AIBU to want Christmas in Thailand with our daughter?

Fly to thailand on xmas dsy or boxing dwy.

Go on your own. Sounds dreamy.

Go! But be aware flight costs to Thailand at Christmas are brutally expensive. Do the maths before you emotionally commit!

I agree with this. You can't go around saying "what if it's their last Christmas" no one knows when that is. My FIL died suddenly aged 65. Noone knew the previous Christmas would be the last. My dad's 94 so likely only a few left but Christmas is not how it was and seeing him any time is special.
Could you do a get together before you go to Thailand and facetime on Christmas day. After all DD1 is family too.

Go to Thailand, don't abuse anyone there. Problem solved

Yes I am aware of appalling things in this country and others.
It doesn’t mean I would proactively go to somewhere famous for it.
Thailand is a place I would not choose to go to.
I don’t find my view ridiculous at all. I feel angry about child abuse and angry at young men who go there to abuse women who are poor.

I would 100% go, I think it would be amazing! Is it just because he wants to see his parents in the evening? Because surely you could still just do this a couple of days or so before?

How was the weather?

However, I'd probably be looking at flight prices and if it was a lot cheaper to fly just after Xmas, or even on Xmas Day, then I'd probably do that. I think that Xmas in Thailand will be so different that it won't really matter whether you are actually there for "the day" or not.

PS I couldn’t care less if I never have another traditional British dingy dark Christmas in all my days. I had them for 4 decades and I’ve had enough. We’ve been to the sun every year since covid and it’s absolutely wonderful celebrating in the sunshine.

I’ll go if you don’t OP 😂

Just got back from Thailand this morning. Such a fabulous country.

How ridiculous of the PP what talked about kiddie fiddling etc preventing them from going there. Have you been oblivious to the grooming rings in the UK? And believe me, just because you don’t hear about it in such a blatant way, there are some horrible things going on behind closed doors in Singapore.
Having not gone to Thailand one year for Christmas because my DF said it might be my grandfather’s last Christmas, it wasn’t, and I later found out I missed out on a life-changing experience. I would be working on DH to get him to see that.

Personally I'm a bit of a sticker for my traditional British Christmas. However, if you want to go and DDs are keen then I can absolutely understand why you would.

Of course, the parents are a concern, but it sounds as if you don't see very much of them at Christmas anyway. Will any other family members see them?

Well no. Because I would not want to go. There are other places I would choose to spend my money.
And there is a lot that is not wonderful about it. But too many turn a blind eye to child abuse and prostitution of children and women. For which it is well known.

Past 2 years have shown us what a joy it can be to be outside the UK

Go to Thailand!
I never want to have a cold dark Christmas ever again, waking up on Xmas morning and putting shorts and flip flops on is fantastic

We really love the food! Lots of rice, fresh fish, noodles and delicious flavours. My little girl loves the Chicken Satay.

Are you ad DH both only children? Doesn't sound like either set of parents are on their own. Meet up with them before Christmas and then fly out. Do they have the technology to be able to do video call some time on Christmas Day?

What’s the cost? Is it something you as a family can easily afford?

Three women want to go. One man says no.

This, and what @zurigo says. It's lovely that your DD wants to welcome you to her new part of the world. It is interesting that DH says "Christmas is a family time", without factoring DD1 and her husband into that (or your and DD2's preferences). Is it less about "Christmas is family" and more about "Christmas is family - but on my terms only"?

I think you should go. You can socialise with the older relatives beforehand this year. If it's a complete disaster (I'm sure it won't be), you can always decline to do it again in future, secure in the knowledge that you gave it a fair go.

I would point out to dh that dd1 is also family and will be on her own with her husband

I would be telling him that you and dd2 will be going and he can choose to come or stay it’s up to him

I spent Christmas Day last year with my eldest son in Cornwall. Due to the nature of his job, he only had Christmas Day off work. It was brilliant and will always stand out in my mind for being different, and so fun. My boyfriend went to his parents house and my youngest child spent the day with his dad and my exIL's. So everyone was happy and we all FaceTimed on Christmas Day.

Just for it, what an adventure! If your husband wants to miss out, so be it.

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go for it!