Should I report this mum? Is it even reportable?

Unfortunately lots of people do this type thing. Unless the current boyfriend is actually abusive towards her or the kids and there is neglect then there's nothing to report.

But she is entitled to try and find a partner, a decent one. She shouldn't have to be single forever just because she's been abused in the past. You just have to hope she's learnt from her mistakes.

You may quite rightly disagree with the speed at which she allows men into the family, but I don't think that itself is a safeguarding concern in isolation.

Sure OP, just ignore it.

Because this never happens and no mother can possibly be expected to have a life without pimping her kids to attract random cock.

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-birmingham-65912730

You should absolutely report this. You can do it anonymously via the nspcc website but be prepared that if what you’re sharing is information others than you won’t know then if she is contacted she will likely know it came from you. It may not meet the threshold for intervention at this point, but should anything come up in the future professionals can act more quickly and safeguard the children better. You also never know, they could do a few checks and realise the latest partner has a worrying record, or nursery/school etc also share concerns, which could prompt involvement.

Edited to add - it’s especially important that you share if you have any reason to believe she’s leaving the kids with new partners, letting them sleep together, do personal care etc.

That there'll be a need to find more foster parents in the next 12 months?

Hopefully if something's done early there'll be no need for emergency responses and white tents in the future.

OP report, but only if sure no repercussions for you. It's a tough one and they probably won't do anything.

Just report @Moonstars1and if social services agree with the others on this thread, that there’s no basis for concern, then nothing will come of it. But if, like PP said, that there’s a bigger picture that you’re not aware of and other people have also made reports, then your additional report could really make a difference.

I don't think most people are saying there's no concern - nothing to report/nothing that social services will act on is not the same thing.

Confusing but not illegal or something social services would get involved with. The threshold is incredibly high.

You can’t report someone for being stupid: unless there’s actual concerns that someone has done something there’s nothing to report

Do you know if any of the men are under probation? Or is it past criminal offences?

oh agree I don’t condone this but at the same time it does not meet the definition of any sort of abuse to be reported does it

Is it possible to do a Claire's law/Sophie's law request on someone else behalf? I don't know if that might be the best way of dealing with this, if it were possible?

Some of these replies are shocking.
The bar for some women is so low.

Definitely report your concerns to SS.

They may not do anything but hopefully her name will be put on some sort of system.

Do you know if her ex’s were charged?

I know of several men who have left prison and moved straight into women’s homes and they all have kids.
These women had never even met these men once.
Many of these men were in prison for DV and one for child abuse offences.
Some of these men simply just need somewhere to live but sometimes these men prey on these vulnerable women.

At the very least, they can check if her new partner is allowed to live with kids.

She is vulnerable and not capable of protecting her children and so I’d think nothing of reporting her.

The baby probably wouldn't remember anything but the older child will have had at least 4 "uncles" living there in as many months. Must be confusing for her.

Is the toddler at nursery? Can you send a alert there, so they can be alert for any signs of abuse?

Other's mentioned Sarah's Law. Maybe this if there is an indication of inappropriate behaviour to/around the children:

https://www.met.police.uk/rqo/request/ri/request-information/sarahs-law/information/v1/sarahs-law-child-sex-offender-disclosure-scheme/

Anyone who is worried about someone's behaviour towards a child can apply, not just a child's parents. This includes people like a grandparent, neighbour or friend.
No matter who makes the application, if there is information we decide to share, we will tell whoever can use the information to keep the child safe.
This might not be the person who made the application, it might be someone else (like the child's parents).

You may not agree with her values but what are you actually reporting ? You can’t report someone for having a boyfriend around her kids surely

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I've heard of women doing this just to get their houses fixed up.

That's what we all thought but as they were new builds I don't think they had many problems....

It’s awful isn’t it? Your intuition is telling you that this is a potentially unsafe situation. But sadly unless one of the children are harmed there’s very little you can do. I guess all you can do is keep your eyes and ears open and spend some time with the children on occasion to see what you sense.

Now thats one way to get your house done up on the cheap

So sad for the children that their mother can't prioritise them over the next bloke who fancies shacking up with her. I guess not much will come of a report until something has actually happened but let's hope it's nothing too serious or something which remains concealed for years. Bit shocked by all the posters defending her choices and saying it's something to do with class etc.

This ^

I can remember a single/divorced mother living across the road from me on a new-build estate.
Her husband had left and she had two DCs one 5 (I think because she went to school) and a baby.
She used to take the older one to school with baby in the pram and then come back. After lunch she used to push the pram around the area in high heels and a tight skirt, chatting to the workmen on the estate.
After a while she moved a plumber in, than after a few months it was a joiner and then a plasterer, then a tiler.
I used my connections/contacts to alert the Health Visitor who visited a couple of times.
She didn't find any issues and that was the end of it.
Eventually her husband came back.

So I think you're on a hiding to nothing with this OP.

If you use your emotional intelligence and read between the lines, it doesn’t sound as if the OPs life has been that simple

I think you could possibly peacify yourself with calling your local social services, they won't be able to do anything as there's no evidence or even enough suspicion that the children are actually being harmed but you will have done something and maybe it's kept on file and if anything else of concern happens it helps build a picture.

Sadly all you can do is keep a close watch and report anything that might hit the threshold of a social worker looking into it. I get your concerns as it does sound like a chaotic life for the children but chaotic doesn't automatically equal physical/s abuse and we can only hope these men have some morals that whilst they will assault an adult they wouldn't touch a child.

I am going to assume that growing a relationship with this young relative yourself in the hope of being able to mentor her and help her make different choices is not really possible?

Not automatically. But it is a legitimate safeguarding concern. A mother repeatedly bringing new, unvetted men into the home, especially when she has a toddler and a baby is recognised by social services as a risk factor. It’s not neglect in itself, but it can lead to neglect or harm, and that’s what matters.
Professionals look at Pattern: multiple men, rapid turnover, Judgement: choosing partners known to be violent or criminal, Environment strangers around very young children and Impact: are the children safe, supervised, emotionally secure?

If the children’s basic needs are still being met, it’s not neglect. But the risk is high enough that a referral would be taken seriously.