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To have walked out of the restaurant

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watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:08

I had been at a play area with my kids and when we went to sit down it was a booth. My kids immediately started bickering about who’s food was whose and which drink belonged to who and I’m trying to get them to just shuffle down a bit so I can sit down. They weren’t listening to me at all. Eventually I was going to blow and stepped outside.

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DelphiniumBlue · 04/08/2026 14:24

I don't blame you at all, I cannot understand why people actually pay to take children out to a restaurant and then have their meal ruined. Total waste of money until they are old enough to sit still and behave politely. They don't enjoy it either.

Needmorelego · 04/08/2026 14:22

@watchthetv did you go back in?
I hope you got some food for yourself.
I had a few times of ending up sat by myself on the other side of McDonald's because my daughter was being a pain in the arse (before people ask....left with her Dad/Auntie/Granny).
It actually usually did the trick.
Afterwards I often got a "I missed you Mama" 🙂

hellisemptyandallthedevilsarehere · 04/08/2026 14:22

Okay. YANBU to have a time out. But it should not get to this stage.

If your kids can’t behave, they don’t eat out. Or kiss desert etc. You need to work on your parenting skills, to stop these situations getting this far. (I very much know how hard it is. I’ve no parental support, we don’t eat out and the kids have fought a lot. They’re in training to be sociable adults.)

Your husband needs to be parenting right there alongside you. He needs to be responsible for defusing the stout as much as you. Your kids just ruined lunch for at least 4 adults.

Rothburypixie · 04/08/2026 14:20

You left them with dad and PIL, not really an issue tbh. Kids are arseholes sometimes no matter how well they have been brought up, but I imagine all the MN mummies of the year will tell you different 😉

MyArtfulGreySloth · 04/08/2026 14:20

theneighboureatmysalad · 04/08/2026 14:16

you are the one trying to make yourself interesting

How is anyone supposed to know who you childishly left them with? You could have been with friends, having to deal with their own kids, how are we supposed to guess?

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Why are you being such a knob here? Op left them with their dad ffs.

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watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:19

To be fair everyone was telling them to move but they just were so focused on arguing that anyone else’s voice was unheard. Mine are the best argument I’ve ever seen for only children.

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JoshLymanSwagger · 04/08/2026 14:18

Jellycatspyjamas · 04/08/2026 14:17

I’d have expected dad to wade in and the grandparents to help diffuse things. It shouldn’t be left to one adult to wrangle the kids while the other 3 presumably settled themselves with food etc.

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^This.

You haven't done anything wrong leaving them with their DAD and Grandparents.

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watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:18

theneighboureatmysalad · 04/08/2026 14:16

you are the one trying to make yourself interesting

How is anyone supposed to know who you childishly left them with? You could have been with friends, having to deal with their own kids, how are we supposed to guess?

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I answered that I hadn’t left them alone and I have clarified they were with family.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 04/08/2026 14:17

watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:14

Well, it wasn’t King Charles and Camilla was it Confused yes, their dad and PIL

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I’d have expected dad to wade in and the grandparents to help diffuse things. It shouldn’t be left to one adult to wrangle the kids while the other 3 presumably settled themselves with food etc.

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watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:16

If I’d physically removed then I’d have knocked all the drinks etc over (not much room!) I hate the way ordinary stuff with kids turns into misery.

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theneighboureatmysalad · 04/08/2026 14:16

watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:14

Well, it wasn’t King Charles and Camilla was it Confused yes, their dad and PIL

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you are the one trying to make yourself interesting

How is anyone supposed to know who you childishly left them with? You could have been with friends, having to deal with their own kids, how are we supposed to guess?

Jellycatspyjamas · 04/08/2026 14:15

Yep, I get it. The only way is divide and conquer - one on either side of you or on opposite sides of the table. Apologise for blocking the aisle and physically remove the one closest to you. Did the other adults not try to help?

theneighboureatmysalad · 04/08/2026 14:15

LizzieSiddal · 04/08/2026 14:13

Flowers we all reach boiling point at some stage. You left them with three other adults so they were safe. I’d calm down then go back in, ask them to budge up and I expect they will this time!

If you teach a 3yo that ignoring mum when she tells you to do something, so she will leave and you can keep ignoring her, I am not sure you will be happy with the long-term results

JoshLymanSwagger · 04/08/2026 14:15

3 adults v 2 kids.

No problem.

As long as the kids didn't wander off into the woods and make rudimentary bows and arrows and hunt the wildlife. 🤷🏻‍♀️

🍷💐

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watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:14

Tryagain26 · 04/08/2026 14:13

Alk kids behave like that sometimes especially siblings that age.
You just take a deep breath and stay calm.

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I hope so, all the other kids in the restaurant seemed well behaved.

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watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:14

theneighboureatmysalad · 04/08/2026 14:13

but WHO did you leave them with?
Their dad? fine

who were the 3 adults?

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Well, it wasn’t King Charles and Camilla was it Confused yes, their dad and PIL

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Tryagain26 · 04/08/2026 14:13

watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:12

I Can only dream of a nanny. I was trying very hard to parent them but it is very difficult when they don’t listen to a blessed word you say.

Alk kids behave like that sometimes especially siblings that age.
You just take a deep breath and stay calm.

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watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:13

Jellycatspyjamas · 04/08/2026 14:12

At that age I’d have sorted their food and drink placed where I wanted them to sit. What made it really difficult for you? What were the other adults doing to help?

To be fair, it shouldn’t have been hard. It was a booth so they just had to go in and sit down but then they started fighting kind of at the top of the booth so I couldn’t get in at all and I was stood like an idiot blocking the aisle.

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theneighboureatmysalad · 04/08/2026 14:13

watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:12

I Can only dream of a nanny. I was trying very hard to parent them but it is very difficult when they don’t listen to a blessed word you say.

but WHO did you leave them with?
Their dad? fine

who were the 3 adults?

LizzieSiddal · 04/08/2026 14:13

Flowers we all reach boiling point at some stage. You left them with three other adults so they were safe. I’d calm down then go back in, ask them to budge up and I expect they will this time!

theneighboureatmysalad · 04/08/2026 14:12

watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:10

They are 5 and 3.

if you can't behave like an adult here, what makes you think they can?
Why do you expect a 3 and a 5 yo to be more grown-up than you are?

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watchthetv · 04/08/2026 14:12

I Can only dream of a nanny. I was trying very hard to parent them but it is very difficult when they don’t listen to a blessed word you say.

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Jellycatspyjamas · 04/08/2026 14:12

At that age I’d have sorted their food and drink placed where I wanted them to sit. What made it really difficult for you? What were the other adults doing to help?

Needmorelego · 04/08/2026 14:12

Been there. Done that.
Take a deep breath.
All will be fine.
💐🙂

theneighboureatmysalad · 04/08/2026 14:11

How old are they?

You are the parent, literally your job to manage them and give the manners, unless you left them with their dad?

Or the nanny, if you have a nanny with you, then ok