Do you have a best friend?

I have a friend Ive known 15 years who lives about 4 hours away who I consider my best friend. We chat intermittently on messenger every day. Shes my LPA person alongside dh and dd.
I also have a 2nd in command best friend who also lives 4 hours away.
I'm late 60s...they are late 50s.

I have a group of 6 very close friends and a few others. Out of the 6 i would say two are my best friends. One i met at school and one ive been friends with since i was 19 and im now 47.

Im not in the pockets of any of my friends we dont message constantly or have group chats unless organising things, sometimes it’s a while before i physically catch up but are always there for each other.

No. Like @minimuffs2651 i have some really really good friends but not one ‘best and always’. I think it’s probably a quirk of mine tbh and I am apt to have slightly asymmetric friendships where I would like to be closer than they would or vice versa - I’m currently working that one out in therapy.

In general I am ok with not having a single best friend. The friends I do have are absolutely beyond wonderful.

I am lucky enough to have close friends who I have shared everything with for the past 45 years.

It has made a huge difference to my life, knowing they are there in the background if I should need help, especially since I became a single parent.

However, I wouldn’t single out one of them as a “best friend”.

I did have but it turns out that I thought she was a best friend but she didn't put as much store on it. I have decided to stick with the close friends that I have and not worry about the whole best friend thing.

Yes, my sister

Not anymore.

Two long term best friends that have known for 45 years. Always kept in touch. We do live very local but all work different shifts so don't always see each other but talk alot on whattapps and one particular on phone. Feel like they are sisters really. Do have quite a few other friends too in different groups mainly met through work over the years and work at a very large place now and friends though there. Don't really socialise with these work friends as distance outside work but meet lunch chat on teams etc. I am a but of a home bird now. Would say though probably one of my work friends chat more re every day life because connected more each day.

Yes, one specific best friend, friends for 45yrs. Other close friends and lots of other friends. I am fortunate to have a lot of friends.

I did, but her funeral was yesterday.... Feeling heartbroken.

My best friend sadly died in a road traffic accident when she was 39.
I was lucky enough to meet another best friend when we were both in hospital.
Sadly she died suddenly.
I miss them so much.

Yes, two - one female, one male.

Well, if you're jealous, why don't you make a concentrated effort to seek out possible friends?

I have two very close best friends who I could share anything with, ring at 3 am if I was in trouble, and who I trust with my life. I’ve known them both for about 40 years. I also counted my mum as a best friend too when she was alive. Ive got a couple of other good friends, but we’re not as close as I am with the other two.

Yes. The position of best friend was filled in September 2004 when she didn’t snitch on me for going into the PE shed at break time. It was our first week of school and we’ve been friends ever since. Got into a world of trouble over the years. I went to Scotland for uni and she worked, she would come up on weekends and holidays and moved here a couple of years ago.

I already have a sister, so I won’t say she’s “like a sister to me” because I like her way more than my sister. She is my soulmate and I am very very lucky to have such an amazing best friend. Also shout out to my husband - he isn’t my best friend (like I said, position filled) but he’s an alright second.

Nope. I’m 38 and would love some genuine friends. I feel quite lonely really.

No I've never had a best friend as an adult. I don't particularly want one tbh. I don't know when I'd find time to socialise with them, my life is about family, work, and sports. I have acquaintances that slot into my days because I see them at work or sports or doing stuff with dcs. But I wouldn't want to try to make time to meet up with someone when I wasn't going to be somewhere already. I'd find the emotional burden of proper friendship a bit of a drag as well. I just hang out with people when it's convenient but I've never stayed in contact with people from school, uni or work, once I've left it. My emotional bonds are with DH and my family, I see myself as part of a single unit with them.

No, but sometimes wish I did. In fact I sort of crave a person like me, like a twin or something. I have nice sisters who I am close to now.
I had best friends when I was younger but found that when they got older they always wanted favours that weren't reciprocated

I have a group of amazing women as friends. Best friends would be my friend from secondary school - we met on day 1 and were sat next to each other. A university friend who married a relative. A work friend. A 'mum' friend.
I have lots of other close friends and cousins. I am really lucky in that I am surrounded by strong, supportive and sincere women (and a couple of men).

Yes I have 2. One now lives on the other side of the world to me and we’re not as close as we once were obviously. We went through college, early adulthood and having our babies together and are always there for each other. I’ve known my second best friend for about 10 years now, our eldest kids started preschool together and we became close. We share absolutely everything and just totally ‘get’ each other. I can’t imagine not having her in my life.

I’ve always been one for a small amount of close friends, I’m not one for wild nights out and far prefer lunches and coffees out than night time drinking. As well as my best friend I probably just have one or 2 other friends tbh. I’m absolutely fine with that, I went through a stage of wondering if I was odd to not be more social but I’m totally fine with it now. I have my partner and kids and a couple of friends and I couldn’t be happier 🙂.

Oh that’s hard, @Enigma54. Are you still in the same geographical place?

Some ‘friends’ are so crap with illnesses and I’ve never worked out what their issue is. It’s not like I want them to become my nursemaid or anything.

My main problem with friends has been us all moving round the world for jobs / careers and relationships. I’m not an enthusiastic zoomer or emailer.

Yes 1 best friend. Few other friends but we are not as close.

I think I have a friend I’m closest with. I’m fonder of her than anyone else and I really care for her. She’s a bit of an oddball and can be very awkward in groups but she is genuine and very caring. She is also great fun. On paper, one or the other of my other close friends should be my ‘best’ friend but there is just something about my oddball friend that makes me feel close to her. I’m sure she thinks the same but neither of us would talk about ‘best friends’ as it’s a silly concept.

No, I have a couple of very long term friends since childhood but they are not friends with eachother. I have a few friends I've met through my kids, some wuite good friends but I dont have a best friend group to go out with or on holiday with etc

Yes.

Friends since we were 14 (now 57) We are like chalk & cheese.

She is my absolute rock.

I have a couple of other very close friends too. but I am one on one friends with them individually they're not all friends as a group..

what I don't have and have never had is a gaggle of girlfriends who go out together.

I'm sorry, you don't have a best friend x

Some people on MN say it's childish or pathetic to have a best friend as an adult. I don't give one flying fuck for their opinion..

I'd clone my best friend and give it to you if I could x

One of my closest friends I met when I was 52, in the hospital! So don't give up hope xx

I did have. Best friend since school so over 40 years now.

but we are no longer best friends so I’m now all alone and friendless. No idea how to make any more.