To find this view re autism frustrating

If you look at the responses to Barbie Doll with autism, many parents and professionals are frustrated. A friend with a non-verbal AuDHD son who needs to wear nappies at 8 and will never be able to attend mainstream school is really angry about the number of people who have been diagnosed with AuDHD recently, saying they when they were at school in the 90s/00s, not one of them would have been called autistic, and they can live lives her son never will.
Professor Uta Smith has concerns about how the term is used now, so it's worth reading about that too.
Apart from the "gift" trope, the idea that because one person with autism knows it's not appropriate to do/say something, all people with autism should be able to manage is quite prevalent.

I am autistic, and though I have a great many rare and unusual skills that many people are envious of, my life is very hard. I am currently trying to find work and I get interviewed but I don't get hired.

I just seem to alienate some people yet make deep friendships with many others. I don't understand social interactions or the proper things to say and the proper way to behave. It is very hard.

DD has autism. We refer to it as a gift because DD does. Intellectually she is in the top 0.5% of the country. It can be debilitating. Some days are a struggle. We build in techniques to deal with those days.

What we call it and how we deal with it is a matter for her and her close family / friends / whomever else she chooses.

Telling her she can't manage it in her own way and own it how she wants to is as bad as saying it's over diagnosed / everyone has traits yada yada.

The whole “gift” or “superpower” crap really annoys me.

DS encyclopaedic knowledge of trains and railways doesn’t come close to overriding his day to day struggles.

Gosh no I have an autistic 11 year old here and a NT 14 year old… 11 year old could do so much more if they weren’t autistic so capable but limited capacity due to being autistic - we support in all ways we can, co-regulating is exhausting for parents and for siblings too. It’s not an easy life.

I agree with you OP.
I'm Autistic. I have a high IQ. But my whole life I've felt like an alien from outer space.
I certainly don't see my Autism as a gift.

DS1 is now 28 & autistic. He is highly intelligent and, as an adult, works in a job which suits his skills.

His school years were an absolute freaking nightmare. I don’t think either of us would call it a “gift” although he is now totally comfortable with who he is & what his limitations are socially.

Einstein did not have autism.

it’s not a gift. Or a superpower.