Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

Bit rich of you (unlike your fatty bolognese) to accuse others of making stuff up when you have repeatedly derailed the entire thread by fabricating some imaginary watery bolognese. If you don't know how to correctly cook a bolognese without making watery when including vegetables then just say that, no need to accuse others of substandard cooking just because yours isn't up to scratch.

Pardon the pun but this thread has turned into a bun fight!
I'm Team OP!

Your food sounds great, 75g of pasta in a meat and vegetable sauce is a completely normal portion with garlic bread. I wouldn't be making them anything else. And if they want a bit of Victoria sponge they can go and buy their own from Tesco 😊

and since people keep feeling the need to let everyone know they're Normal and Not Fat and eat Much More Pasta, I'm a big fatty and 75g per person is what I weigh out every time.

First off, they're obviously rude and ungrateful. But, I really don't understand how this has blown up on holiday.

They’re your family, haven't they been round to yours to eat before? How do they not know the sorts of meals you typically cook and have a vague idea of the portion size you dish up?
When you invited them, how was their no discussion about foid/cooking. It's fine that they don't like the same food as you, it's fine for them to have different preferences and eat larger portions. But I'm assuming they wouldn't have been in the dark on this. How did they not express that and suggest that the two families would keep cooking separate to cater to your different rates? Or they'd bring the snacks and extra sides to contribute?

Your food choices sound fine, but wouldn't all be to my preference in a holiday situation, and your portions would be on the low side for my family (we're healthy weights before you ask) But I think one adult could talk to another about this without hurting anyone's feelings. Families all have a different idea of what is normal. The way they've handled it is just rude. Maybe you've handled it poorly too. Do you think what you do in your family is "correct"? Are they responding to your implicit judgement of their food choices? Do you think you're better than them? Do they think you think that, even if it's not true ? They probably have a chip on their shoulder anyway since there's a wealth disparity. Not saying that's right, but it's a human thing to feel jealous. And maybe they're pushing back with rudeness at their perceived version of you lording it over them with your charitable holiday offer and "good" food choices

600g of mince for 7 people is not enough in my opinion but there are separate issues here:

1. On a holiday like this where food is cooked and shared it’s usual to discuss expectations and what people like - if I invited people on holiday with me and was covering the costs I would ask what they like for breakfast and other foods in general.
2. Regardless of how they feel about the food their rudeness is inexcusable.
3. If money is so tight that your sister can’t go to the shop you shouldn’t have invited her if you aren’t covering all the costs. Adding monetary stress to a supposed holiday just puts everyone on edge.

Your sister and her family sound like they have a different lifestyle to you and if that’s the case, a holiday like this where you are sharing all meals would always be fraught.

The spag Bol serving size is much smaller than we would prepare and eat at home, also when hosting and especially when on holiday we tend to offer more (although in my mind spag Bol is not holiday food and I don’t know why 😂).
Food/meals etc should really have been discussed beforehand, I wouldn’t want someone deciding on meals for me on holiday - they would have had to have fed themselves at home so they should be spending the money now on nice food they want to eat, contributing to the holiday in some way.
Was it said to them before you left that you would be cooking and/or all meals? With further information so they could decide whether they would join in or make something separately? The whole set up is quite confusing!

Anyway, you’ve done a nice thing but they should really have declined your invite if they don’t have any spare cash at all.
if perhaps they were planning on spending the next week running down their freezer and eating a random assortment from their cupboards until payday or whatever then maybe they just really don’t have any extra money. But then it would take more than a free holiday for me to go somewhere totally empty handed, if I knew I could contribute absolutely nothing then I’d have thanked you and stayed at home.

What are your well cooked meals?

What is not well cooked about a spaghetti bol on holiday.

OP nothing wrong with your meals. We holiday abroad every year to a family home and out breakfasts consists of muesli fruit greek yoghurt. Occasionally crossiants for the beach. There is leeway rest of the day day for ice creams, fizzy drinks, meal out. I cook a spaghetti bol once a week there too. Even at our all inclusive in May this year our breakfasts were the same.

