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AIBU to think my husband is taking his bad mood out on me?

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Itstheminorthings88 · 06/08/2026 17:39

Dh has come home in a bad mood abd just started ranting

He's in a bad mood as i forgot to order a few things in the weekly food shop (I usually just copy the previous weeks order and amend, this week we had mentioned adding a few other bits on a few hours before I did the shop and it slipped my mind completely) I offered to go to the shop but he said he would go as he finishes work at 1330 where as I work until 1700

His list of rants when he got home then proceeded to be:

I keep the dishwasher salt in the wrong place. For reference I have kept it where it is since we moved into the house 10 years ago, never been an issue before but now hes decided its in the wrong place and I am lazy for keeping it there

I finished work at 1700. The time I am supposed to finish. He moaned that I always finish dead on 1700, not 1659, ot 1655, but the time I am meant to. Yesterday I logged off at 1645 as I logged on 15 mins early but he doesn't make a comment about that

The kids have been playing too loud. I wfh today (with agreement) as he has to go into the office but managed to wfh fine while they played etc. But they were too loud for him while he was trying to relax after work

I give up!

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Devilsmommy · 06/08/2026 17:42

My DH would swiftly be told to fuck off if he started on me like that. Tell him to take his shitty mood somewhere else because you're not listening to it.

ginasevern · 06/08/2026 17:47

Men and their moods, eh. Tell him to go fuck himself.

Pearlstillsinging · 06/08/2026 17:50

Tell him you will happily hand over the responsibility for the food order to him. Oh and to.mind his manners!

FeliciaFancybottom · 06/08/2026 17:54

I think everyone (including men) is entitled to have the occasional bad mood; however, they aren't entitled to take it out on anyone. Have a rant by all means, but don't make it personal or critical of the people you live with.

ohsosomething · 06/08/2026 18:58

Itstheminorthings88 · 06/08/2026 17:39

Dh has come home in a bad mood abd just started ranting

He's in a bad mood as i forgot to order a few things in the weekly food shop (I usually just copy the previous weeks order and amend, this week we had mentioned adding a few other bits on a few hours before I did the shop and it slipped my mind completely) I offered to go to the shop but he said he would go as he finishes work at 1330 where as I work until 1700

His list of rants when he got home then proceeded to be:

I keep the dishwasher salt in the wrong place. For reference I have kept it where it is since we moved into the house 10 years ago, never been an issue before but now hes decided its in the wrong place and I am lazy for keeping it there

I finished work at 1700. The time I am supposed to finish. He moaned that I always finish dead on 1700, not 1659, ot 1655, but the time I am meant to. Yesterday I logged off at 1645 as I logged on 15 mins early but he doesn't make a comment about that

The kids have been playing too loud. I wfh today (with agreement) as he has to go into the office but managed to wfh fine while they played etc. But they were too loud for him while he was trying to relax after work

I give up!

What a misery!

I have no advice but to tell him you’ve had enough of his whinging he’s worse than the kids!

MongoosePerfume · 06/08/2026 19:08

What did you say back to him?

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 06/08/2026 19:15

Ask him who the fuck he's talking to, whilst looking behind you, cos it sure as hell isn't you!!

Don't put up with it. If he wants to be miserable, he can be miserable on his own and far away from you. Prick!!

TishHope · 06/08/2026 19:27

My ex used to do this, too. I used to watch him sitting there, silently brooding and looking for an excuse to turn his anger on to me. Unsurprisingly, he always managed to find something that I'd apparently done wrong.

You don't have to put up with this shit, OP. How often does he take out his bad mood on you and the kids? It's abusive.

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