to think my mum’s acquaintance seriously overstepped boundaries?
This woman is not a close friend of my mums. She is someone my mom sees for coffee couple times a year and/or chats to on phone once every 5 months. (or more like she talks for hours while my mum listens and never lets mum get a word in)
I saw this woman maybe 6 times in my life.
This is a family matter. About health/medical decisions/finances. a decision was made.
She overheard this topic from my brother who was on the phone, and twice I saw her asked me questions, have we considered X? and said you know if we made different decision and did X then we’d have X. saying it would be better for us.
As if kindly offering advice/suggestion.
I know I should have told her its private, but I just didn’t say anything/replied something vague like “we have other plans”, “we are not planning to do that” and changed topic. hoping she’ll get the hint I don’t want to discuss this.
(I later found out she bothered other relatives including my mum more often about this too)
plus she’s older, i thought she meant well and I didn’t want to be rude.
One night I saw her she began nodding her head disapprovingly. Then says “nope, nope, nope. You know what, it’s none of my business” and walked out the door. Before I had a chance to say anything.
then, she suddenly calls on video chat out of nowhere and begins telling me off and shaming me, as if i am her 5 year old child.
I honestly felt like a toddler being told off.
using these sentences:
“You refuse to listen to me!” (wtf!)
”why do I waste my time with you, you refuse to listen anyway”
“Look at you, living like this!”
“You like living like this don’t you!”
“I told you already, do this!”
“Your poor mother”!
”I keep telling you and you refuse to listen!”
”have you no shame!”
She then began telling me what I should do with my money/savings.
“I told you already, Get rid of them!” “Move them there”
Pointing finger at me.
I was just so shocked I didn’t say a word, her face freaked me out too. She’s always overly sweet smiling with overtly sweet voice when I see her
but her face and voice was all angry and aggressive.
literally no exaggeration like pic posted.
I froze up and listened to her rant at me for like 5 minutes, then said I have to go. Now I’m just sitting here confused
I know it’s my fault for not telling her it’s private business before, but surely that’s something you don’t call someone who is not even a close friend and tell them what to do and tell them off?
I’m also confused why she’s so invested in this