Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

I’m afraid I also think the op offered to host her family, they are her guests, and she does know they’ve no money. These are facts she’s stated,

I think they’ve been incredibly rude, and of course rhey should eat what is given with enthusiasm and gratitude,

but personally when I host I do not do strict portions served up. I find it stingy, I’d never dream of measuring out 75g of pasta for everyone . And 600 grams of mince for 7 people is a below the recommended quantity, which should be 100-150.

personally I aim to allow people to eat as much or as little as they please and have some extra, I’d never invite anyone and give them recommend portion sizes or smaller, with a couple of small bits of garlic bread to pad it out.

so I find fault on both sides, I think the sister and hee family have behaved appallingly, but I think the op has been stingy and I’d not serve kids porridge or yoghurt unless I knew that’s what they liked.

the simple fact is she chose to invite them, she offered. For me it’s either do so generously or don’t do it at all.

so yes, fault on both sides,

They may be rude but many wouldn't be fans of the breakfast fare and that sounds like a tiny portion of meat with 600 gram of meat shared between 7.

I will respond to whomever I choose. You are not forced to quote me. Hth.

It is rude to monopolize a thread and continually assert that your opinion is fact. Porridge is not what you'd serve, or eat presumably. I happily eat it and would be grateful to be served it, especially on a holiday that SOMEONE ELSE PAID FOR.

So yes you are being rude and you should give it a rest now. We get it, you don't think it's proper. Stop going on now, you are being rude

Someone's never heard of Italy.

Huh?

OP can cook what she likes for her family on her holiday. Her sibling's family were free to stay home instead of tagging along (for free). There is 0 excuses for their behaviour.

How fucking rude are they?

A takeaway, spaghetti Bolognese, paella and breakfast food available sounds extremely generous to me.

They are inexcusably rude as are many of the posters here.

Exactly. 75g of pasta is the recommended measure. The people who complain must be eating too much.

By the sound of it they are being rude and ungrateful. Hope tonight dinner went better. Sending you heaps of patience!

Your sister and family are being VERY rude .. as are some posters here! I’d be more than happy to join you OP 😂 If it were me, I’d be thanking you politely even if I didn’t like the food or thought there wasn’t enough. I’d be helping out with washing up etc

And to reiterate for others .. THESE ARE NOT GUESTS!!

Its not rude to say that porridge isnt what you'd serve i'm afraid, its an opinion.

I eat well, i eat a good range of food and have a good diet - i love junk food like most normal people, but i have it on occasion

Like.. on holiday

Your relatives are just nasty. And very rude. YANBU.

YANBU, they are incredibly rude. Are they the kind of people to completely over indulge and live off crap just because they're on holiday?

1. perfectly normal and healthy portions. We literally have a weight issue and problems with portion sizes as a country. So it’s very expected to have such responses.
2. even if you did agree to host, you don’t mock the host! You keep your mouth shut and say thank you.

Stop being so rude. Porridge is lovely, any food cooked for me is met with a thank you, not looking around for more

OP has earned the money to pay for ALL OF IT. Her sister and family are incredibly rude not to bring any provisions at all, let alone commenting on what's been provided for them!

Also - if you only eat salty fatty foods granola and berries seem like deprivation, but it is real food and you should try it sometime

To be fair, having just made a spag bol, 750g, 6 portions, (onions, garlic, grated carrot, oegano, red wine, puree, 2 tins mutti), (three tonight) I didn't weigh the pasta and never have. Served woth a mixed salad: leaves, cu, tom, pepper, red oni9n, grated carrot, avo. No bread. I have no idea how much spag I.cooked weight wise.

GET OVER IT

THEY ARE NOT GUESTS

Okay 🙄

Well I eat excellent food and I also bake sweet treats for myself and guests

Life is for living at least a little

Offering porridge to your guests on holiday though, you'd make an effort

That said, you wouldnt be rude to the host when you are a guest

you literally say in your first post "As a fellow junk food lover" @gayestgal

I'm intrigued by what you'd do to a paella to make it 'healthy'? I can only think of one thing I'd maybe reduce when I make mine if I'd been given that brief.

OP you are right, they're clearly CF. Your breakfast options wouldn't be what I'd choose but the obvious solution to that is for them to say on the first morning, oh, didn't realise that's what you have for breakfast, I'll nip to the shop and get some cereal/bread/whatever. And offer to pick anything else up that's needed.

That's so rude! It's also a 'you' issue. Plenty of us eat yogurt and porridge for breakfast quite happily. Do you only eat fry ups and fatty food?