Just got rude ungrateful family i am afraid

I agree about the size tbh.
I've got a 750g pack of mince for lasagne tomorrow which will be for 4 adults and 2 kids. There will be leftovers. For the 4 of us (2 adults, 2 kids), I'd use a 500g pack (plus bacon) and there is usually leftovers.

I did pasta yesterday, which was 480g for the 4 of us, and there was enough leftover food lunch for 2 adults today and some snacking in between. One of my children does eat like a sparrow though.

I don't understand why they op wouldn't discuss meal planning in advance though. Not everyone eats seafood so paella is quite a brave dish to cook without discussing it.

Id have struggled with breakfast - as im a fussy bugger who won't eat yoghurt or porridge. Id have eaten some fruit and bought bread for the other mornings.

Your evening meals sound great.

When did I say I eat junk? I eat well cooked meals and provide the same for my guests

I am not looking down on anyone but stating my opinion to the aibu

100g for mince absolutely is enough for a meal! I've been browsing recipes online and it seems to be a completely standard portion size. I don't think Jamie Oliver is known for skimpy portions and he uses 500g mince for six people Best spaghetti Bolognese recipe | Easy guide BBC recipe the same The best spaghetti bolognese recipe (with video) | Good Food. And my sisters absolutely love my homemade granola with yoghurt and berries and would be very disappointed if it wasn't served when we holiday together!

But the main points are that people going on holiday together should always discuss and plan food together in advance, even if only to agree that they will cater separately. And the OP's relatives are very very rude!

Did your "proper Italian chef" (who obviously doesn't make a traditional Bolognese) forget to tell you that people can cook and eat whatever they want?

A chicken tikka masala isn't proper Indian food. Doesn't mean it isn't delicious.

I think the Italian chef conversations are a bit of a derail!

OP only needs to establish it was a decent meal (which it was imo) not that it was a “proper” Italian bolognese or ragu.

Apparently the authentic recipe for Bolognese registered with the Italian Academy of Cooking only uses beef, pancetta, onions, carrots, celery, tomato paste, white or red wine, broth, and a little milk.

You’re the one “looking down” on people. You admit you eat junk but can’t conceive that good cooked well that has veg in it, is not watery. Get some lessons!

Absolutely. No mushrooms!!!

The proper italian chef i knew would be disgusted, and states that only a soffrito is the veg needed.

I learned from an Italian chef how to make proper ragu (bolognaise). For depth of flavour it has mushrooms, celery, carrots, herbs and pancetta as well as meat tomatoes and onions. That’s the correct way to make it. What’s often offered up in the UK bears NO resemblance.

Absolutely. But not mushrooms and 'various veggies'. Mushrooms in Bolognese are more contentious than pineapple on pizza, and the sort of ingredient that many people (especially kids) went like. Bolognese shouldn't just be used as coffee for beefy pasta sauce with random other ingredients thrown in.

Personally, I think mushrooms in Bolognese are an abomination! And not even having a loaf of bread for toast at breakfast is IMO odd.

If I was catering for another family as well as my own, I'd discuss the meal plan and dietary stuff in advance personally.

This doesn't excuse the rudeness of the SIL and family though.

I am not 🤣

I have hosted people and so offer advice on that basis

And it really isnt okay to imply that someone isnt as good as you because they want feeding on their holidays

They are being rude BUT the spag Bol portions seem very small tbh.

I don’t understand why they can’t shop and cook alternative evenings. It really isn’t fair for one person to do it every day.

Op your food sounds delicious & just the sort of food we cook. It was incredibly rude of them to complain about what you are paying for & cooking for them.
You say they had already bought their weeks shopping & it was mostly frozen. What do they normally eat in a typical day? Was there no meat, fish, fruit, veg, carbs they could have brought with them? If this is the case then your delicious , healthy food must have been a shock for them.
En joy your paella.

we get it, YOU are the sister.

It's more than acceptable to look down at people as rude as sister and her family are.

I think its the family who are the problem and are being ungrateful and rude. If they don't like it then buy and cook their own, you have given them a free holiday, you can't be expected to supply everything else as well surely?!

Porridge and mushrooms make you 'above' someone?!

No need to look down your nose at people