Should I report this mum? Is it even reportable?

It can be when there is a feckless mother and a dodgy man involved. But do you really think SS can investigate every single instance of a new man moving into a household with children? What are the ‘legitimate’ concerns?

Encourage the mum to do a Claire's law on the latest partner.

Other than that there isn't a lot you can do.

As others have said it isn't a crime to have a partner or be crap at choosing partners

If the older one goes to school you could make the school aware of your concerns just so they can be on their radar (if they aren't already).

All the best.
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What a strange reply to a general query. Are you always this dramatic?

She doesnt sound like she making good choices
But if the children are cared for what would
Nothing would be done

Some of these replies! Christ! You don’t have to wait for a criminal act to be committed before you report to SS!!
The OP has very legitimate safeguarding concerns about these children and it’s a well known fact that new men being moved in to the home with young children is a HUGE red flag.
OP I work with children and you are absolutely right to be worried.
Safeguarding is everyone’s business and if you’re worried then please report to the local SS. They will also be privy to information you may not be and this may be a piece of puzzle of a much bigger and even more concerning picture.

You should. Women can be just as bad as men if not worse - they are the ones who bring monsters into their kids lives. 3 men already and the child is a toddler- she’d definitely on that track.

Also people you've known several years and you know all their friends.

Just to be clear - fine, upstanding pillar of the community men with money are just as capable of being predators or abusers or violent or substance addicted. Yes, a merry go round of boyfriends and getting pregnant nilly willy is rubbish, but that alone doesn’t make it reportable. Also, don’t call the police unless you know a crime has been committed.

Having children with different men is not against the law. Are the children healthy and clean? Well fed? Is the house clean and tidy?
Do you have reasonable suspicions that the children are being abused?
What would you be reporting? That she cant keep her legs shut?

I'm hoping I'm wrong, but I didn't read that post as being sarcastic...

And that’s awful. But open your eyes. There are tens of millions of women in this situation. You can’t report her for being a bit of a slapper with a penchant for scumbag men.

Sounds awful but report her for what? Having men round her house? Getting pregnant by different men?

You could speak to social services but if you have no proof that the children are in danger then I dont really know what they can do? Maybe do a welfare visit? But again without any proof ...

Sounds like Katie Price and
nobody seems bothered about her shit show of a life

The most shocking thing about this case was how many neighbours reported their concerns and the poor boy was still allowed to live there and ultimately be killed.

This is why I think report, report, report as the more reports they get, the more they’re (hopefully) likely to do something.

They could be prevented but there are no grounds to intervene until there are grounds.

SS can't just waltz in and take people's kids under these circumstances. That would be utter madness. They are barely able to deal with stuff that is frankly illegal let alone the ones that are being frowned up only.

You could do a Clare’s law disclosure. She would then be contacted by police if there is anything to share about this new man’s past. They would also then alert social care if necessary.

There’s nothing to report for.. she’s clearly a wrongen!

You can phone nspcc and get some advice.

It won't even touch the desk of a social worker in or the police. You are right to be worried but there is nothing that can be done. Maybe suggest to her that she does The Freedom Program.

Unrelated males in the home are statistically a much bigger threat than blood relatives.

If you can do it submit a Claire's law and Sarah's law request, that way if there is anything she will be told, and if it is something serious like child abuse etc it may also get passed on to social services that way.

Whilst all of that is true its irrelevant.
Social services wont care as having multiple partners over a couple of years isn't considered a risk unless you have evidence that the current 1 is abusing her or the kids.
The police wont care as its not a crime.

So do nothing but keep an eye out for any abuse

I agree with your view OP.

People only have the read the recent court case of Isabelle Rose Welsh. A 2 year old girl who was raped and murdered by her mums new boyfriend of 2 months.

Whilst I agree that this woman having a new man around her very young children is really irresponsible and selfish, unfortunately it’s not illegal and you can’t really report her to authorities. Unless you have concerns that her or the children are being subject to abuse.

OP, you could do a Clare's Law and Sarah's Law request for each partner (police will warn about a history of DV and of child abuse respectively).

It sounds like this is bringing a lot up for you, understandably. Therapy can help a lot.