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AIBU to think everyone does what Betsy and Dylan did?

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Amusedatlife · 06/08/2026 09:50

the Betsy and Dylan storyline in Corrie- is “everyone” really doing this? Or am I just too sheltered?

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pinkdyno · 06/08/2026 20:51

NovemberMorn · 06/08/2026 19:21

I agree.
Sallys talk last night with the girl she is looking after was totally cringeworthy.
Coronation Street gets a 'topical' (or what they think is topical) controversial subject, and tries to make it into a public service warning....all they do is highlight an activity that most people dont give a second thought to.

But is that not the point? It was meant to be cringeworthy as Sally usually is?

I do the trustee stuff for a youth group, but my own work is younger children. So I was in the office yesterday.

They played the Sally clip last night and the conversation was wild. In the same response terms as crazy TIKTOK challenges become the norm. Until something happens. The shock of “everyone does it” versus “shit” was incredible. Even those who has not, had been taught it was normal.

FIoorboard · 06/08/2026 20:26

WomensSports · 06/08/2026 15:02

Stunned everyone thinks this is a young people thing IRL. The worst culprits when I was stuck in sex work were the silver haired brigade. That was 10 years ago though so maybe the demographic has changed but they were absolute bastards for it. I don’t know if the attribution of this behaviour to young men is more “Not my Derek” nonsense. Because I can assure you that Derek can and probably has. Wish it was illegal.

I'm glad you are out of that game then

FIoorboard · 06/08/2026 20:24

Amusedatlife · 06/08/2026 10:04

Apologies. Strangulation while having sex. Apparently everyone is doing it. In this storyline it caused a stroke.

Christ I'm not doing it!!

Alwaysalert · 06/08/2026 20:21

SummerNocturnal · 06/08/2026 10:39

Oh and you only need to look at the rise in defence claims that the murder of the woman was "sex play gone wrong" to realise that strangulation, whether accidental or deliberate, needs addressing.
It is like Andrew Tate, and misogyny in general. You need to discuss it properly without making young people feel judged. It will be interesting whether the social media ban has any effect in future.

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Hi, I agree that this topic should be discussed if it is something that many males expect from girls/women. What I would prefer, rather than young people of a certain age being banned from certain Social media sites, is that the content be banned for sites that are easily accesible by young people. As for Andrew Tate and his brother, I would not entertain them - they must feel inadequate to pull women apart and ask for or expect excellence from the females they go out with, they are a joke. I've been married to a bully (when drunk), but too violent so I sent him packing. Been out with another who after a few months also showed his violence, also very jealous like my ex husband so he only lasted 8 months on and off. I have been out with some nice blokes since then, but also other controlling or very jealous men. When they show signs of extreme jealousy or suddenly start picking on the things I wear or how my hair is done, I cut loose. Trying to navigate life can be difficult as it is, without trying to please a male who wants to exert his influence and ask or coerce you to do things sexually that you are not happy with. Someone very young like Betsy is, should be enjoying life to the full and to me, no young person, male or female, should be made to feel different or frigid or anything less than normal, for not doing sexual acts that could lead to possible permanent damage to their bodies. I mean once that act suddenly becomes the norm, what next? I wish people would not look at porn when so young as they may think that the sexual acts shown are what everybody is doing. If a person does not want oral or anal sex, a threesome, an open relationship, etc and the other person insists that everyone else is doing it, cut them free, and keep control of what you are happy to do and be confident to refuse to do an act that you do not want to do. Be young, be foolish, and be happy as the song goes but stay safe, this life is not a rehearsal, so don't take chances. For men who may read this, do not try and force your fantasies on girls/women. How would you feel if it was your sister, your daughter or another close female being coerced/bullied to engage in dangerous sexual activities.

danishyellow · 06/08/2026 20:19

Jesus Christ

HoppityBun · 06/08/2026 20:09

Clarabell77 · 06/08/2026 17:36

I agree - and the other message which I wasn’t aware of until I watched it - that even if it’s done with consent it’s still against the law.

Is it?
S76A
2)It is a defence to an offence under this section for A to show that B consented to the strangulation or other act.

MsSquiz · 06/08/2026 20:04

MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · 06/08/2026 19:05

but the point id ask is why do we need a tv soap to tell people, why dont people research these activities online before trying them etc

I think the idea is to open dialogue. It might prompt a teenager to speak to a parent or sibling about it - that a friend has tried it or their boyfriend/girlfriend has mentioned it or tried it.

teens are an impressionable age and the porn that is widely available can been seen as “the norm” even by porn standards

Thingcanonlygetbetter · 06/08/2026 20:03

Omg with older teens this storyline freaked me out as Corrie has form for doing storylines on things that are trends.

TeenLifeMum · 06/08/2026 19:59

Clarabell77 · 06/08/2026 19:47

Hilarious… 🙄

Fair to say we don’t share the same humour. You do have the option to ignore my comment 🤷🏻‍♀️

KinshipGran · 06/08/2026 19:57

Thank you for this thread. DGD and I have talked about these things before now, and they have been discussed in her PSE classes. It made it easier for me to remind her yet again about all the things she can say no to.

