Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

Go on strike. Let them all sort themselves out. Tell your husband, your sister and brother-in-law that between them they can make their own food. Go out and have a nice meal of your choice. Sod them all!

They are being rude making those comments, but as she was up front about that she couldnt contribute at all, I would assume that some thought for their tastes would come into it.

Also, they are on holiday and used to bigger portions, Im not sure why you're bringing anyone's weight into the conversation, just serve them up enough so they're satiated. If that takes less food for you, great, but they're obviously used to more.

Ultimately you've either offered to bring them because yoh care and want them to have a nice time, or you want to use it to feel better than them in some ways.

Again though, their comments were unnecessary and rude.

Extremely rude of your sister and BIL tell them to buy and cook for themselves, husband could have stuck up for you to be honest and said they were lucky you were cooking as it’s your holiday as well or just said that was rude.

I cook 500g mince with loads of veggies and most of a pack of spaghetti for 3 of us and have a leftover for my lunch so it definitely doesn’t sound like enough. They aren’t contributing and obviously being very rude but if you’d invited them and said meals included then they do need enough to eat I guess. Maybe they’d not have come or brought lots from home if they knew they had to sort their own meals bit they couldn’t word things a whole lot nicer

Your sister,assume she's been married for a while and you didn't know how they would behave and their approach to food?
More fool you

You're family are being unreasonable and shouldn't of come on holiday if they can't afford to pay for their own food, tell them to go home and enjoy your trip on your own x

Is this post serious? Sorry but if it is wtf is going on with them selfish rude people? I'd tell them too go home and stop trying too ruin my holiday!

"Heres the catch! What complete CF!!!

Quite.

This thread reminds me why I'll never post for advice / opinions on mumsnet.

Well I just read the thread on a boring train journey and f me, that poster banging on and on and on about how OP should have splashed out to put on lavish spreads! And that vegetables are gross!
Ridiculously, insanely missing the point.

I hope you enjoy your hol OP and send the cheeky fuckers to the supermarket to buy their own food.

If people are starving or claiming that the portion size was too small (as so many poster have) when it's a perfectly standard serving size, it suggests that their stomachs expect more food.

It's you who is misunderstanding. It's not having a croissant for breakfast or a few takeaways on holiday that's the issue, it's people's insistence here that the portion was too small. That's why theres an obesity crisis - people are simply eating too much and have lost sight on what a normal dinner looks like.

Bonkers to do so much cooking and baking on holiday, it's a break from normal life surely? Most people eat out, have treats, do something other than domestic drudge.

You can spot who's swapped their hands for a spoon and fork in this thread.

Couldn't imagine being so ungrateful and greedy like some of yous on this thread.

75g of pasta is the recommended portion size and it’s what’s DH and I always have.

A lot of people would view this as a modest/sensible portion, what they'd have at home when being careful but not a no holds barred holiday.

Sounds a bit of a nightmare all round. You and sister have different expectations, that much is clear.
More collaboration might be in order for dinners.
But I don't agree with you cooking and paying for your sister and her whole family, she's being a CF and thinks if she just keeps saying they can't afford it then it'll be up to you to fix it.
Her whole family sound entitled and ungrateful and I hope you make this the very last time you try to do something nice for her.
I'd be tempted to tell them to fuck off home if they don't like it, that may well destroy your sibling relationship but tbh she's destroying it anyways.

The quantity of mince is very tight fir thar number of people on holiday.

I think people accept stretchimg it out a bit with veg or lentils (whether for health or financial reasons) at home but on holiday people expect richer "treat food", so plenty of food & not restricting less healthy choices.

Eg at home we'd eat weetabix porridge etc for breakfast but on holiday we'd get pastries, expensive sweet cereals, or things for fry ups eg sausages/eggs/bacon.

You sound very generous op but allowing them a free holiday.

They however are entitled cheeky fuckers

everyone discussing if 75g dry pasta each means starvation or obesity.

Depends who the "75g" is for! 😂

Guest-wise, they are just rude, and if they are still hungry, the polite thing would be to bring at the very least something extra, the starter, the salad, the desert..

Who said anyone was giving the same portion size to every person ???

Bonkers to love cooking!??

@Hydranga you've not been back today. We need to know how breakfast went, we're all invested!

125g of pasta per person! We never eat that much! Ours varies between about 60-70g for a substantial sauce like macaroni cheese, or 100g for pesto. That would be with salad but not garlic bread.

I think we need a poll.

(Can't comment on the meat as we're veggie.)

Sorry but it isn’t-the recommended portion is 75g of dried pasta. I say this as someone who likes a decent portion and usually weighs out 100g! Serving size is definitely 75g though.

but I agree with you-regardless of whether her family thought this was too small their behaviour was disgusting.

OP I've only read your posts- your offerings sound wonderful and your portion sizes sound perfect!

With the Bolognese, the fact you were doing double carbs (pasta and garlic bread) was more than sufficient!

Definitely a bit of both. Your portions are really stingy - 100g of meat and 75g pasta is tiny, recommended portion of most pasta is 125g and I’d allow at least 150g meat per person. And yoghurt or porridge for breakfast is unusual, most people would expect cereal, toast, eggs or similar at least.

But they are incredibly rude and ungrateful, so in your shoes I wouldn’t be inclined to pander to them either.