To ask if anyone has had a boob job and how it went?

No.. because if that's the only thing they are interested in.

If you were doing this for yourself, I would be more supportive and say do it as I have loads of friends who had theirs done and are v v happy. Your self esteem seems to be tied to what men desire which means this is an issue within yourself.. Kindly, address that first before you alter your body for the attention of a man.

So, I’ll let you in on a conversation I overheard at the gym.

Of course you did.

It sounds like you wouldn’t be getting surgery for yourself, but for a potential man you haven’t even met yet.

So, I’ll let you in on a conversation I overheard at the gym.

Men, chatting about a petite woman in the gym who had a boob job (it was obviously a natural one as I hadn’t noticed) and their comment on her went something like this:
“have you seen X has had a boob job?”

“Well obviously, they don’t grow like that overnight”

”I didn’t realise she was a go-er”

”me neither, might have to throw my hat in the ring with her, see if I can cop a feel.”

So yes, you’re right. Men do notice and (some) definitely like the “enhanced” look, but those same men then assume that you’re up for sex, as in they don’t suddenly see you as someone they would like a relationship with, they see you as someone to fuck.

Again, not all men, but I was quite surprised by the above convo, not least because this woman was waaaaay out of these men’s league (before and after surgery) but these losers only thought they had a chance with her once they knew she’d had surgery; it devalued her in their eyes.

Why? Because women with a larger bust inevitably attract the wrong kind of man?

I agree. It would likely be the wrong type of man you’d be attracting.

I have small breasts (34A) and I have never had any problems attracting men. And despite going out with some horrendously awful men in my younger years, I never had a single one of these men criticise my boobs or make me feel like my breasts weren’t enough. I’ve been with my dh for 21 years and over this time I’ve mentioned on and off that maybe I should get a boob job and his answer has always been the same…”You have beautiful breasts…don’t ruin your body for something you don’t need”. Men aren’t all attracted to the exact sane body type, just as women aren’t either.

If you want to get a breast enlargement for yourself that is one thing, OP, but don’t get one just for the benefit of men. Attraction is so much more than breast size and it’s sad that you think you need to change your body for someone to be attracted to you.

I had mine done 20 years ago! I don't regret it. However even though I'm not thin anymore, sometimes I do wish I'd gone a bit smaller. I was an A cup at the time, I think if I hadn't I'd be a B now naturally, after children. I do think one day they'll need to be taken out etc. Although I haven't had any problems.

If you want it done, then do it. Friends I know who've also had implants haven't regretted it. So no regrets, I've always felt my overall figure looked better and more balanced with them.

We're close friends of a family who all have small boobs. Oddly it was the married with 3 kids 35 year old who was first under the knife (her own decision, hubby had no say either way). She kept them for their 15 year life and instead of replacing them just had them removed. She said she felt much more confident.

Since then three others (each in early 20s) have had implants and they've all felt better in themselves. All four went from A/B to C/D, so nothing excessive, just enough to feel womanly without making them a focal point.

Note that there have been rejections by some men after they "found out", but not too many.

Honestly you don't need to do this to attract a man. So many actually like small boobs.

You really need to spend more time with normal guys, preferably as friends, and much, much less on social media and porn-influenced media.

Tbh there is a poster who starts a thread exactly like this every few months and if that’s you, then I really feel for you because it seems like an obsessive thought pattern. I hope you can get some help for it.

I have the opposite issue, and just wanted to give this side in case any points resonate. Occasionally I feel uncomfortable in clothing/thin I'd wear that if my boobs were smaller. I personally haven't had anyone leering but some women have experienced that (from men and women-a woman came up and grabbed my friend's, as if because she has a large bust that was ok!)
I find certain exercises harder, and unlike some, couldn't dream of not having high impact sports bras.
It's not bad enough (for me) to take the risk/cost of surgery, personally, but some women do, and if they grew after menopause and was really sore, maybe things would change. All I'd say is talk to a doctor, about how exactly it will look/feel/how it might affect exercise, and be sure they explain risk/recovery etc.

I'm not sure what sort of awful men you have encountered but they honestly don't think that.

No, daisy, they really don’t. It’s neither a positive or a negative in my life that I’ve had sex with so many men (and women) but there is one thing it taught me and that is that straight and bisexual men just love female bodies, they LOVE and desire us to an extent it is sometimes hard to believe. Obviously that can feel pretty toxic if it comes from men who don’t respect boundaries or who abuse but the vast majority of men just adore women’s bodies, and they simply do not judge us the way we judge ourselves.

Im not going to suggest you go out and have lots of casual sex because I don’t think you’re in a good place for that. Not am I going to say you shouldn’t ever have surgery, I’m considering it myself. I’m assuming you have had therapy and I hope you might have some more and find some way to feel about your body the way that pretty much every man you pass on the street feels about it. Believe me, they like your body.

Why don’t you think men can be attracted to a smaller chest?

might have just been the companies I looked at; I remember one was Transform. Who I’m not even sure if they exist now?

Not actually a recognised medical diagnosis as of yet though. Not to dismiss people’s symptoms just the research/evidence is very mixed. 😬