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Not sure what to think of this photo caption

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Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:23

A male colleague has posted a photo of his wife and their 4 young kids (all under 8 or so) he's put '4 kids, and she's still got a great figure!' Maybe I'm reading into too much but I find it a bit off?

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BauhausOfEliott · 04/08/2026 18:45

Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:24

Almost implying most women would look like trash after 4 kids?

No, you’re reading too much into it.

It’s a rather crass comment to make on social media but it’s not attacking any other women.

pizzaHeart · 04/08/2026 18:45

Imicola · 04/08/2026 17:27

Work forum - inappropriate, call it out. Personal/ social media - gross but ignore

This ^

Rumpledandcrumpled · 04/08/2026 18:44

Comeonelieen · 04/08/2026 18:32

Well it shows what his priorities are I guess.

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Why you think it means his marriage is simokh about her body, there is no love, no cooarenting, no shared values, just this. Bit of a leap, no?

MyLimeGuide · 04/08/2026 18:43

Its a bit pathetic to post this on social media IMO. Does he want people to comment on his post about how hot is wife is??

Rumpledandcrumpled · 04/08/2026 18:43

MrsOni · 04/08/2026 18:40

It is chauvinistic. What a twat.

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Don’t be daft it’s not chauvinistic. A woman can post her husband has a great body. He’s simply saying after the trauma of growing and birthing 4 kids she still looks great, I’d say that to a female friend, and I’m a woman.

Sartre · 04/08/2026 18:42

This is giving Jamie Laing vibes. Didn’t he come under immense fire for posting pics of his wife a few weeks postpartum skinny as a rake with a similar caption? Definitely something about her figure. I think it’s a bit crass, yes but I wouldn’t feel offended.

Rumpledandcrumpled · 04/08/2026 18:42

It’s complimentary , and it doesn’t mean that’s all he compliments about her. I think it’s her place to decide if it’s ok or not. Not yours or anyone else’s.

i can’t see why you’re taking issue, do you like him?

MrsOni · 04/08/2026 18:40

Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:36

Not triggered anything, I don't have kids. Just found it a bit chauvinistic.

It is chauvinistic. What a twat.

JHound · 04/08/2026 18:34

I would find it weird as I find it really weird when men brag about their wives bodies like this (seems very shallow - like their priorities are her looks).

But not my circus, not my monkeys.

Comeonelieen · 04/08/2026 18:32

Well it shows what his priorities are I guess.

5128gap · 04/08/2026 18:24

Well if I was his wife I'd be cringing myself inside out at him making a show of me in such a smug, reductive manner. Because one, I don't go in for public boasting. Two, I don't think your partners figure is something to boast about. Three I'd rather be praised for something that mattered.
However, not all women agree. If this pleased her then it would be nothing to do with me or my life.

VestibuleWeaver · 04/08/2026 18:06

MyArtfulGreySloth · 04/08/2026 18:01

I’d find that weird. If that was my partner I’d ask him why he’s put that. It’s unnecessary and would make me uncomfortable. Maybe a post about him saying he’s 45 and still got most of his hair.

Hair loss is not something men can prevent, so it's hardly the same thing.

Bikergran · 04/08/2026 18:06

Most women don't recover their original body shape after kids. Either his wife is very lucky or she's worked really hard to get back in shape. I think he's complimenting her, making a nice remark. I realise this will bring a lot of self-righteous MN indignation down on me, but that's my gut feeling.

notacooldad · 04/08/2026 18:05

To me it implies that producing children and her body are the only things he values her for.
That's not my take. He sounds proud of her.

MyArtfulGreySloth · 04/08/2026 18:01

I’d find that weird. If that was my partner I’d ask him why he’s put that. It’s unnecessary and would make me uncomfortable. Maybe a post about him saying he’s 45 and still got most of his hair.

DressOrSkirt · 04/08/2026 18:01

Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:24

Almost implying most women would look like trash after 4 kids?

I think his comment is grim and he should be proud of his wife however she looks. I wouldn't read it as a comment on other women though.

distinctpossibility · 04/08/2026 18:00

I think the specificity of the "great figure" is what's a bit jarring, I think saying "still gorgeous" or "still beautiful" would have been sweet but referring directly to weight is a bit off. However, it might be something she is self conscious about and he is trying to give her a boost!

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/08/2026 17:56

Fucking hell, God forbid a man praising his wife for looking good!

Pleasedontdoitagain · 04/08/2026 17:53

VestibuleWeaver · 04/08/2026 17:43

It implies no such thing.

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Perhaps you missed the To me at the beginning of my sentence? That is how is comes over to me, I.e. imo.
You are of course entitked to your own opinion but your opinion doesn't make mine wrong.

PoesieAndPeaches · 04/08/2026 17:48

He adores his wife and still fancies her.

No reason for anyone to be outraged at this at all.

rumred · 04/08/2026 17:47

She's being complimented for her looks, it's reductive and insulting but that's what humans do. God forbid she put weight on.

VestibuleWeaver · 04/08/2026 17:43

Pleasedontdoitagain · 04/08/2026 17:42

Well I agree with you OP.
To me it implies that producing children and her body are the only things he values her for.

It implies no such thing.

LauritaEvita · 04/08/2026 17:42

He’s gushing about the woman he’s married to and the mother of his 4 kids as he thinks she’s gorgeous. Good for them.

Pleasedontdoitagain · 04/08/2026 17:42

Well I agree with you OP.
To me it implies that producing children and her body are the only things he values her for.

Freshstartyear25 · 04/08/2026 17:41

Maybe he feels she still has a great figure after 4 kids so he’s speaking factually.
Not something I’ll appreciate and not something my husband will ever do but they know each other better and I guess if she’s not happy, she’ll tell him.
Saying he’s implying something is just sounding like you’re triggered by it