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greenbean80 · 05/08/2026 19:00

Well, my story is pretty scandalous. I’m from Indian heritage … a cousin I had not seen for years invited by my family to my wedding - she wore her bloody wedding outfit her glam reception - red outfit - all her freaking jewellery I mean Wtaf and I’m still not over it and it’s been 17 years

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olafree · 07/08/2026 17:11

At my first wedding my Scottish relatives were thoroughly drunk and one lifted his kilt just as my nan was walking past him. She grabbed his penis and walked him to the bar by it.

Error404FucksNotFound · 07/08/2026 16:59

Reallyneedsaholiday · 07/08/2026 16:34

I don't know much more tbh. Just that there was a huge row. They decided not to get an anullment.

The marriage is void regardless. Are they not worried it will be found out and theyll be charged?
Edit sorry just read you dont know much more. Im just really curious.

Mariets · 07/08/2026 16:46

A girl I knew changed her mind about getting married but her dad was terminally ill and her mum said "don't tell him just do it" so they did. They spent the night in separate rooms then had the marriage annulled soon after. He died a few weeks later never knowing the truth.

Error404FucksNotFound · 07/08/2026 16:42

Reallyneedsaholiday · 07/08/2026 16:30

The bride 😳
Genuine story

And they married anyway and went on to have children?

Anjo2011 · 07/08/2026 16:39

At a friends wedding reception one of the other guests took a shine to the outdoor furniture at the venue. They put two of the wooden patio chairs in their car and drove home. The venue had to call the newlyweds and tell them that the guest had been seen on CCTV stealing them. They were returned.

Reallyneedsaholiday · 07/08/2026 16:34

Tuesdayschild50 · 06/08/2026 08:39

This is awful did no one say anything or get on that they are related.

I don't know much more tbh. Just that there was a huge row. They decided not to get an anullment.

Reallyneedsaholiday · 07/08/2026 16:32

PhaseFour · 06/08/2026 07:03

My jaw dropped when I read this. How sad.

My face has subtitles ... goodness what those read when she told me about it.

Reallyneedsaholiday · 07/08/2026 16:30

Lilyargin · 06/08/2026 16:08

I don’t believe this. “Someone I knew was telling me about their own wedding”. So the bride or the groom told you this?

The bride 😳
Genuine story

DancingNotDrowning · 07/08/2026 16:25

I went to a wedding at a very posh London hotel where two of the guests got absolutely wasted and were practically shagging on a sofa in one of the vestibules outside the main reception area.

they were both married to other people and apparently the bloke had a massive crush on the bride. One of the bridesmaids had to go and physically pull them apart before someone less tolerant caught them at it.

CoffeeCantata · 07/08/2026 15:27

Pugdogmom · 07/08/2026 15:24

Saddest story ever. I work in a building that has a registry office in it. Wedding was going on upstairs. Then we heard sirens and a lot of commotion. Bride and groom decided to get married after years of living together as groom had a terminal illness. Sadly he took a heart attack before the vows and was pronounced dead at scene.

So sad - but in those tragic circumstances perhaps it’s consoling that he died in a moment of happiness and fulfilment.☹️

Pugdogmom · 07/08/2026 15:24

Saddest story ever. I work in a building that has a registry office in it. Wedding was going on upstairs. Then we heard sirens and a lot of commotion. Bride and groom decided to get married after years of living together as groom had a terminal illness. Sadly he took a heart attack before the vows and was pronounced dead at scene.

ilovemykindle · 07/08/2026 14:49

I didn't know about wearing red to a wedding. What should I think in this situation.
My Mother in law wore red to our son's wedding. I hope it was ok as I wore Pink.

inickedthisname · 07/08/2026 14:24

theemmadilemma · 07/08/2026 13:14

Not if it's RED.

Even the link you provided said that.

Yeah this is the thing @Ansells. Indian weddings are usually big events with lots of days of celebrations. So you might buy a lehenga and wear it to the event that’s for the families to meet and blessings etc. but you wouldn’t be wearing all the stuff you wear to the actual marriage ceremony. So it’d be a ‘wedding lehenga’ but you could wear it again, if that makes sense.

But, you wouldn’t (unless you’re like the women who have turned up to others western weddings in a white lace gown with a train) turn up wearing your actual red and gold wedding clothes and all your wedding jewellery (which, again, is specific). If you do that, it’s weird and Op is right to think so! I have only known one person to do this and she is pretty nuts (and was clearly bitter that she wasn’t the one getting married!)

