AIBU to tell my cousin to throw her son out?

He's 18, I can't imagine he's got many friends who have their own places and a sofa waiting for him.

Is there a YMCA hostel or similar set locally up that he could move into? This might require a referral from the council housing department.

Moving out might be the shock he needs to get his life back on track

They can summons her to court to give evidence, if she doesn’t attend a warrant WILL be issued for her whether she’s a victim or not. I would honestly be shocked if they don’t prosecute given the mother had her nose broken. Due to a bone being broken he could be charged with sec18/20 gbh (with/without intent)

I'm not meaning to be nippy but in Scotland. it's the Procurator Fiscal.

Yanbu at all!

But she wont listen

Oh ok fair enough.

He can go and live with his awful father. Your cousin has done her best but she needs to press charges and keep herself (and other women) safe.

I think she should ask the police for a restraining order.

The line has been well and truly crossed. Of course she needs to press charges and get advice on how to keep safe.

Her life is potentially in danger. For me it would depend a good deal on his attitude from here on in and whether he acknowledges seriousness of what he has done.

I’m a mother and I can’t imagine what I’d do. Putting him in the streets doesn’t help, I agree, but what’s the cost to her if she allow’s him to remain in her house?. Maybe he should go and live with his father if this is how he wants to behave.

What happens next time he flies into a rage?.

His Mum has a right to be safe in her own home.

I hope this arrest and custody give him a wake up call OP, has he done this before?. I really feel for your cousin, leaving a horrible husband to now have this from her son. I hope she gets the support she needs

Please help your cousin arrange for the locks to be changed and contact any local domestic abuse services. They will be able to help her with advice on her situation and on any security measures she should take to protect herself. Good luck to her.

God love her that's terrifying. My ASD/ADHD 8 yr old can be violent, only to me really and we're working on it so much but I live in fear of this being him as an adult. Her heart will be broken more than anything else.

Can you take her in for a few days? Or can someone? She shouldn't be alone in her home where this happened.

How old are your children?

Have any of them ever attacked you?

Her first concern should be her own life. (The whole put your oxygen mask on first, to be able to help others thing.)

He isn't safe to be living with her. She needs to change the locks and not let him back in. She was right to call the police. Hopefully this will all be the short, sharp shock he needs.

Imagine your own child breaking your nose and pulling out your hair! I've had issues with my adult DC in my time, but this is horrific.

It’s not up to her if charges are brought. That’s the CPS’s job.
She’s simply a witness and required to provide evidence if there’s a prosecution.

If she refuses to give evidence she can be prosecuted so tell her she needs to follow this through.

The entire legal system in Scotland is different from England

It's not different when it comes to the woman's safety is it though? Which is the most important thing.

In the U.K., victims cannot press or drop charges it's an American thing. The decision to prosecute lays with the CPS.

she should engage with support change her locks and throw the nasty bastard out. No woman should live with this

Let him to continue to live with her and beat her to a pulp or worse.

Who? OP?

Yes. I know. My mistake.

This "frontal lobe isn't fully developed" BS that gets quoted to death on MN has long been scientifcally debunked as a excuse for not being responsible for your actions and/or abusive, violent behaviour.

It’ll help the mother not to be attacked again. itll help the mother to feel safe in her own home again. It’ll help the OP reduce the worry she feels for her relative.