To have walked out of the restaurant

So please clarify, did you storm off and leave your children to be looked after by people who are not responsible for them?

Exactly this.

why would anyone give the OP a hard time about this? honestly some people on this site are awful

So what was your DH doing when all this was going on. Isn't he capable of wrangling his own kids? He should have got involved so that you didn't have to leave.

You know Nannies don't just exist in Mary Poppins, it's an actual job, in real life? From Norland to a childminder offering a one-to-one care(so being a nanny), they are a thing?

Why, do you think every mum on MN is a SAHM and nannies don't exist? looking at the abuse SAHM generally get on here, that's unlikely 😂

Yes.
And?
Maybe read my earlier posts?

Er no the PP is being questioned on whether she flounced off leaving people who are not the children’s parents to look after her squabbling kids

Did you go off and leave your children to be dealt with by other people?

I can't see anything wrong with taking a breather at all.

You do need to get a grip on them-not listening to more than one adullt telling them to do something is not something you want to encourage or even ignore.

My mother used to say "I'll put manners on you!" and by fair means and foul she did.
Thank goodness she did, as having manners and all that is associated with that was a wonderful gift to give to me-even if the acquiring of it wasn't always great.

It has made my life so much easier in the real world: to make sure that your children are well mannered, have an easy manner and are respectful is a gift that you can only give them in childhood but one which will bear much fruit as they progress through life.

It was hopefully a one off.

The Op was obviously struggling, walking away was ok, she was leaving the kids with their dad!!

I don't think that you have done anything wrong. Your pil and dh sound a bit useless. Surely one of them reached for them and moved them gently.

Anyway hopefully you have given them a little shock and they might behave a bit better.

I hear you OP. YANBU. I went through a phase with my two where I just wouldn’t take them to cafes or supermarkets. They didn’t really bicker but they used to just get all giddy with excitement- too loud and too energetic etc and I just found it too stressful trying to take them to that kind of place so I stopped. It was a pretty short-lived phase and eventually we were able to get back to that sort of normality. Hang in there OP. Small kids are lovely but often extremely annoying 😂

'The Nanny'. Peak Mumsnet.

Did it really not occur to you that the OP might not have been the only parent present?

OP, you're getting some really shitty responses from very smug people here. You were obviously having a really stressful day and were at the end of your tether, as most parents of small children are at some point, and your children were with their dad and grandparents so were totally safe. You stepped outside and took a few deep breaths rather than losing your temper which is a completely healthy and sensible thing to. You've done nothing wrong at all.

Is someone IRL making it seem you are being unreasonable?
Is that why you are asking here?

Did you post this when you were annoyed, hence not explaining fully?

You're getting grief because it's like a drip feed, if you'd said my children 5 and 3 were squabbling and driving me to distraction trying to sit them in a booth for lunch, so I left them with their father and grandparents while I took 5 minutes outside. You would've got very different responses

Not sure what the issue is is ? Presumably the other adults you left them with are familiar and competent trustworthy adult's ?

have a fag , gin and tonic , deep breath and go back in

don't be do hard on yourself

You p and il sounds bloody useless if you were the only one wrangling the kids.
The kids were obviously in charge of the table.

Read the whole comment. Her DH 100% needs to be parenting alongside her. I put responsibility on him equally.

I guess the bu is to whether you mentioned/ said it or just left them in the chaos. Grand to say everyone needs time out but we’ve had big family days out where eg mum and dad of other kids felt they needed a break and walked off/ left or my own dh just stepped away/ walked off and then you’re left in the chaos and it’s not fun!!!

people judging this are insane their literal dad was there. Op dad should have had one kid and you have the other. You got overwhelmed new you might snap but did the adult thing and walked away that’s a good role model!

we model to our child that if you are starting to overreact, you take yourself away to calm down. As a parent, you can’t always do this, but if another parent is available, it is often the best solution. Step away, take a moment or ten, and come back fresh.

we are a multi-generational ASD family so this is how we teach managing meltdowns. We recognize our emotions and deal with them proactively. there are more advanced techniques as the child gets older, but this is the most effective at all ages anyway.

Not really sure what the issue is. The children were safe with family and you took time out for a breather to calm down which you needed.

You needed a minute so you stepped away.
That's a good thing.
I had to do it many times when mine were young, just to take a deep breath and give myself a shake.

We all make piss poor decisions sometimes when under pressure. Never underestimate the stress young children can cause (or older ones at times). You’re entitled to snap every once in a while and need to walk away for your own sanity because you’re human. They were safe with other adults.

The Op did make it sound like you had left them alone and if you didn’t why even bother posting a thread