JustAnotherWhinger · 06/08/2026 19:56

MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · 06/08/2026 19:05

but the point id ask is why do we need a tv soap to tell people, why dont people research these activities online before trying them etc

Many many people don’t. And some likely think watching lots of porn is research as a scary number of young people don’t seem to realise it’s not real

Hence the massive increase of young people, especially girls, ending up with injuries from anal sex as one example.

JustAnotherWhinger · 06/08/2026 19:54

Pudmyboy · 06/08/2026 18:56

Crikey even if she liked necklaces it's still a good reason to dump them!
Statistically women are far more likely to suffer injuries from this, as they are much more likely to be the ones it's being done to.

My point with that was that nobody can ever claim that they thought she would like it. Everyone who has ever met her knows she has a serious dislike of anything touching any part of her neck. So it’s happening even to young women who are very vocal about it being a no-go.

Therewegothen · 06/08/2026 19:53

It's something I enjoy but don't do due to the risks, but I don't think "everyone" is doing it.

Clarabell77 · 06/08/2026 19:47

TeenLifeMum · 06/08/2026 13:21

Missing the point but I know a woman age 42 who had a stroke… now I’m wondering if this was what she was doing 😆🙈 (thankfully she’s okay whatever the cause).

Hilarious… 🙄

slughater · 06/08/2026 19:32

BauhausOfEliott · 06/08/2026 10:18

Even people who talk about 'choking' during sex don't usually mean strangulation. They just mean they like their partner to put a hand on their throat as a dominance/restraint thing, not that they're being literally choked or strangled. Most people who do that aren't actually having pressure applied, it's just a hand on the throat.

what bullshit am I reading here?
putting a hand on someone's throat is DANGEROUS do you realise how little force is needed to make someone pass out? and that passing out like that can cause brain damage?
why is dominance erotic?
if you are moving in a world where your partners think this is normal then move in a different world or chose better partners

and maybe ask yourself why this is something men do to women and not vice versa

I've had to tell a woman that no, passing out during sex is not normal- I don't want to have to keep telling women that

really if that's what people think they need to enjoy sex then they are doing something wrong, plenty of us out here in long, long committed relationships still enjoying sex that doesn't involve domination, humiliation or pain. Sex is supposed to be FUN

NovemberMorn · 06/08/2026 19:21

Sparrowsandbudgies · 06/08/2026 10:07

No, not everyone is doing it. And it’s hugely dangerous to imply that they are because it normalises it.

I agree.
Sallys talk last night with the girl she is looking after was totally cringeworthy.
Coronation Street gets a 'topical' (or what they think is topical) controversial subject, and tries to make it into a public service warning....all they do is highlight an activity that most people dont give a second thought to.

Summerhillsquare · 06/08/2026 19:19

Interesting @BauhausOfEliottthat your lengthy and articulate defence doesn't mention the sex of the victim and perpetrators, or as you put it partners.

Ponoka7 · 06/08/2026 19:12

Atschjvkbgj · 06/08/2026 10:45

I use clips from the soaps quite a lot in lessons. Hollyoaks did a whole series called ‘this is abuse’ which were really useful and they did an excellent storyline on county lines.

Hollyoaks has always been brilliant for factual information. They were the only ones who covered HIV factually and without drama. Combined with Geordie Shore, they allowed easy discussions for my then teens (now 31 and 29) and their peer group.

Pudmyboy · 06/08/2026 19:05

MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · 06/08/2026 19:05

but the point id ask is why do we need a tv soap to tell people, why dont people research these activities online before trying them etc

If only!

MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · 06/08/2026 19:05

Pudmyboy · 06/08/2026 18:57

I hope that's sarcasm! I would think the point of Betsy suffering a stroke is to let people know that this is a dangerous activity, especially for the woman!

but the point id ask is why do we need a tv soap to tell people, why dont people research these activities online before trying them etc

BigSkies2022 · 06/08/2026 18:59

Blimey. Corrie has changed since my seven year old used to watch with his Grandmother

Pudmyboy · 06/08/2026 18:57

pimplebum · 06/08/2026 18:56

I will give it a whirl now ive seen it on telly

I hope that's sarcasm! I would think the point of Betsy suffering a stroke is to let people know that this is a dangerous activity, especially for the woman!

MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe · 06/08/2026 18:57

daft question but why, what do they achieve from doing the act ?

Pudmyboy · 06/08/2026 18:56

JustAnotherWhinger · 06/08/2026 18:49

I think it’s far more common than a lot of people realise.

many elder 3 are 24, 24 and 26 and they’ve all had choking mentioned/attempted during sex.

Horrifyingly my DS has said he and an ex tried it when they were 19 after seeing it in porn. They’re both horrified now at what a risk it was.

One of my DDs has dumped two boyfriends for doing it randomly during sex. She’s very open about her dislike of anything like this (she hates things around her neck to the point she can’t even wear a necklace).

Crikey even if she liked necklaces it's still a good reason to dump them!
Statistically women are far more likely to suffer injuries from this, as they are much more likely to be the ones it's being done to.

pimplebum · 06/08/2026 18:56

I will give it a whirl now ive seen it on telly

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