Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

They are being incredibly rude! Surely they don't expect to just sit back while your pay for and cook all their meals for the whole holiday?

If you ever do this again (and I don't blame you if you don't) then you really need to have a conversation in advance about what you are going to eat, if you are going to eat out, or get takeaway, or who is going to cook dinner on which nights. Talk about what you like to eat for breakfast/snacky meals and who is going to buy it. If anyone wants something special/fancy they they get it themselves!

I think porridge/yoghurt etc is perfect for breakfast and is what we would normally eat. But we might also do an occasional big cooked breakfast on holiday - and plan that in advance. Or people will bring/request the cereals their kids eat.

And fwiw, last time I did spag bol I cooked 500g mince and it did five good adult portions, so your 600g for seven with two little ones sounds fine to me. But I do 100g pasta per adult.

They are being extremely rude and ungrateful.

My own DC (teens) wouldn't be keen on the breakfast options but would eat it without being rude. Maybe suggesting to pick something else up for the next day. Depending on how much garlic bread I'd want 3 baguettes minimum. Your portions sound ok but only just for five adults and one DC. My teens eat the same or more than I do.

They are unbelievably rude. Who do they think they are?

I think your portions are a bit small, and the breakfast would't feel like "holiday breakfast" for many kids but it's beyond rude to comment, and frankly dickish behaviour to make jokes.

Any normal person would have offered to contribute as a thank you, or at least, bring the desert, bring some nibbles/ afternoon snacks or breakfast..

You're not being stingy! Those meals sound perfectly fine to me. But their reactions would piss me right off.

Wow what an ungrateful bratty family!

Never invite them again.

Cheeky bastards. Make it the last time you do them a favour and invite them on your holiday. You're being very kind by footing the bill for everything.

You sound like you’re cooking normal family meals, nothing weird about spaghetti Bol/ curry/paella I think it says more about them! The only thing I would critique is the 75g of pasta is a bit low for energetic teens and fully grown men, but that’s pushing to find a fault!

They’re rude to complain, but I think on holiday people often want to treat themselves a bit with food in which case your portions/ options do seem a bit stingy and boring. I do eat yoghurt with nuts and berries as my usual breakfast but on holiday would usually get something like pastries to go alongside as well to make it feel a bit more interesting. To me porridge is a winter food too so I would find it an odd option at this time of year. I wouldn’t say anything though if I was a guest!

Your bolognaise sounds fine but I would have probably done a bit more pasta rather than limiting to 75g, I know this is the standard portion recommended but again, on holiday I think people do often want to feel able to eat a bit more if they want. If I was hosting I would usually do enough that people can have seconds if they want to.

However, that said obviously they are very rude to complain. The polite thing to do when someone is hosting and the food isn’t to your liking or is leaving you hungry is to purchase some different food options and/ or offer to make the next meal. Due to their rudeness you are reasonable not to want to provide them any more food.

So they came unprepared financially to eat?

Ok look I get you don’t like eating out because of your dietary constraints but just go. They can then sort themselves out. They sound CFs and incredibly rude. Don’t let them walk over you, yes portions sound a bit low but who the fuck actually whines on a free holiday. Entitled assholes

I don't think the food sounds stingy! That's more pasta than I normally cook for myself, and I use max 125g of mince per adult, padded out further with carrots, peppers, mushrooms. I'm an active woman, a bit older but healthy, and neither under- nor overweight.

I'd tell them where to go.

They’ve been incredibly rude.

Personally I would offer things like bread, cereal, eggs and bacon for breakfast and would cook bigger portions for dinner but I’d never dream of telling the host that.

I would say the food does sound a bit stingy, and I might privately think that if I was them but I would keep it to myself and certainly wouldn’t say anything.

But the amount or type of food isn’t the point. They are incredibly rude. Not even just thoughtless or tactless but lacking in basic manners?!

Tell them to cook for/feed themselves, which presumably they would have been doing at home anyway, so they must have the money to do so.

You say your sister was stressed about money. Does her husband know this is why they were invited last minute?

I think I would say in front of all four of them something to the effect of “I invited you on this holiday because you said you couldn’t afford to take your children away but if the four of you are so unhappy about it you can all leave.” I kind of wonder if the husband and children are none the wiser and think that they were just dragged along because your sister wanted to join.

Are they always so rude to people? I would be downing tools at this point. As someone eise said they would have to buy food anyway if they were at home. They sound tight and lazy

I wouldn’t cook for them at all and tell them if they won’t to continue to be so fucking rude and ungrateful they can go home early. Honestly how are you not raging at their bad manners!

The pasta and meat doesn't sound enough, and the food wouldn't be to my taste personally, but they have been spectacularly rude.

We are a family of (mostly) tricky people to cater for, but that means we would take the responsibility to feed our children rather then accept your offer of food and then be rude.

Exactly

Presumably if they were at home they’d be going to a normal supermarket shop? ‘there’s the catch’? If you feel you’re being scammed with my generous free holiday and cooking, then go home!

They all sound awful and entitled. I hope the bastards don’t grind you down. Also your husband needs to confirm which team he’s on.

They’re so rude. And ungrateful.
however would serve way more than 75g pasta per person though and I use 750g mince for 5 people, so I think 500g mince for 7 people is a stretch especially when cooking for guests, there certainly wouldn’t be any seconds for anyone or enough for hungry children!

They're very rude.

I'd stop bothering to cook for them.

If they're so fussy and broke, tell them you've got the food and ingredients in and leave them to cook stuff themselves.

Cheeky fuckers.

Just cook for you and your son 👍

Fattypuffs vs Thinifers. The holiday was never going to work.

They are so ungrateful, bil in particular sounds like an arsehole. I would not be feeding them, you were very kind to invite them and it sounds like they are spoiling your holiday. Let them fend for themselves, if they can afford shopping at home they can afford it on holiday.

They are being rude but 75g pasta each is a bit stingy imo