Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

For all those moaning about granola, fruit, yoghurt and porridge - or saying the teen may not eat those. It would have been really easy for the sister to throw a bag of supermarket croissants/ a box of cereal/ loaf of bread/jam - in the car with them no? Especially if you know you have a fussy eater.

They are having a free holiday. They are being unspeakably rude.

But seriously, YANBU @Hydranga

I wonder if your sister and BiL are being so rude and tacky because deep down they’re ashamed that they can’t afford to feed their own family or go on holiday? And they’re taking out their unhappiness at failing in the basics of life on you?

But I still think @gayestgal is your sister posting.

Well hello OP’s sister! Or niece.

How rude are you? And clearly ignorant about healthy eating.

It sounds really lovely. Let them cook for themselves and dont take them again. Enjoy your holiday

Was dinner time last night any better @Hydranga ?

They are unbelievable!

If B-I-L pipes up again, just say ‘yeah, well real men can provide for their family on holiday, but here we are …’

Why do you keep using the phrase “normal people”, like people with healthy tastes and diet aren’t normal?

I’m normal, but wouldn’t eat or enjoy processed bacon and fries breakfast.

Do they live on fresh air at home ?

I actually eat greek yogurt and porridge as my holiday breakfasts as on a normal day it's just toast and banana as I'm going out the door.

I think the food sounds fine, portions may be a little small depending on individual appetite but should be ok if served with sides like the garlic bread.

I've stayed at a friend's holiday home with her and other friends and i definitely didn't feel like I expected her to host, we all paid into a kitty and took turns to cook.
Importantly though, host or no host, it's incredibly rude to criticise!! Even if your cooking was awful I'd suck it up and sneak out later!

I also don't understand how they don't have enough money for food- ultra processed food which they seem to want is the cheapest you can buy. A loaf for toast, a few packets of biscuits, a big bag of frozen chips, and a bag of breaded chicken could cost as little as a fiver depending on which supermarket is close.

Don't let them ruin your holiday. Tell them they can sort themselves out.

As they’ve been invited on a free holiday, I’d expect them to fill the fridge and contribute towards the cooking. Incredibly rude and entitled of them. I would tell them to sod off and enjoy your holiday without them.

I usually cook 250g pasta for 4 of us, so about 65g each - so that seems normal to me. But I think we do eat fairly small portions compared to a lot of families, we are snackers so graze more and eat less at mealtimes. We just don't see it so don't know. On the rare occasions we have friends over I'm always amazed how much they can eat.

Having said that I think 600g mince for 7 is a bit tight. I would usually do 125g per person.

Breakfast is a funny one - there's a big difference between an 8yo who would likely be fine with porridge and a 14yo who might turn their nose up. My DC love oats and would be fine with it.

I don't think you're wrong, just different. And I think your sister's family is being extremely rude. They could offer to cook or have a quiet word.

If I were op I'd only be cooking for myself and my son, husband (no D) could fend for himself with the rest of them 😂

Hello OP. I think your cooking sounds lovely! They sound bloody ungrateful, and yes, they are welcome to go and buy their own food. I don't think you're stingy at all, you're sharing the food you already have with them. How about them helping and contributing to the meal instead of taking the piss? Unbelievable.

That's pasta with a beef and vegetable sauce. I'm sure it's delicious in its own way, but it's not Bolognese.

I think reducing me to a junk food lover is unfair. I personally love good food done right and good hosting.

And i said the bolognese, with its tiny amount of meat, sounded watery. Not to my taste which is why i voted unreasonable.

Soffrito is a veg mix, therefore some veg is included, but your version doesnt sound traditional i am afraid.

Why did you add in “proper”?

My school friend was Italian, her family were from Tuscany and they had an Italian restaurant.

My post was in response to the junk food lover who said no bolognaise should have any vegetables in it and if it did it would just be a watery, tasteless mess.

Understand now?

You werent being serious? Oh okay, I hadnt realised.

Oh, whoops.

I wasn't as serious as the waterypasta-gate poster was...

When I stay at a nice hotel with a big breakfast buffet I’d go for yoghurt, fruit, nuts. That to me is a nice treat. I also have also ordered porridge a few times on recent holidays, one was delicious with strawberries and pecans so not prison food. It sounds like you are just on a totally different page food wise to them. But no excuse to be rude. If really not to their taste they can buy a toastie loaf and box of cereal for rest of week.

Well no, she was going on holiday but then she invited her sisters family as an Act. Of. Generosity.

Well exactly.

Their behaviour is awful even if the food wasn't what they expected or wasn't quite enough for them.

Don't cook another thing for them and if they don't like it, they can go home.

I genuinely can't believe how many people are saying 75g uncooked pasta is stingy. I think some people just have never made a really solid spag bol and are thinking miserable watery jarred sauce. With meat, mushrooms and vegetables - various veg the OP says, I'd use peppers, aubergine, maybe courgette too - it's such a filling meal. Garlic bread for dipping.

The breakfast sounded fine too. Again, as a big fatty, I don't eat breakfast but yoghurt with fruit is nice.

I'm sometimes more active on holiday so want to eat more as I'm hungrier.