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AIBU to say no to a stripper for my husband’s party?

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ITanya78 · 06/08/2026 11:21

It is hubby’s 50th birthday party, his work colleagues are organising a party, which I am grateful for as I’ve just lost my Dad recently. However, one of the guys has messaged me (DH works with all men) to say would it be ok if they hired a stripper gram. I haven’t replied yet.

I was surprised, thought it was a bit of an outdated concept but I feel a lot of pressure to be the cool wife, say yes and not spoil anyone’s fun. However, I do suffer with body issues quite badly, I have a very flat chest that I was bullied about years ago. The thought of a gorgeous woman stripping off him makes me feel physically sick. I honestly don’t think I could cope with it.

So would it be ok to say no thank you or would that been seen as selfish? I don’t want everyone to think I’m a bad person.

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BadlydoneHelen · 06/08/2026 11:24

Why don’t you tell them that you don’t think he would enjoy it and it would probably make the woman at the party feel uncomfortable so thanks but no thanks

lifeisgoodrightnow · 06/08/2026 11:23

Tell them the 80s are calling and while they’re at it can they hand over their topless calendars. Completely inappropriate especially from work colleagues.