Ansells · 07/08/2026 13:18

theemmadilemma · 07/08/2026 13:14

Not if it's RED.

Even the link you provided said that.

Literally only one person in the link has said that they personally wouldn’t, not that it isn’t a thing that people do…

theemmadilemma · 07/08/2026 13:14

Ansells · 06/08/2026 00:11

I’m not Indian but my closest friend is. She has definitely told me brides rewear their wedding lenghas at other weddings. That the amount of make up, hair and jewellery the bride has means there’s no confusion over the bride, but it’s definitely a thing. She got married last year and was looking forward to wearing it again to a wedding later this year but is now pregnant.

Could it be a thing depending on culture?

ETA that I just googled and this came up:

https://www.reddit.com/r/DesiWeddings/s/ASVKehPEtd

Really don’t want to come across like I know more about your own culture than you, just trying to ease your feelings that it may not have been a deliberate slight!

Edited

Not if it's RED.

Even the link you provided said that.

MrPrettyDamnCosmic · 07/08/2026 13:12

HoldingOntoMySanity · 07/08/2026 12:52

Ahah! That was it! Should have known he never wrote his own speech.

The full quote is even better. @Elsvieta

"There is no reciprocity. Men love women. Women love children. Children love hamsters. Hamsters don't love anyone".

HoldingOntoMySanity · 07/08/2026 13:02

I have some funny stories from my wedding though- DH wore the same morning coat he wore the first time around, because it was the only one he had and his parents did not give us a wedding gift because they had 'spent enough' on a gift the first time too. I was so thrilled to be marrying DH that I didn't care. 22 years this year. Smile And I got on great with his parents who were really terrific and his dad actually left me his house when he sadly died so i guess I can overlook the wedding present thing.I absolutely adored my FIL, in case that bit wasn't clear.

HoldingOntoMySanity · 07/08/2026 12:52

Elsvieta · 06/08/2026 07:40

"Men love women, women love children and children love hamsters" - Alice Thomas Ellis

Ahah! That was it! Should have known he never wrote his own speech.

BippidyBoppety · 07/08/2026 12:47

1980's - My older (and always broke) sister asked to borrow my dressy black trouser suit (short jacket with satin collar and cropped skinny leg trousers) and wore it to our younger sisters big Catholic Church wedding. I copped some of the rage for lending it, younger sister has been known to bring this up on several occasions.

LeedsLoiner · 07/08/2026 09:29

NotaMumYet9323 · 06/08/2026 19:57

Groom was marrying the best friend of a girl he was obsessed with for years, slept with her etc, they were together because said girl wasn't really into him so palmed him off to bff.

Even weirder this girl was maid of honour who'd had slept with the groom's best man and half of the grooms friendship group who were in attendance at the wedding. She also has weird attachments to these men even though she has a boyfriend, including my own husband who she still tries to initiate contact with occasionally. We've spent many times laughing at her messages.

At the wedding she was always looking over at us while her poor man sat looking glum. At one point she cornered my husband for a hug and told him how a song always reminds her of him 🤮

Maybe not scandalous but a massive ICK 🤣

A cousin got married and there were a number of people from his university "friends group" several of which were couples - after a few drinks it became obvious that they'd all shagged each other at various times and that there was lots of unresolved stuff around who finally ended up with who ending in a massive row.

JudgeJ · 06/08/2026 22:44

greenbean80 · 05/08/2026 22:45

No this wins!! Omg

It would make a good episode of Two Doors Down I think!

greenbean80 · 06/08/2026 22:32

twinklystar23 · 06/08/2026 22:13

My mum hired an escort to accompany her to my wedding. Total cringefest

wtaf More info… is he in the photos?!

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8misskitty8 · 06/08/2026 22:30

At my cousins wedding 2 of my aunts. One blood and one married in, had an argument in the toilets. The married in aunt is an utter cow and had always hated blood aunt. It became physical, hair pulling etc.
I was stuck in a cubicle.

8misskitty8 · 06/08/2026 22:27

Somerford · 06/08/2026 17:58

Only one bloke objected to this?!

Only some of the men were in kilts and others said no but she was furious at my friends husband as he was the best man !
Bride was a bit batshit. When she felt there wasn't enough attention on her she pretended to faint and had to be carried around the rest of the evening.
They are now divorced.

Goditsmemargaret · 06/08/2026 22:24

twinklystar23 · 06/08/2026 22:13

My mum hired an escort to accompany her to my wedding. Total cringefest

We need way more details