Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

They expected all inclusive food on their free holiday? They are rude CF.

When hosting people, offer them good quality food and a good amount of it.

I like pastries, I can't stand fry up and would much rather granola than a fry up if there's no alternative option.

I never once seen a "watery" pasta dish with "a tiny bit of pasta" even when my kids were learning to cook 😂

I don't believe your posts are genuine

'Fatty' isn't a very appealing description - I've never heard it used positively. I appreciate that the poster may actually have meant 'rich'.

Fatty and tasty are the correct adjectives

Honestly - if you have to break down the calorie contents of PORRIDGE offered to your guests - you are not being a good host.

Next time op, head to waitrose (or aldi) and pick up a load of breakfast stuff

Pastries
Pancakes
Bread
Bacon
Eggs
Sausages
Tomatoes
Black puddding if thats your thing
good butter
Fruit
Jam and marmalade
Lots of juice
Tea
Coffee (if youve got a machine/cafetière) - if not, offer to uber eats in a Starbucks

Edit following below comment - maybe rich is what I meant. Just good quality bolognese, we know how this tastes (well some of us do, going by this thread!)

That's the recommended portion size. It's what DH and I have each and it's plenty. Have people lost sight of normal portion sizes??

Ultimately it is your holiday, you've done the food shop and seem to be paying for everything, you can eat what you like.

If I was servng a bolognese to guests Id do plenty of pasta, garlic bread, Id probably make it fairly meaty, however you arent hosting these people, they are essentially crashing your holiday. If someone provided me with a free holiday no way in hell would I moan about the food provided, and if I wanted specific things for breakfast Id bring them! They are being incredibly rude

They weren't at a restaurant, they were in the holiday home that OP had paid for, eating food that OP had paid for and then made. In that circumstance you are bloody grateful for what you get. You might think yourself a good host but you must be a terrible guest!

you know porridge has carbs don't you?

50g of dry oats cooked into porridge: about 170–190 calories, 30–33g of carbs, 5–6g of protein, and 3g of fat.

when i make a bolognese, its fatty, tasty
which one? fatty OR tasty? Because it's unlikely to be both

Your post to the OP was weird.

Shes hosting them on holiday! I am not saying she should cook every meal!

But you are hosting - offer a good solid breakfast, and maks sure your meals are tasty and filling enough for people to be groaning at the table!

The OP isn’t hosting them!!! She’s on holiday FFS..

No good deed goes unpunished eh?

They are incredibly rude and unreasonable because you have no obligation to be feeding them at all so any complaints are unreasonable. Stick to your boundaries, they are welcome to your food if they are polite, or they can cater for themselves separately.

I wouldn't call you stingy - you have been incredible generous to include them - but appetites are variable so if I was cooking for 7 I would plan meals that I was confident would actually feed 9 and plan for there to be leftovers (usually then incorporating those into soups or salads later in the week if not needed). In my family the smaller/slimmer people are generally happy with 75g pasta but the larger and more active/muscular would consider 100g to be a minimum portion with 100g meat

When someone else is hosting you, you don't insult the food. Especially when they're providing you with a free holiday.

As others have asked, how were they planning to feed themselves if they hadn't come with you on holiday (for free)? Maybe food costs more where you are now, but surely they can afford something they'd be willing to eat.

Welcome to mn, the under eaters Olympics

They’re extremely rude and very entitled.
However, that spaghetti 🍝 does sound very stingy to me, tbh.

None of my family would eat porridge or yoghurt for breakfast. I’ll be really honest and say that I’d expect some toast to be available. Do you not have any bread there?

What was the discussion about food before you went on holiday? Did you say that you were going to do all the cooking/catering?

If so, you should really have established the sorts of foods that everyone likes.
No, I am not being cheeky here. If I had invited my family to stay with us, I’d want them to enjoy it therefore I’d ask them. Particularly the children.

If there was no discussion about how the food aspect of the holiday was to be arranged, then that was a bit daft of all of you. It’s not like you were going to a hotel where there would be choices.

