To ask your ultimate wedding guest scandal?

I am in my fifties and have always known this so this isn't something new. It is considered a bold all over colour and not really suitable for a wedding according to Debrett's. They have been publishing their guide to etiquette and listing nobility and gentry in the UK since 1769.

My PIL had it in their house and it was a very interesting read and I could see where a lot of their opinions had come from when it came to our wedding choices.

You didn't get married in the 80s in Hertfordshre by any chance?

We had this when we went to a uni friend's wedding. A group of us were invited to the ceremony and evening reception but not the sit down meal.

One of the group decided that wasn't on and she and her boyfriend crashed the sit down reception. She had already been told off for lighting up a cigarette in church.

I was at a wedding where one of the guests decided to do a few lines of coke right before dinner could start (to suppress her appetite apparently) and ended up collapsing right in front of the open buffet; supposedly the coke was laced with something which caused her to have a seizure.

Out of propriety, we were all asked to leave the hall while she received first aid and they waited for the ambulance to arrive but by the time the paramedics got there, stabilised her and got her into the ambulance over an hour had already passed. Then because she had released 3 different types of bodily fluids all over the place, the venue had to do a proper deep clean so it was nearly 2 hours before the hall could be reopened and by that time everyone had left / wandered off into the city centre in search of food as we were all really hungry (word had got back that the buffet was a write off) so that was basically the end of the wedding reception. As the buffet had just been put out when she collapsed right in front of it, the food had to be thrown away due to the risk of contamination from airborne particles so not only did the bride and groom lose all that food / money and miss out on their reception, but they also lost money on a DJ who never got to play, favours that never got given out, a photobooth that went unused and they also had to pay out to meet the minimum payment for the bar. Then the cherry on top of the non cut wedding cake was that they also got given a hefty clean up fee from the venue as well!

We had two people turn up to the sit down reception who had not been invited, nor catered for nor on the seating plan. They shoved themselves onto a table and ate and drank plenty. Bless them :(
I also heard my cousin ask a member of the wait staff if he 'wanted to come outside and say that mate '

I was once accidentally the scandalous guest.

In my early twenties I went to my first wedding and wore a 50s style black dress covered in little pictures of red cherries with green leaves. Wore it with red accessories and thought I looked very cool and retro.

Found out on the day that the bride’s family was very traditional, and strongly believed that wearing black to a wedding meant that you were mourning it, wearing red meant you’d previously slept with the groom, and wearing green meant that you were envious of the wedding.

Add to that the fact that I wore pictures of cherries (and cherry earrings) and they concluded that I’d lost my virginity to the groom, wished I was marrying him, and had chosen to publicly announce these facts through my outfit.

I have been very careful with wedding guest outfits since then!

I dont understand why people do this.

Had a similar issue with my own wedding (me) and my cousins wedding (her groom), although nowhere near as dramatic. One party clearly doesnt want to get married and others force/talk them into it, and inevitably the marriage doesnt last long!

In my case, I had a baby at 17 and my mother was "shamed" by that (this was 1990 not 1950!) and when my boyfriend of 6 months who was jealous and possessive and controlling, wanted to get married my mother decided that this would make me "respectable". I dont consider it my first marriage as I basically had no choice, I didnt do it, it was done to me. We lasted 2 and a half years from first date to divorce......what a surprise! My sister spent the whole night before talking me into it (she was 22, now at 50+ she says that she regrets that).

If someone is running away the worst thing you can do is talk them into marrying someone they dont want to marry! If only for the sake of the poor sod they will be marrying. Short term its awful but long term its better for everyone.

At a Reception in a marquee (well, big gazebo) in a back garden in Ilford a neighbour was invited. He started chatting people up and inviting them to his house. Eventually about 4 women were in his house two doors down having group sex. One of them came back over the garden fence and urged me to join them (I didn't). They were all climbing through the gardens all afternoon.

One of them had an autistic son who was distressed because he couldn't find his Mum and badly bashed another kid on the head. Everyone was saying 'where's his Mum?' and I had to explain she was away having sex with the guy from 2 doors down, Then she came back and the mother of injured child attacked her.

At a Reception in a marquee (well, big gazebo) in a back garden in Ilford a neighbour was invited. He started chatting people up and inviting them to his house. Eventually about 4 women were in his house two doors down having group sex. One of them came back over the garden fence and urged me to join them (I didn't). They were all climbing through the gardens all afternoon.

One of them had an autistic son who was distressed because he couldn't find his Mum and badly bashed another kid on the head. Everyone was saying 'where's his Mum?' and I had to explain she was away having sex with the guy from 2 doors down, Then she came back and the mother of injured child attacked her.

My wedding got invaded by the Arsenal team who were all staying at the hotel. Everyone was like......what bride and groom.

Not me, but years ago, someone I knew was telling me about their own wedding. Families had never met before. Turned out that brides dad had had an affair with grooms mum. Bride married her half brother. They now have two children with severe special needs.

Groom and his best man (also his brother) doing coke in the loos. Groom drags him by his feet onto the dance floor at 9pm. He's in full cardiac arrest screaming for help. Bride is doing cpr. Us bridesmaids try to get all the little kids outside. Ambulance arrives. Blue lights him to hospital. He died. All grooms family leaves the wedding. Police arrive. Shut off the music and place themselves outside the loos. Groom at a table crying. Bride still trying to save her wedding and dance in silence....

Groom and his best man (also his brother) doing coke in the loos. Groom drags him by his feet onto the dance floor at 9pm. He's in full cardiac arrest screaming for help. Bride is doing cpr. Us bridesmaids try to get all the little kids outside. Ambulance arrives. Blue lights him to hospital. He died. All grooms family leaves the wedding. Police arrive. Shut off the music and place themselves outside the loos. Groom at a table crying. Bride still trying to save her wedding and dance in silence....

One of my friends went to a wedding where the bride wanted all the men in kilts to dance to 'you can leave your hat on' from the full monty then lift their kilts to show their willy's. Friends DH declined and she was furious.

I'm confused. Is there something wrong with wearing a red dress and jewelry to a wedding?

At a Reception in a marquee (well, big gazebo) in a back garden in Ilford a neighbour was invited. He started chatting people up and inviting them to his house. Eventually about 4 women were in his house two doors down having group sex. One of them came back over the garden fence and urged me to join them (I didn't). They were all climbing through the gardens all afternoon.

One of them had an autistic son who was distressed because he couldn't find his Mum and badly bashed another kid on the head. Everyone was saying 'where's his Mum?' and I had to explain she was away having sex with the guy from 2 doors down, Then she came back and the mother of injured child attacked her.

My exH’s friend’s girlfriend wore a white lace, off the shoulder midi dress to my wedding. No other colours on it- just white- with a white flower in her hair.

It was only the second time I’d met her.