Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

Offering porridge to your guests on holiday though, you'd make an effort

That said, you wouldnt be rude to the host when you are a guest

you literally say in your first post "As a fellow junk food lover" @gayestgal

That's so rude! It's also a 'you' issue. Plenty of us eat yogurt and porridge for breakfast quite happily. Do you only eat fry ups and fatty food?

When did I say I eat junk? I eat well cooked meals and provide the same for my guests

I am not looking down on anyone but stating my opinion to the aibu

So

Your taste in food sounds awful! So sorry. As a fellow junk food lover, I wouldnt want that and I wouldnt want a paella unless its done without any cuts or attempts to make it healthy

I cant stand mushrooms, and when i make a bolognese, its fatty, tasty and there is loads of pasta and garlic bread

For breakfast I would offer a fry up and some access to carbs. I would never offer granola

Sorry, being honest

BUT

There seems to be a backstory here

Have they lent you money before? Have they taken you away? They seem to dislike you 😡

Also, theyre being rude. They were invited on a free holiday, they should offer to fill up the fridge with stuff they like

No sorry, only offering granola to your guests on their holidays isnt appropriate.

You offer a proper range of food

That said, as ive said - you wouldnt be rude to the host.

I wouldn't worry too much about some odd comments from an odd poster 😂

your sister and her family are rude and entitled brats. Shame on you for offering them a free holiday apparently. They're lucky you are offering anything more than toast for the duration of their visit.

(I bet some poster would still manage to start an argument about the proper toasting process, so maybe not 😂)

To be fair I suspect the BIL is really embarrassed that they've basically had to accept charity from his SIL to be able to give their kids a holiday at all. While it's not an ok reaction to be so incredibly rude in the face of that charity, I think that's probably why he's trying to throw his weight around and assert himself. He sounds like the kind of 'bloke' who probably feels quite emasculated by the whole thing.

To be fair I suspect the BIL is really embarrassed that they've basically had to accept charity from his SIL to be able to give their kids a holiday at all. While it's not an ok reaction to be so incredibly rude in the face of that charity, I think that's probably why he's trying to throw his weight around and assert himself. He sounds like the kind of 'bloke' who probably feels quite emasculated by the whole thing.

'Lucky to have been offered anything at all'

So they were supposed to cook for themselves, is that what youre saying?

I cant imagine renting out a holiday home with a fabulous kitchen, inviting people, and not expect to cater at least a good few meals. Especially the first days of the holiday!

I'd have planned breakfast and dinner and then discussed how dining would work. I have repeatedly said that, they as guests, should've offered to pay for food.

I also said I wonder if there's more here, as the comment from the bil suggests underlying issues rather than just this, which is maybe why they didnt offer to pay for food, I dont know.

Thank goodness you're here to keep us all right.

I wouldn't worry too much about some odd comments from an odd poster 😂

your sister and her family are rude and entitled brats. Shame on you for offering them a free holiday apparently. They're lucky you are offering anything more than toast for the duration of their visit.

(I bet some poster would still manage to start an argument about the proper toasting process, so maybe not 😂)

A pasta dish isnt lazy when done properly, I can assure you.

I’m on holiday myself!! I’m not here to be a private chef! I have no ambitions to be the best “host” ever! I’m on holiday! I asked sister if she wanted to join us on holiday. She said she had no money to contribute so I said that’s fine, we’ll have plenty to go around. This didn’t mean I was expecting to be a “host” - just that we’ll all share the accommodation and food.
again, I’m not “hosting” I’m sharing

I would be surprised if I was served a lazy dish like pasta when someone is "hosting". That's kids food and family food on busy work days.

Bit odd to serve pasta when you host guests? I'd make more of an effort but each to their own.

I havent derailed the thread - ive offered valuable advice on what would be expected when you organise something like this

Its unfortunate, thumbelina, that you seem to lack the taste required for good food catered to your guests

Watery bolognese with a tiny bit of meat isnt what i'd offer. I'd offer a good helping of bolognese, cooked properly, in its fat yes, with enough pasta available to force a coma!

Thats what you do when cooking for people you like, we dont all like to exist on porridge and mushrooms thanks very much.

I’m on holiday myself!! I’m not here to be a private chef! I have no ambitions to be the best “host” ever! I’m on holiday! I asked sister if she wanted to join us on holiday. She said she had no money to contribute so I said that’s fine, we’ll have plenty to go around. This didn’t mean I was expecting to be a “host” - just that we’ll all share the accommodation and food.
again, I’m not “hosting” I’m sharing

You were name calling. That is rude.