I do think they’ve been really rude, though. Maybe they’re just hungry!
But yes, they can go and organise their own food.

Given the only words that poster used were fatty and tasty with plenty of garlic bread and pasta I dont see how you can say that's repulsive. You have literally nothing to do off

😭 okay no! But I am a good host.

When hosting people, offer them good quality food and a good amount of it.

I'd be pissed off if I went to a restaurant and they offered me a watery, vegetabley bolognese with a tiny bit of pasta!

You host, you offer plenty of food, and make it as best you can!

That said, as i said, there seems to be more to the story here, and they havent been polite themselves

I generally think of myself as quite greedy but always do 70-75 g of pasta per person and use 500g of mince in a Bolognese which lasts 3 people for 2 nights ie 6 portions! I wouldn't really have liked the breakfast options but rather than complain and laugh I would have just eaten it then gone to a shop and bought cereal/ bread/ croissants/ whatever as extras for the next morning. Even if they didn't think it was enough food or what they're used to they are unbelievably fucking rude and tight.

yep.

I find that post strange too! ‘Junk food’ lovers don’t get to dictate everyone has to eat as unhealthily as they do!

They are unspeakably rude and stingy. They should have offered what they usually spend on food at home towards the holiday budget and shoukd have volunteerednto cook half the dinners and taken you all out as a thank you.

However, and I say this as someone who eats yoghurt and fruit for breakfast, the food does sound a bit stingy if it's just porridge or yoghurt and fruit; and 600g of mince for 7 is pushing it a bit.

As you are all on holiday, how about some croissant, eggs, bacon, good bread at breakfast. A bit more bolgnaise, nice barbecue with salads and pasta, etc?

But, they should have offered to contribute and you all should have discussed expectations in advance.

I've spent 35 years swerving two skint SILs and doing anything nice for either has always been a recipe for disaster. They're skint because they are lazy and ingrates to boot.

Your sisters family have been incredibly rude - and your husbands is't much better is he?!

To be honest - the oats fruit and nuts wouldn't have been my choice for a holiday breakfast and my teens possibly would of turned their noses up - but I would of offered to bring my families preferences with me and contributed by at the very least helping to fill the fridge with food!

Nothing wrong with the spag bol, would of been plenty for me and my lot especially with the garlic bread on the side - but I appreciate some families would of had a bigger appetite.

In your shoes I certainly wouldn't be offering to cook them a paella on the 2nd night - they can sort themselves out. if they went out and just bought sweet treats thats on them.

Are you a healthy weight?

These are perfectly normal, healthy options. I find your comment really weird.

Look, obviously they are being incredibly rude and there’s nothing wrong with your food.

However, you’re being too nice. At the first complaint I would have stopped making anything for them and told them to cater for themselves as they do at home. They are getting a free holiday! They don’t get a personal chef and all food thrown in too..

I would have had this discussion before the holiday though. Joint kitty for food - both go to supermarket together or do the order together and then split the cost. Either take it in turns to cook or cook separately.

And no your portions are not stingy-
most people massively overeat - especially pasta!

I’d probably tell them to go home to be honest. They are so far out of order.

Teenagers and kids can be fussy and rude - of they dont eat 'proper' food at home its hard to blame them for being fussy but BIL is an adult and sounds like a knob.

Playing devils advocate, regardless of who has paid / is paying surely in the spirit of a harmonious break you would have a conversation about likes and dislikes and plan meals accordingly.

Yes they have been rude so far and could have handled it better, but do you want to punish them at this point or have a nice holiday?

I dont think youre in the wrong but why not sit down with your sister and make a plan?

The teens are probably rude because of their parents-even the young kids, including those with additional needs in my extended family, have been taught how to be polite.
OP, I just can't understand why there are any votes for you being unreasonable! Yes, some say food should have been discussed and planned by everyone in advance, but surely you'd all know each other and stuff you tend to eat well enough that SIL should have been the one to talk to you, knowing you're doing them such a favour, if her family are going to be so fussy?
I appreciate your husband might have been trying to smooth things over, but he could speak up and change the food if he actually has a problem.