen every night. Then I spray the bed frame with Dettol and swallow a pint of warm antiseptic before bed

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I think I’ve seen you in John Lewis a few times when I buy my new mattress each morning.

Melarus · 06/08/2026 23:10

CatsLikeBoxes · 06/08/2026 23:07

I can't believe how slack you are, festering in your own filth for - what at least 4 hours 😱 I personally shower at least 3 times overnight

You slob. I go out each evening and buy a set of bed linen from John Lewis, so that I can have genuinely fresh linen every night. Then I spray the bed frame with Dettol and swallow a pint of warm antiseptic before bed

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:10

Lifesyoungdream · 06/08/2026 23:08

I can’t believe you only changed your bedding twice a night. I change mine every hour.That is so gross.

I know, I’m very chilled about hygiene.

Lifesyoungdream · 06/08/2026 23:08

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:07

Same, I change the bedding at 1am and 4am.

I can’t believe you only changed your bedding twice a night. I change mine every hour.That is so gross.

Pedant61 · 06/08/2026 23:08

It's completely normal, OP!

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:08

CatsLikeBoxes · 06/08/2026 23:07

I can't believe how slack you are, festering in your own filth for - what at least 4 hours 😱 I personally shower at least 3 times overnight

I mostly sleep standing up by the side of the bed and then get the carpet cleaned each morning.

CatsLikeBoxes · 06/08/2026 23:07

Redredrumdedrum · 06/08/2026 23:06

Personally I get up at 2am to shower and change my pjs before sleeping for the rest of the night. Can’t imagine how gross I would feel otherwise 🤢

I can't believe how slack you are, festering in your own filth for - what at least 4 hours 😱 I personally shower at least 3 times overnight

LemonSnail · 06/08/2026 23:07

Redredrumdedrum · 06/08/2026 23:06

Personally I get up at 2am to shower and change my pjs before sleeping for the rest of the night. Can’t imagine how gross I would feel otherwise 🤢

Same, I change the bedding at 1am and 4am.

Redredrumdedrum · 06/08/2026 23:06

Personally I get up at 2am to shower and change my pjs before sleeping for the rest of the night. Can’t imagine how gross I would feel otherwise 🤢

timtamsarebetterthanpenguins · 06/08/2026 23:05

Do you wash your bedsheets everyday if you think wearing the same pajama pants two days running is so awful?

Timeforachange26 · 06/08/2026 23:04

Floatlikeafeather2 · 06/08/2026 22:51

He's wrong. It's not what all men do. I can say this because I don't know a single man (not exaggerating) who wears pyjamas.

Same here actually

rockingaroundthe · 06/08/2026 23:04

No gross

His ball sweat just floating around the crotxh 🤢

Eyesopenwideawake · 06/08/2026 22:54

What's the difference between sleeping naked and changing the bed once a week?

BlueMum16 · 06/08/2026 22:54

I've never met a man who wears pyjamas.. Naked or boxers.

I've got the ick 🤮

AtlasPine · 06/08/2026 22:52

A whole week does seem a bit long but every day is also a bit wasteful of resources. Every two to theee days maybe, especially if he is otherwise a clean man ie showers daily, sweats moderately and manages arse wiping effectively.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 06/08/2026 22:51

Yousay55 · 06/08/2026 22:48

My dh goes to bed in the same pjs every night -washes them once or twice a week and doesn’t wear anything underneath. We’re on holiday and hasn’t washed them in a week now.
I think it’s pretty awful to wear the same ones without washing them and can’t imagine putting on the same pjs at the end of the day. We’ve had a debate and he thinks it’s what all men do. I think I’m going to buy him a pair to wear everyday day so this doesn’t keep happening!

He's wrong. It's not what all men do. I can say this because I don't know a single man (not exaggerating) who wears pyjamas.

hoarahloux · 06/08/2026 22:50

Doesn't bother me honestly. I wash mine twice a week or so, probably less if I'm lazy.

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