Am I cooking shit or being stingy??

@Hydranga you know yourself they are being ‘entitled rude twats’, just quietly seethe knowing this is the last holiday with you.

It’s always the freeloaders that are ungrateful and intolerable.

75 grams of cooked pasta is a small amount, yes.

What your AI generated nonsense has failed to comprehend is that 75g of uncooked pasta is a normal portion. It almost doubles in weight when cooked.

Stop using google AI before using your fucking brain.

I would cook one more group meal.

The first person to complain or pull a face would have their plate taken away from in front if them & put in the fridge. When they moan, Id point out if they dont want it they dont have to have it. The next one to side against you gets same treatment. Any moaning about hunger or finances...? They can eat what they were served or go buy their own.
Ideally lock any non-fridge items in the boot of your car first. And tell dh in advance.

Adult behaviour would be to discuss catering with your sister, but I just couldnt tolerate the neices or bil behaviour so woukd probably not manage to behave like an adult!

my rule is if anyone cooks for me, is always say thank you and remember manners

@Hydranga What you all doing when you aren’t eating or baking? Are you doing trips out or staying in the accommodation together?

God the sheer aggression on here, over something like this.

I am not a cheeky fucker, i dont know where you got that. I love hosting.

Yes obviously to adults are responsible for feeding their own family.

Obviously to CFs like you and SIL/BIL, that's outrageous.

I'd be telling them all to fuck off home! I certainly wouldn't be cooking for them or sharing my food with them ever again. Why are you cooking for everyone? They're a bunch of cheeky fuckers 😡

If my sister had offered me a free holiday I’d be in that kitchen cooking and I’d also be doing the food shop!

Tell them to either buy their own food and cook or go home. Enjoy the paella and the rest of your holiday.

Some posters on this thread seem to be confused by the word "Guest" when you are all guests in Self-Catering holiday accommodation.

If BIL and Niece wanted a bigger meal - 👉🏻 there's the kitchen, crack on, shut up or fuck off home and stop spoiling OPs holiday.

'Lucky to have been offered anything at all'

So they were supposed to cook for themselves, is that what youre saying?

I cant imagine renting out a holiday home with a fabulous kitchen, inviting people, and not expect to cater at least a good few meals. Especially the first days of the holiday!

I'd have planned breakfast and dinner and then discussed how dining would work. I have repeatedly said that, they as guests, should've offered to pay for food.

I also said I wonder if there's more here, as the comment from the bil suggests underlying issues rather than just this, which is maybe why they didnt offer to pay for food, I dont know.

Oh FFS they're lucky to have been offered anything at all. Please move along with your watery Bolognese BS.

I havent derailed the thread - ive offered valuable advice on what would be expected when you organise something like this

Its unfortunate, thumbelina, that you seem to lack the taste required for good food catered to your guests

Watery bolognese with a tiny bit of meat isnt what i'd offer. I'd offer a good helping of bolognese, cooked properly, in its fat yes, with enough pasta available to force a coma!

Thats what you do when cooking for people you like, we dont all like to exist on porridge and mushrooms thanks very much.

It doesn't matter if it's free. It also wouldn't matter if the portion was the size of a toddler meal. She's given them a free holiday and she's even feeding them. All they need to do is say thank you and offer to wash up.

If they are still hungry then they are free to feed themselves.

Why the hell is the portion size the focus here and not the rude and ungrateful guests?

Your portion sizes aren’t too small. 75g of dried pasta is the recommended amount for an adult. I think it weighs more like 125g when cooked so maybe the pp is getting confused and has 150g when cooked?

Anyway, that’s really not the point. They are being insufferably rude. I can understand the teenagers having an attitude but your bil should know better! Honestly who raised him with manners like that! The ‘there’s the catch comment’ would have really grated on me. He’s deflecting his rudeness by trying to make out you were expecting something all along. I don’t think I’d cook for them until I’d received a whole hearted apology.

It is, but pasta is cheap she could cook some more, if it doesn’t get eaten she can make a pasta salad with it.

it does sound like very controlled portions.

They are unbelievably rude. Bur if I’m honest I can’t imagine sitting weighing out 75g per person of pasta on holiday, yes it’s a recommended portion size but cook enough that people can eat their fill

It's a normal portion.

@RatherTardy the op very clearly says 75g of dried pasta - so the 160-180g of cooked pasta you mention.
It is a very standard portion size - indeed what us usually recommended on the side of a packet.

They sound like utterly vile, rude pigs. Their teen has obviously learned this gauche behaviour from their parents. Anyone defending them on this thread must be similarly gross.

This is what Google said...

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I cannot show images directly, but 75g of cooked spaghetti is about one small side portion or half of a standard cup. It fills a small spot on a plate, weighing much less than a dry portion because cooked pasta absorbs water.

What 75g of Cooked Spaghetti Looks Like
Portion size: About one small handful or half a cup.
Plate coverage: Covers a small area in the center of a normal dinner plate.
Weight note: Dry pasta doubles or triples in weight once you boil it in water.

Comparison to Dry Pasta
Dry weight: 75g of dry spaghetti makes about 160g to 180g of cooked spaghetti.
Cooked weight: 75g of already cooked spaghetti means you started with only about 25g to 30g of dry pasta.
If you want, tell me if you are counting calories or planning a meal, and I can help you figure out the right portion size.
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Here is what a small portion of cooked spaghetti looks like on a plate:

As you can see, a 75g portion of
cooked spaghetti
is quite compact:
Size: It forms a tight, small mound about the size of a fist or half a cup.
Visual Impression: On a standard large dinner plate, this healthy, calorie-conscious serving will look relatively small and leave a lot of empty space around the edges.
Would you like some ideas on how to add low-calorie vegetables to this portion to make the plate look fuller?
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Here is exactly what a small, healthy portion of
cooked spaghetti
looks like:

Visual Guide to 75 Grams Cooked

The Kitchen Scale: When weighed out exactly to 2.0 ounces (around 75 grams) on a food scale, the cooked noodles create a very loose pile that barely fills the bottom center of a small bowl.
Plate Coverage: Once placed on a standard dinner plate, it forms a small mound roughly the size of a single tight fist or half of a measuring cup.
The Reality Check: If you add sauce or protein, it might look slightly larger, but plain cooked noodles at this weight are a much smaller serving than what most restaurants provide

Hi @Hydranga

I'm currently on WLIs, so i have a very small appetite and get full very quickly.

I just googled 75g of spaghetti, and Google described it s a small portion, and i agree. That would not be enough for me for a meal, unless there was a lot of salad to accompany.

Everything else sounds fine and delicious.
And the rudeness when you've done them such a huge favour is awful.

Do you usually get on with your BIL?

And your DH has been an arse too.

I'd be furious in your shoes.
Would a frank chat with DSis help?

If anyone spoke to me that way they’d be wearing their bloody dinner.

Your sister is experiencing a classic case of fuck around and find out. She could have called out her kids (and husband’s!) shitty behaviour earlier. She or her rude twat husband could have bought their own bloody cereal if they were that fussy. She didn’t. Now they’re reaping the consequences and it’s apparently costing them.

I would want a sincere apology from all of them before I cooked so much as an egg for them again.